Money and Me - A Love/Hate Story

his_missus

Skinty - I was single all of my 20s after splitting up from my then boyfriend just after I graduated. Being single didn't bother me, I enjoyed holidays away on my own, had a few close friends I socialised with but it did seem to bother other people. Surely I was lonely? I must need someone to share life with? Erm...no! Then friends started "setting me up" - we'd go out and there'd be a single male friend of theirs tagging along. When a friend tried to match me with a guy who'd changed his name by deed poll to Mr Grim Reaper (I kid you not!) I decided to take matters into my own hands and joined a dating site, mainly just to shut them up. Met a few frogs and men who were quite liberal with the truth. Then I met Hubby, who at the time I had only a few small interests/likes in common. Now we're like a complete package, soulmates, complementing each other (pass the sick bucket:rotfl:)

Only a few very close friends know we met online. My family think I met him through a friend (who did actually go to school with him):D

Anyway, less of my waffling. TBH I think when it's meant to be, it will be. When you're meant to meet Mr Right it will just happen

lotti379

Just popped by to say hello! :hello:

I've been perusing your diary and really enjoying it, your attitude is brilliant! I know what you mean by The Fear too...

On this note:

skintygerlinky wrote: »

So...I dunno. Help us out here!!! Is anyone dating at the mo?? Anyone in a loving relationship they fancy talking about? Anyone happily single and planning on staying that way for a bit?

I am in a relationship with a chap who is basically never here, as the next 3-8 years of his life (at least) belong to el queenie's armed forces. It really, really sucks at times, but most of the time actually works OK (skype is a brilliant invention). At least he isn't here to trip up my fledgling moneysaving efforts! But my point is, we met 5 1/2 years ago and had a really rocky start but, despite geographical and time constraints, now we're a proper team and he is my best friend. I wouldn't go through the long-distance thing unless it was for him... Deffo pass the sick bag time!!:rotfl:.

I guess my view is that there's no point in kissing a frog just because it's there! But then, easy for me to say I suppose, from t'other side of the fence...

girlatplay

You are welcome for the multi quote stuff. I should probably say that another MSE'r told me about the link thing: Mooomin. Love her diaries too. She paid off loads of debt and now plods along trying to stay in the black.

RainbowBridgeReturns wrote: »

We have had police all over the estate for the last couple of days, because of a double murder-suicide incident, involving neighbours who had been living quietly here for over 20 years, and ostensibly happily married for 30 years. It is all very unsettling .....

Think you might live near me if it is the same murder-suicide I saw on the news the other day (surely there isn't more than one in the UK at any one time).

skintygerlinky wrote: »

...So, I'm 38 and although since I've been 14 I've been asked 'have you got a fella?' cos oh my word, a gal can't possibly be the complete picture without one can she?...

...So what's going on with me? Well, feast or famine, that's what! I go through long periods of being single - years - and just always have. This is possibly the longest time, actually - I've been single (give or take the odd fling !!) for around six years now. During that time I've been chocka with my job and honestly couldn't fathom how to fit a relationship into my life. So I just didn't seek one out. I honestly couldn't find the time or inclination to be bothered...


...EXCUSE ME, DID SOMEONE ORDER THE 18TH CENTURY?

Dear me!! I've never been able to fathom these responses, it baffles me that my single status seems to actually irritate people. Why is this? Can anyone relate???...

...So...I dunno. Help us out here!!! Is anyone dating at the mo?? Anyone in a loving relationship they fancy talking about? Anyone happily single and planning on staying that way for a bit?...

...Think this is my theme song at the mo, the lyrics absolutely sum me up!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKrBfb4bUWY

Oh yes, I understand this. It is slightly different for me though. I have LMG so people don't really say stuff. They think it. I think they just think "Oh yes, her, she had a baby then split up with the dad. Damaged goods her, no one will want her." We split when she was 2 as he was abusive and I had two choices, leave or die. I was single for 6 years (odd flings aside) and then I met a guy who I thought was perfect for me. We were together almost 5 years and we split up in December 2012 (because I actually couldn't stand him any longer). I found out 4 months later he had been cheating on me, FOR 2.5 YEARS!!!

I am the happiest I have ever been. My life is really simple and boring but I am free. Why on earth would I want to be in a relationship when I have had the two experiences that I have? It has made me very selfish though. I don't want to share stuff anymore. I like my simple, boring life. I am absolutely not ready to give that up just yet.

Also, I have a chronic illness and I can't see anybody wanting me with this. I look normal(ish) but I don't always keep well. I am quite well just now which is great but it would take someone special to be able to deal with what I have to deal with. I just don't think that special someone is out there for me. Don't feel sorry for me. I don't. I feel lucky as there are so many people worse off than me.

Voice of the Beehive!! I had forgotten all about them!

Shortie wrote: »

Can I have a Winniebago? Happy to share of course! Always wanted to have a go in one of them...

Ooh! I'll share! Would have to explain my illness to you though (it is not catching!!)

Shortie

Oh no - happy to share GirlatPlay, as long as yo're prepeared that if bed sharing has to occur, I am officially the world's worst duvet hogger (according to Mr Shortie).

Still... I'm not like my sister who cuddled me in her sleep and flopped her leg over me when I stayed over at hers once. Lol.... I'm definately a 'sleeper on the egde of the bed' me - which is probably what makes me such a duvet-hog as I drag it with me and I wrap myself up like a sausage roll :rotfl:

girlatplay

Shortie wrote: »

Oh no - happy to share GirlatPlay, as long as yo're prepeared that if bed sharing has to occur, I am officially the world's worst duvet hogger (according to Mr Shortie).

Still... I'm not like my sister who cuddled me in her sleep and flopped her leg over me when I stayed over at hers once. Lol.... I'm definately a 'sleeper on the egde of the bed' me - which is probably what makes me such a duvet-hog as I drag it with me and I wrap myself up like a sausage roll :rotfl:

:rotfl: I am very much an 'on the edge of the bed' person when I have to share - not that that happens anymore unless LMG jumps in beside me and she is very much a duvet hogger. So much so that I get her to bring her own duvet if she does want to jump in beside me. That is what I will do, I will bring my own!

Shortie

Ah now there's a plan - I have actually suggested to Mr Shortie in the past that we get spereate duvets to stop him moaning about waking up cold, but she seems to believe the answer is for me to simply stop stealing the covers, lol

RosaBernicia

lotti379 wrote: »

there's no point in kissing a frog just because it's there!

:T :rotfl::rotfl:

how true


Re going on the road, anybody else seen this? I so want one and they are on wheels http://sftimes.co/?id=93


Rosa xx

Busymumofthreeplusdog

RosaBernicia wrote: »

:T :rotfl::rotfl:

how true


Re going on the road, anybody else seen this? I so want one and they are on wheels http://sftimes.co/?id=93


Rosa xx

Me too:j me too:j

Shortie

RosaBernicia wrote: »

:T :rotfl::rotfl:
Re going on the road, anybody else seen this? I so want one and they are on wheels http://sftimes.co/?id=93

Lol! Could you imagine dragging that thing behind you on the road? :rotfl:

Does look fab though

Buffythedebtslayer

Still Loving your diary, to me even tho some of the stuff you talk about is sad you have such a force about you and are so positive it is all life affirming to read. again thank you XXX


Re relationships, I would love a boyfriend, If you had asked me about a year and a half ago I would have said I am happy single cos all my relationships were horrible. I genuinely could not understand why anyone would want to be with another person if they were so bloody annoying and stupid.


Then I dated a really nice guy last year and ok he turned out to be a total !!!! in the end but finally I understood what it was like to have fun and feel loved by a man. I would like that back.


before him I had been single for ever really, I sort of dated a total moron for years who was commitment-phobic. That was a mess. before him a couple of scumbags, and a possibly gay guy....


As most of the time I have been single I literally don't know what it is like to have a proper partner so I sort of feel like that six months with that guy was a sort of golden time and I wonder if it would happen again.


and isn't it the most annoying thing when you say you're single someone Oh don't worry you will meet someone............


drives me nuts - seriously the stats say I am more likely to win the lottery! I have read ALL the books!!


so yes I would love a boyfriend but on the whole life is an adventure and maybe it is one I am meant to take alone (with various pets and friends in toe)


XXX