who has secret savings????

tlb2408 · 7 February 2014 at 5:55AM

I found this really interesting. I've been with my partner 20 years alwsys had seperate accounts. We always struggled until recently I got some inheritance and I paid off our mortgage things were then split each month so we had the same amount of cash to spend. He went straight out and bought a car so his spare money went on that each month.

this year he was made redundant went into administration so no pay since December.

if I hadn't had a secret saving *left over inheritance we would be struggling right now and I would be having sleepless nights. I dont feel bad about having it I because he wouldn't tell me what to spend it on but I know if this was his he would have had an extension or a new car!! So no money for these rubbish times.

I know he has no savings as I sort all the money out in the house including his accounts and when things go wrong have to find the money to sort it..

Does this make me a bad person - maybe but I'm looking after myself and daughter.....

BlueSky1 · 7 February 2014 at 6:21AM

I've been married so long that I've lost track! It's all 'ours' - I save it, spend it, and he's got no idea what's going on as long as he is warm, dry, fed and happy!!

Tiglath · 7 February 2014 at 6:41AM

DH has no interest in saving, so it's all in my name but I consider it ours. I've tried to get him to open a savings account in his name so he can access an emergency amount if I go under a bus, but he won't. If it gets to the stage where I'm completely filling my ISA allowance, I shall push to get him to put the rest in his name, but it will be an uphill battle.