Ex-Partner Refusing to Collect Belongings

NinjaSavingKat

Why not just leave it there?

She is causing you hassle - let her deal with the new owners / tennants. Text her, tell her this is what you intend to do and leave it at that. She is a grown-up, no point chasing her. But cover yourself. Don't chuck anything out as you might be liable to replace it (not sure on this though) and keep note of contact made by her either by email or text if she won't provide an address. But maybe some legal advice would be a good idea just to make sure.

antw23uk

Persoanlly I would stop being a !!!!! about it, tell her you are moving (and no she cant have your new address!) and that if she hasnt collected her !!!! by a certain date it will be left on the street with a big sign on it saying FREE!!!

Job done.

How bloody dare she dictate when she wants to come get her crap!

Gigervamp

Have you told her that you're moving out? If she doesn't know, she might be thinking that she's got plenty of time to collect the stuff.

I'd tell her that you're moving out and she has until x date (I'd give her until the week before you move) to collect her stuff and if she doesn't then it will be taken to the tip or given away.

NinjaSavingKat

If I am not mistaken ( there is a strong chance I might be though ) if you leave someones items outside and they are stolen this "might" result in some issues with the law somewhere down the line if she loses an expensive item.

However, nowt that I know of says you can't just leave it in the house you are leaving. It's not yours - so you don't take it with you! Simples.

Certainly don't pay for storage in any shape or form - as the second to last poster states how dare she dictate to you...

BitterAndTwisted

If you're moving out of a rental and you leave her possessions in the property you will suffer a deduction from your deposit for having them removed and disposed of. Possibly ditto if you are selling, by getting a nice bill from the vendor. Who would want to move into a property cluttered up with someone else's unwanted carp?

Send the letter to her work address and give her a deadline to collect it by or it will all be left out on the pavement. I'd send her a text the same day as posting the letter stating precisely this to confirm.

Person_one

Is this stuff of any use to you? If so, move with it and just keep using it until she bothers to come and collect it. Why should you put yourself out?

I like the storage unit idea, but it might be worth a free half hour with a solicitor to check that's kosher.

BitterAndTwisted

The storage unit idea is a non-starter. The OP will be the one in contract for it and the g/f will never take it over and will never pay.

marisco_2

You could turn this on its head and play the situation to your advantage. Moving house is an expensive business. The last thing you want to do is lay out for white goods and bulky furniture items etc., until you get a feel for the new place and how you want to decorate it. So use all of your ex's stuff until such time as she contacts you and wants it back. Thinking outside the box can save you stress and money, very MSE.

fivetide

Alternatively, if you simply say you'll dispose of it, you might be able to sell it to some new tenents!

Person_one

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

The storage unit idea is a non-starter. The OP will be the one in contract for it and the g/f will never take it over and will never pay.

Doesn't that just mean the owners of the storage unit get to keep and sell her stuff though?