Ex-Partner Refusing to Collect Belongings

FF97

Good morning everyone.

My partner and I split nearly six months ago, we were living together at the time. I still have a significant amount of her things and have tried my best to get her to pick these up from me.

The problem I now have, is that I am moving house shortly and I really need to get rid of her stuff before I do so.

What rights do I have here? I am happy to be adult about things, but despite requesting a number of times, all I get back is "I will pick them up when I am ready".

Am I legally obliged to look after her possessions? What happens if I move house before she picks things up, do I have to take them with me? Am I able to charge her storage?

~Beanie~

I would send her a letter via recorded delivery, giving her a specific date by which she needs to collect her belongings. If she hasn't collected by the set date, then advise that you will dispose of them.

BitterAndTwisted

Just WRITE to her and give her a deadline by which she needs to collect her belongings. If they're not collected warn her that they will be disposed of and you'll not be entering into any further discussion about it after that deadline

Georgiegirl256

Either write a letter, or, do you know where she lives? If so, I would be taking the things round there if it wasn't too far way. I wouldn't just dump them, but I'd wait until she was in of course!

FF97

Unfortunately I don't have an address for her. I have asked her this morning to provide one, but she refused.

We're talking bulky items here too, including white goods and furniture!

Caroline_a

Do you have an address you could send the letter to c/o? Maybe parents, friends, etc? I know it's not ideal, but maybe you could also message her however you are now (text? phonecall? etc) and say I have sent a recorded letter to ... to let you know that if you do not collect your belongings by x date then I will be disposing of them.

bagpussbear

How are you in contact with her? Phone or text or email then? You need to contact her again, whichever way, and say that you will be boxing up her possessions and give her say 14 days to come and collect. Otherwise said boxes will be put onto the doorstep after that time.

I understand you don't have an address but if you have an email for her that would be good as least you can prove what ou said should things turn for the worst afterwards.

DKLS

FF97 wrote: »

Unfortunately I don't have an address for her. I have asked her this morning to provide one, but she refused.

Did she say anything about collecting her stuff?

kelpie35

I see from your other post that you know where she works. I would send a recorded delivery letter to that address, giving her 2 weeks notice for items to be picked up. Explain that the items will be disposed of if not collected by that date.

Hope this helps

duchy

If as it seems it's an acrimonious split and you don't really want to see each other could you move all of her stuff into a lockup at one of those stoirage centres-pay 2 weeks rental and send her the access code (recorded delivery) explaining that you've only paid for 2 weeks and she'll need to move her stuff by then or take over the payments ?

AnnieO1234

I believe you may have a duty of care, you might be best advising her that you will have to put this in storage and will seek the costs from her through the courts if necessary, if she doesn't want the stuff you need to get her to put that in writing.

Were you in a rental? Was it a joint tenancy?

I honestly think you need to take some legal advice on this one.