Ex wants to live in our house but not pay any bills.

maxgwen

Hi im after some advice please.
My partner and i split up at xmas after 6 yrs together, we have a house together that was bought out right 4 yrs ago after i won a bit of money on the lottery.
The money for the house came out of my bank account but we put the house in both names. All bills come out of my account so i told her i wanted half the cost on the 1st of every month. She is refusing to pay anything but insisting on staying in the house. While i was out at work one night last week she came home and took the new 3d tv and my ipad out of the house and iv not seen them since, she says the tv is hers as she paid for it. She will not speak to me she just says i will be hearing from her solicitor. I need to know if she has any rights staying in the house if she is not contributing to bills. We dont have children to think about but i have 3 dogs and would find it hard to rent anywhere with so many dogs. Im worried that ill come bk from work to either an empty house or the locks changed. She does have another house that her ex husband lives in they get on well so why cant she live there instead. Hope someone has some advice please.

74jax

is the house in both names?

paulineb_2

Why cant you change the locks even as a temporary measure if your belongings are being removed?

shop-to-drop

maxgwen wrote: »

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The money for the house came out of my bank account but we put the house in both names...........

Your going to have to buy her off even if it means selling the house. She is going to be entitled to half the house value.

jackieblack

74jax wrote: »

is the house in both names?

It would appear so

maxgwen wrote: »

we have a house together that was bought out right 4 yrs ago after i won a bit of money on the lottery.
The money for the house came out of my bank account but we put the house in both names.

:cool:

marisco_2

maxgwen wrote: »

The money for the house came out of my bank account but we put the house in both names

It makes no difference who's bank account funded the purchase of the house. That it is in both names means that your partner jointly owns it with you. Legally she can come and go as she wants. You could potentially land yourself in a lot of trouble if you block her access to the property by changing the locks.

Of course she is taking the micheal by removing expensive possessions and refusing to contribute to the household expenses. Be astute here and don't rise to any of it. She is clearly baiting you for a reaction and waiting for you to slip up so she can use it against you via her solicitor. The easiest thing to say is the hardest thing to do but stay calm and civil with her at all times. Invest your time and energy now in contacting a good solicitor. Let them put her right and sort this out for you with as least fuss and upset as possible.

maxgwen

Yes the house is in both names, i would gladly give her half when the house sells but it is like a living hell in the house atm, and with her not contributing to anything can i force her to leave or change the lock legally?

Firefly

I don't think it's as cut and dried as that. I have children (now grown) but had house in joint names with ex. I had a house before I met him and sold it to buy the house we shared together which was in joint names. When he left, the court awarded me the WHOLE of the house as it was my equity that purchased most of it.

maxgwen

she sent the police to my friends house telling them to stay away from our house as she feels threatened when i have my friends in, yet on 3 different occasions i have had to leave for a night shift with people in my house drinking and they were still there the following morning when i was trying to sleep after work. I am being very patient but she is really testing me now, im so angry i feel like a lodger in my own home.

shop-to-drop

I think you should get the house on the market and get yourself a solicitor so you can sort this out as quickly as possible. Sounds like she is someone you won't want in your life a day longer than necessary.

maxgwen

first job tomorrow is a trip to the solicitors i think. Thanks everyone