Dating someone - how would you deal with this situation?

Georgiegirl256

Saturnalia wrote: »

He could take his next date for a romantic trip to the flu jab clinic.:

This amused me! :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

paulineb wrote: »

I was called out by you on two threads, personal comments were made to me both times and on one you referred to me as the ugliest person on MSE.

Ah! I remember him now. I thought that was really rude when he said that.

Jenny484

I have very extensive dating experience (not by choice :-P)

Have you been to her house? If not, I would think her unavaiability may mean that she is in some sort of relationship already.

One can always text. It takes 2 seconds to send a text. Move on.

PeacefulWaters

19lottie82 wrote: »

Men can be just as bad, if not worse imo.

I've never been in a similar position with a man.

balletshoes

LiveOnce wrote: »

Hi guys,

If you are seeing this girl, and propose to make some plans let's say to see them on the weekend.

You discuss via text about meeting each other on Saturday morning and she replies and says she's available Sunday eve. You reply back saying Sunday eve is good but she doesn't text back to confirm the whole of Saturday, and the whole of Sunday, and only messages you on Monday to say she had 'flu'.

What would you do?

Considering two weeks before she also said she had 'flu', and overslept for another meet before (we both went out the night before, I was able to wake up). I gave her the benefit of doubt these two times because naturally sometimes these things happen but I am interested in hearing what you would do about the above.

I thought a normal person would have at least texted to say they are ill and can't make it even if they had flu. It's not like its a debilitating virus, people seem to be addicted to their phone these days so I doubt anyone can go a day without seeing their phone.

We do click together but it seemed a little rude to me and I felt like it disrespected my time. I like her but it also makes me not want to see her anymore.

erm - phone her to make plans/chase them up, instead of relying on texts?

giantmutantbroccoli

The funny thing is, my ex could probably have written both of those threads. He never, ever realised that there was a direct correlation between the way he treated me, and the way I treated him. Unlike normal people who communicate via whatever means is convenient at the time, he only "spoke" via texts and facebook messages. If I didn't reply, he'd just leave the conversation hanging for days, even if the message he'd sent me was one that I didn't think needed a reply, like the OP's "Sunday is good".

OP assuming this is a real, ongoing problem and you're not my ex either phone her up, or stop dating her. And next time you don't get a reply to a text, pick up the phone instead of sitting there quietly stewing about how rude the other person is being. You saved up all that impotent frustration for several days when you could have just made a quick call. Why?

paulineb_2

Meeting two people within the space of 11 weeks who cancel dates in the same way is highly unlikely.

Either the op has gone back to the same girl in which case this shouldn't be a surprise.

Or it's just a !!!! taking troll thread to waste people's time. Given that a thread entitled how long does the average sex session last was posted by the op and then removed from the boards I know which way I'd call it.

Bored. Trolling. Wasting people's time.

*max*

Trolls are getting lazy these days. Recycling an old thread word for word is a new one!


Unless OP is living the same thing over and over...Groundhog date!

ska_lover

LiveOnce wrote: »

Hi guys,

If you are seeing this girl, and propose to make some plans let's say to see them on the weekend.

You discuss via text about meeting each other on Saturday morning and she replies and says she's available Sunday eve. You reply back saying Sunday eve is good but she doesn't text back to confirm the whole of Saturday, and the whole of Sunday, and only messages you on Monday to say she had 'flu'.

What would you do?

Considering two weeks before she also said she had 'flu', and overslept for another meet before (we both went out the night before, I was able to wake up). I gave her the benefit of doubt these two times because naturally sometimes these things happen but I am interested in hearing what you would do about the above.

I thought a normal person would have at least texted to say they are ill and can't make it even if they had flu. It's not like its a debilitating virus, people seem to be addicted to their phone these days so I doubt anyone can go a day without seeing their phone.

We do click together but it seemed a little rude to me and I felt like it disrespected my time. I like her but it also makes me not want to see her anymore.

She just isn't that into you. It is as simple as that.

If she was into you, she would be communicating, and not messing you about .

Stop bothering with her

Taadaa

At least you haven't wasted an obscene amount on roses.