Breathing problems in cats

Brallaqueen

Blindsided, if there is one thing that I have learned over the past few days is that you cannot crucify yourself over what has happened.

Please listen to all of us here, all voices of experience - You did everything you could as soon as you noticed a problem and that is what a loving owner does. You got help and fast, you cannot be asked for more than that.

Blindsided_2

Thank you all x

I'm still shocked at the speed my boy left us. I have spoken with the vet who assured me that by the time his symptoms were noticable, it was already too late for him. There was no reason, no cause, just bad luck.
Not that that brings me any comfort. I miss him horribly. The house is not the same without him taking up the entire sofa.

I'm now terrified of something similar happening to my 2 remaining babies, the vet has kindly agreed to see them and give them a full health check, to try and ease my mind.

If only I had known his time was nearly up. I would have done so many things differently.

meritaten

Why? he was loved, obviously well cared for - do you think HE would have wanted anything more than what he already had?
let the vet check your other two babies. I am sure they are fine. and hun - ENJOY them! and don't hover over them behaving like a Nervous Nellie - they will pick up on that and think something is wrong.

Its okay to grieve, and its also okay to take pleasure in your living furbabies - I think you OWE it to them. they need you.

Blindsided_2

No, he wouldn't have wanted anything different (more tuna fish probably, he could eat for Britain)

I took my other babies to the vet tonight they were both given a clean bill of health and he again talked through what happened, just so I was sure there was nothing I could have done differently, or sooner.
He summed it up by saying it was meant to be, it's cruel, it's unfair, but he had a wonderful life and the end was quick.

I just feel terribly empty, buying cat food in tesco set my off crying tonight. I need to pull it together a bit.

Thank you to all of you, u have made the worse moments of my life more bearable x

pukkamum

Oh blindsided I really feel for you we had our dear old cat pts just before xmas and we were all devastated despite knowing it was for the best.
As it happened just before xmas it didn't really hit us fully untill after xmas was done with.
We got 2 cats just after and though I feel maybe it was slightly too soon the house just felt wrong without a cat.
The first time one of them sat on my knee I wept for ages because if I closed my eyes I could imagine it was Rosie, oh dear thats set me off again.

We had her pts at home and we buried her under her favourite tree in the garden, the kids and I had decorated a box for her, it was sprayed gold and we wrote messages to her on the top.
When the weather improves we are going to plant a rose bush on her grave.
It will get better I promise but in the mean time let yourself grieve without restraint, I find comfort in having her buried at home at will often say hello when I'm in the garden.
I miss her every single day.

Blindsided_2

pukkamum wrote: »

Oh blindsided I really feel for you we had our dear old cat pts just before xmas and we were all devastated despite knowing it was for the best.
As it happened just before xmas it didn't really hit us fully untill after xmas was done with.
We got 2 cats just after and though I feel maybe it was slightly too soon the house just felt wrong without a cat.
The first time one of them sat on my knee I wept for ages because if I closed my eyes I could imagine it was Rosie, oh dear thats set me off again.

We had her pts at home and we buried her under her favourite tree in the garden, the kids and I had decorated a box for her, it was sprayed gold and we wrote messages to her on the top.
When the weather improves we are going to plant a rose bush on her grave.
It will get better I promise but in the mean time let yourself grieve without restraint, I find comfort in having her buried at home at will often say hello when I'm in the garden.
I miss her every single day.

We are getting his ashes back on Wednesday, and he will be scattered in the garden, only seems right he loved sitting there watching the birds.

My daughters want a kitten (or 2) ASAP, I understand it seems to them it will make them feel better. But I'm not sure about another cat. I'm not sure I want to keep going through this inevitable pain tbh, and I think I would feel like I was betraying him, by trying to replace him.

Which would be impossible, he was truly a one off.

pukkamum

Blindsided wrote: »

We are getting his ashes back on Wednesday, and he will be scattered in the garden, only seems right he loved sitting there watching the birds.

My daughters want a kitten (or 2) ASAP, I understand it seems to them it will make them feel better. But I'm not sure about another cat. I'm not sure I want to keep going through this inevitable pain tbh, and I think I would feel like I was betraying him, by trying to replace him.

Which would be impossible, he was truly a one off.

My daughter was desperate for another kitten which was the driving force behind getting getting our 2 boys.
However both her and my son really struggled with it.
lyla felt really guilty for being happy about the kittens but still so sad about rosie, oliver felt it meant we had forgotten her.

I explained that all those feelings were perfectly normal, that it wasn't about replacing rosie it was giving the kittens the same love and wonderful life rosie had with us.
I explained I had always had cats as had they and the house felt wrong without one.
Despite all this I think it was slightly too soon and we all struggled slightly to bond with them but now its like they've been here forever and we love them very much

pukkamum

P.s I understand totally about not wanting to go through the pain of death again but hopefully for us it will be a very long time in the future and although desperately sad in a way rosies death was perfect she was on my knee at home, the kids knew what was happening and had chance to say their goodbyes, not every death is traumatic.
for me it was part of being her loving companion and seeing that she didn't suffer.