Ex-Partner Refusing to Collect Belongings

marisco_2

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Send the letter to her work address and give her a deadline to collect it by or it will all be left out on the pavement.

Risky dependant on whereabouts in the country the OP is. Taking that action at the moment could result in waking up to find the whole lot has floated away.

pinkshoes

Send a letter, letting her know you are moving, and giving her deadline on when she needs to pick up her stuff. Tell her that if she doesn't collect by this date, you will sell the items on your local facebook group, give any unsold items to charity, then she can have the money.

RobotsinDisguse

I had a similar problem, but luckily it was only a car full of boxes. He refused to pick it up. I gave him a deadline which he ignored. I couldn't easily do the date he insisted upon, so told him to be there by a certain time, so I could still go to work. To make things easier I'd taken his things downstairs and they were waiting on the path... He didn't show. I went to work!
I found out later he sent his brother round eventually as it had started to rain!

So my advice OP is to stick to your guns, set a deadline. If she cares for her stuff she'll sort it.

newcook

pinkshoes wrote: »

Send a letter, letting her know you are moving, and giving her deadline on when she needs to pick up her stuff. Tell her that if she doesn't collect by this date, you will sell the items on your local facebook group, give any unsold items to charity, then she can have the money.

or the OP could keep the money to cover the cost of storing the items for the last 6 months and the inconvenience of having to take photos and listing the items!

valk_scot

You could arrange to have it all delivered to her workplace?


(No, I'm not 100% serious. But it's an amusing thing to think about. )

Georgiegirl256

Person_one wrote: »

Doesn't that just mean the owners of the storage unit get to keep and sell her stuff though?

Yes, if people don't pay then they put the units up for auction. It's a big thing in America (Storage Wars!), but they do it over here too.

Shellshine_2

Do not put her stuff in storage (you will end up with a debt and bad credit rating and she will be laughing and never collect it)... do not pay someone else to take it away (you'll never recover your costs)..

Go to Citizens Advice - get the legal standpoint on this and do it.

I believe (but you will need to double check) you need to give a 'reasonable' period of notice with a deadline of perhaps 2 weeks (maybe more).... advise it will be available for collection between set times and after that time on that date it is no longer your responsibility and you are within your legal right to dispose of it as you see fit.

If she STILL doesn't collect it - give it all away.

If you sell it, she will be entitled to all monies from the sale... Freecycle is very good and there are loads of folks who will gladly help themselves if you just put a huge FREE - HELP YOURSELF sign on it all once the deadline has passed.

You're not a free storage facility...

Must admit... I do like the idea of you dropping it off at her works... undamaged of course, and you could always advise her that you won't charge delivery as a gesture of goodwill...

I hope you resolved it amicably - but the sad truth is, sometimes that's just not possible... I have the bruises to prove it...

My ex-partner didn't meet our agreed deadline......

Free bookcases, coffee table, double bed frame, nasty minging old brown sofa with equally nasty matching footstools anyone? :rotfl:

j.e.j.

Just answered this, then realised it's an old thread from last year :rotfl: