Dating someone - how would you deal with this situation?

LiveOnce

Hi guys,

If you are seeing this girl, and propose to make some plans let's say to see them on the weekend.

You discuss via text about meeting each other on Saturday morning and she replies and says she's available Sunday eve. You reply back saying Sunday eve is good but she doesn't text back to confirm the whole of Saturday, and the whole of Sunday, and only messages you on Monday to say she had 'flu'.

What would you do?

Considering two weeks before she also said she had 'flu', and overslept for another meet before (we both went out the night before, I was able to wake up). I gave her the benefit of doubt these two times because naturally sometimes these things happen but I am interested in hearing what you would do about the above.

I thought a normal person would have at least texted to say they are ill and can't make it even if they had flu. It's not like its a debilitating virus, people seem to be addicted to their phone these days so I doubt anyone can go a day without seeing their phone.

We do click together but it seemed a little rude to me and I felt like it disrespected my time. I like her but it also makes me not want to see her anymore.

kronenbourg

typical woman that

i wouldnt bother

simple as that

Voiren

Leave it to her to organise the next date - if nothing happens, well...

Prothet_of_Doom

1) I wouldn't arrange anything by text. Or email. If you are on the phone, people are forced to reply, and you can get some 'tone'.

2) I'd arrange to come to her house, that way she can't stand you up.

3) I'd suggest she sees a doctor about her recurring flu. Suggests to me she might have ME (Chronic Fatigue, aka Yuppie Flu) (Google Action for ME)

Pollycat

How long have you been going out together?
How serious is the relationship?
Do you think you are more keen than she is?

I would think it pretty rude that you have an informal arrangement (it sounds from your post that you hadn't got as far as making firm arrangements re place & time but I may be wrong) to see someone on a certain day but they didn't text in advance to say they were going to let you down.

Gloomendoom

Texting? I don't get it.

Why not just pick up the phone and speak to each other?

19lottie82

What do you mean by "dating"?

It does sound kind of rude tbh, and sorry to say, but doesn't sound too hopeful.

If you really like her I would leave the ball in her court, text something like "that's a shame, give me a bell if you want to meet up when you're feeling better", and leave it at that.

LiveOnce

Pollycat you're right I didn't have a concrete agreement but I was in the process of making one so I texted her.

She seemed to check Facebook quite often but never really replied to my message which I thought was a little harsh.

We've been seeing each other for a month and kissed a few times and always text each other (we both travel a lot on business) so there seemed to be interest there.

downshifted

She's just not that into you.............

Pollycat

LiveOnce wrote: »

Pollycat you're right I didn't have a concrete agreement but I was in the process of making one so I texted her.

She seemed to check Facebook quite often but never really replied to my message which I thought was a little harsh.

We've been seeing each other for a month and kissed a few times and always text each other (we both travel a lot on business) so there seemed to be interest there.

Either she is pretty rude and disrespectful or she is just 'not that into you'.

If she can spend time checking Facebook (I assume you mean she was doing this the Saturday & Sunday before your informal agreement to meet on Sunday evening) but can't be bothered to contact you to let you know your date is off, I'd be rapidly coming to the conclusion that she feels this relationship isn't that serious to her.

Maybe ask her outright why she didn't bother to contact you?
If you do, don't do it by text.

Face-to-face if possible, by phone if not.

GBNI

I'd write this one off I'm afraid