Ex wants to live in our house but not pay any bills.

pmlindyloo

maxgwen wrote: »

first job tomorrow is a trip to the solicitors i think. Thanks everyone

This article gives an overview http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Advice/Legal-Issues/120556-What-happens-to-the-house-when-we-split-up.html

It is still fairly early days after your decision to separate and it would be far simpler and a lot less expensive if you could agree about the assets without using a solicitor.

You could use a Family Mediation service where an agreement can be drawn up and then taken to a solicitor to turn into a legal document.

If there is any chance that you can discuss this with your ex. and reach an agreement then this would be far and away the best outcome.

I know this seems a long shot at the moment but if you can get to this point then everything could go much smoother particularly since you are willing to split 50/50.

Good luck with it all.

GwylimT

She is entitled to enter the house when she likes just as you are, she could also forgo paying the bills, just as you can.

Really the options are sell the house and proceeds are split 50/50 or, you could get a mortgage on 50% of the houses value to buy your partner out, this means you are both getting your half and you are able to remain in the same home with your animals.

kingrulzuk

Good luck mate

shop-to-drop

Are all the bills in your name?

maxgwen

some are in my name some in both

shop-to-drop

Can you cancel stuff that you can do without. Tv, broadband, etc.

Person_one

What were the circumstances of the split?

You might have to be patient, you might have to do some things you'd prefer not to. You've been separated less than 6 weeks, after 6 years together.

What do you both earn? Were you paying all the bills before the separation?

tom9980

maxgwen wrote: »

Hi im after some advice please.
My partner and i split up at xmas after 6 yrs together, we have a house together that was bought out right 4 yrs ago after i won a bit of money on the lottery.
The money for the house came out of my bank account but we put the house in both names. All bills come out of my account so i told her i wanted half the cost on the 1st of every month. She is refusing to pay anything but insisting on staying in the house. While i was out at work one night last week she came home and took the new 3d tv and my ipad out of the house and iv not seen them since, she says the tv is hers as she paid for it. She will not speak to me she just says i will be hearing from her solicitor. I need to know if she has any rights staying in the house if she is not contributing to bills. We dont have children to think about but i have 3 dogs and would find it hard to rent anywhere with so many dogs. Im worried that ill come bk from work to either an empty house or the locks changed. She does have another house that her ex husband lives in they get on well so why cant she live there instead. Hope someone has some advice please.

Are you married? No children is a good start. There is a reasonable chance of walking away with much of the equity get a good solicitor on the case.

krlyr

If you're not married, do you recall if you bought the house as joint tennants, or tennants in common?

marisco_2

maxgwen wrote: »

first job tomorrow is a trip to the solicitors i think. Thanks everyone

You may well find that as soon as your partner is aware that you have a solicitor representing you and guiding you, she will back right off and stop trying to take advantage of this awful situation. You are understandably upset and angry at her treatment of you, but continue to be the bigger person here and hold it together. This stops any nastiness from escalating and when this horrible time in your life is done you can walk away with your head held high. Something you will be glad about in years ahead.