Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 11

slowlyfading

Because we want to be pregnant ASAP and it's really hard to play the waiting game!

jazz25_2

Good luck ladies fingers crossed. As I got a bfn I would like this horrible af to hurry up. Such bad shooting pains, foul mood and exhausted.

cherrylips30

I want to know why it's something that's not really bothered me one way or the other for the last 20 years, and why our biological clocks are so damn intense!!

staple28

Hi all. Finally something to report after being off long term deposit for 9 months. Few bits of on off spotting then a very heavy long period. Strangely 29 days from last lot of spotting. Coincidence?
Anyway today I have sticky clear mucus, does this mean I am ovulating? What's a good app with a calendar to keep track of these things.

Thanks

lulu_92

staple28 wrote: »

Hi all. Finally something to report after being off long term deposit for 9 months. Few bits of on off spotting then a very heavy long period. Strangely 29 days from last lot of spotting. Coincidence?
Anyway today I have sticky clear mucus, does this mean I am ovulating? What's a good app with a calendar to keep track of these things.

Thanks

Welcome back Staple.

Yeah that spotting does seem coincidental, almost like a cycle..

I would suggest that the sticky mucus would mean that you're ovulating, I use Ovia for the calendar - it gives you a bit more analysis when you enter data

OH and I had a huge argument last night over nothing so I can add that to my sad list. I told him that we need to DTD this week if we want to be in with a chance and he says "if you do, you do, if you do you don't" :mad: If that was the case we'd be NTNP!

I will be happy at some point, promise!

Hope all of you are okay this grey morning!

Miss_Imaginative

Morning all!

Can you update me to 2DPO, please? My apps (Ovia/Fertility Friend) tells me I ovulated on Monday...

I'm not particularly hopeful about it all this month to be honest, as whilst we have BD'd, I don't think we have DTD enough around the most fertile window. We were at our friends wedding over the weekend where DH was Best Man, so in the days running up to it he was incredibly nervous about the day (and not wanting to BD) and then Saturday night/Sunday he was so incredibly drunk/hungover and just wanted to sleep. I'm rather disappointed that we didn't BD more, but I'm not going to guilt trip him about it. Events like this don't happen particularly often and I suspect the after-effects will put him off drinking for a long time, which is always a plus!

Just got to keep myself busy these next couple of weeks and try not to symptom spot like I did last month! But it's SO hard not to!

Hope you are all having good days today.

Mrs_I

blueneleh

Miss_Imaginative wrote: »

I'm not particularly hopeful about it all this month to be honest, as whilst we have BD'd, I don't think we have DTD enough around the most fertile window. We were at our friends wedding over the weekend where DH was Best Man, so in the days running up to it he was incredibly nervous about the day (and not wanting to BD) and then Saturday night/Sunday he was so incredibly drunk/hungover and just wanted to sleep. I'm rather disappointed that we didn't BD more, but I'm not going to guilt trip him about it. Events like this don't happen particularly often and I suspect the after-effects will put him off drinking for a long time, which is always a plus!

I know exactly what you mean Miss I.
There's times when OH isn't up for BDing when it's our fertile window (I've also had the crashed out due to alcohol moment!) and I try not to guilt trip him about it as it then becomes a massive issue. I try to remember that although I really want a BFP, I want it to happen in a 'loving' way rather than under duress!
Hopefully you have done enough but if not there's always next month.

blueneleh

Claire_A87 wrote: »

I'm going to take a break from the board for a few days until I calm the frell down! (I'll miss you all and be back tomorrow for sure).

:rotfl::rotfl:

Hugs Claire

blueneleh

lulu_92 wrote: »

OH and I had a huge argument last night over nothing so I can add that to my sad list. I told him that we need to DTD this week if we want to be in with a chance and he says "if you do, you do, if you do you don't" :mad: If that was the case we'd be NTNP!

Ah, Lulu sorry to hear that you've been arguing about TTC.
It's so frustrating isn't it?
I think men see it so differently to us women and seem to be more relaxed about it (which isn't always a bad thing).
With DS, my OH was really relaxed, and like your OH, but after a couple of months of not falling pg he started to be a bit more proactive. Men seem to think that getting pg is easier than it actually is!
((Hugs))

lulu_92

blueneleh wrote: »

Ah, Lulu sorry to hear that you've been arguing about TTC.
It's so frustrating isn't it?
I think men see it so differently to us women and seem to be more relaxed about it (which isn't always a bad thing).
With DS, my OH was really relaxed, and like your OH, but after a couple of months of not falling pg he started to be a bit more proactive. Men seem to think that getting pg is easier than it actually is!
((Hugs))

It was a stupid argument. Started out because he said he would be home at half 6 and he wasn't, then he had a go at me for burning the fried eggs! :rotfl: Then it turned into a TTC argument. He'd had a bit to drink, turns into a right richard if he doesn't like something after a few beers.

I understand his apprehension. I feel guilty about going on about TTC with what he's been through. He's told me that he will find it hard to be excited about pregnancy and he might not want to buy the necessary things until the last minute. It might sound selfish for me to say but I've told him that I will still need support from him when I'm pregnant.

He doesn't realise that women beat themselves up over it as it's more obvious to us when we've failed to conceive for a month. Time is more important to our bodies than theirs and he doesn't understand that.