Age

harrys_nan

Ariba10,
many congratulations to you both, I wish you both many more xx

Georgiegirl256

ariba10 wrote: »

We hope to celebrate our 63rd Wedding anniversary later on this year (only if she continues to behave herself) and still look out of the same pair of eyes and have the same thoughts as when we first met.

You only grow old from the neck down.

Still ride a bike and still drive.

Congrats! On a forum where there is usually so many posts about relationship problems and divorces, your post is so heartwarming to read!

ariba10

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Congrats! On a forum where there is usually so many posts about relationship problems and divorces, your post is so heartwarming to read!

I had been married for three years before I met the first person that I knew had been divorced.

marisco_2

ariba10 wrote: »

We hope to celebrate our 63rd Wedding anniversary later on this year (only if she continues to behave herself) and still look out of the same pair of eyes and have the same thoughts as when we first met.

Congratulations and thank you very much for sharing this with us. It must be wonderful to be able to look back on a life shared with the person you are still totally happy and in love with. My grandparents took a photo together every anniversary and watched themselves grow old together. I always thought that was such a beautiful thing to do and I had hoped to emulate it in my own marriage.

beautiful_ravens

Old age is not frailty, the two don't go hand in hand. Frailty is physical, and young people can be frail or incapable as much as old people.
Old age is wisdom. Elders are wise. That is what is 'old'.

Mayflower10cat

Age is a state of mind, not a number. I have friends, younger than I, in their thirties and some of seem far, far older in their attitudes. In our little village, when I do my daily brisk walk of 2 miles, I see all the dog walking regulars and we smile and chat as we pass. There's a lovely woman called Dorothy who walks her dog Ozzie, we stop and talk and catch up on news. One day, after we'd had a depressing chat about my Inlaws (mid 70's) and their fragile health, she asked me, how old do you think I am I? I didn't want to flatter her yet really couldn't place her as older than, say, 80. With her vigour and quick mind, she seemed much younger than my inlaws! She finally admitted to being 92.

itsanne

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I am 64 today and my husband was 65 a couple of weeks ago,

How did I miss that earlier :eek:?

Happy birthday/s :beer:

Cottage_Economy

My parents have been grumbling they are too old to do things for years now. My mother is 70 and my father 68. It winds me up. They're in good health apart from elevated cholesterol caused by sitting in front of the tv and eating crap all day. They sit there bemoaning their age as there are things they've always wanted to do but can't now.

We're not talking anything really major either. They want to go to Italy for a holiday but the last time they went away was two years ago to bournemouth and they cut it short and came back after three days because my father didn't like strange toilets in the Premier Inn and it was affecting his bowel habits. My suggestion of eating all-bran and prunes was met with horror - change their breakfast routine a little? Nooooo. Rather screw up a holiday and come home early to use the toilet. You'd think they went somewhere that made them use holes in the ground or something.

It's like they're desperate to be old people. They both refer to themselves as old.

They once asked me if it would be ok if they gave up the car and i drive them everywhere as they didn't want to be bothered any more at their time of life. Besides the fact i was working long hours at the time and didn't get much time off, i don't have a licence and there is nothing wrong with them to justify stopping driving and imposing themselves on others like that. I offered to help them with their shopping as hubby and I pass their place most weeks, but was grumpily rebuffed. They wanted 'the full package' not help here and there.

moneyistooshorttomention

Vicky123 wrote: »

They were still using it in 1996, think they might have moved it up a bit now with so many having first babies in their 40's!
I've noticed a lot of famous people who are of pensionable age refer to themselves as middle aged but funeral plans are being targetted at the over 50's. My local pub offer cheap meals for the over 50's, seems weird and can't imagine many 50 somethings taking them up on it.

That's the thing I notice, ie once you're over 50 then suddenly you're on the receiving end of all this "over 50s" stuff. Adverts come through to you for disability aids, Saga holidays, etc, etc. It is a bit of a downer to think "It almost makes me think people expect me to be ill just because I've turned 50...well they can forget that, as I don't intend to be..."

I've also noticed that in the last few years there has been a bit of a tendency socially to try and slant me towards "older peoples" social things. Forget that....with two exercise classes to choose from recently I chose the "general" one, rather than the one deemed to be for "over 50s":D

Personally, when I turned 40 I described myself as "middle-aged" for a while because I looked young for my age at that time and so sometimes had to do so in order to have people realise I had more Life Experience than my looks would indicate at that point.

I'm having to not describe myself as in a specific "age group" at the moment...because I have reached Retirement Age (ie I'm a woman over 60) and have duly retired on the one hand, but I'm finding its very variable at the moment as to whether I get pensioner "concessions" or no (as I've not yet reached my revised State Pension Age and some concessions don't get handed over till then). At the moment...I am describing myself as a "pensioner", but will stop doing so once I no longer get involved in discussions as to whether I am/or am not entitled to whatever pensioner concession I want at that point. (ie because I've reached that darn revised SPA and know I will receive all my concessions without discussion).

I tend to think "elderly" is someone 70 upwards, but don't want to fall into the trap my parents have of "Oh well...you must expect to be ill/to be slower once you're in your 80s" and they duly are. Oh no I don't....

The people I admire are those who are quite clearly in the "old" agegroup, but are out there taking up new interests, studying, etc. Every time I see a newspaper article about someone in their 70s and beyond getting a degree or something I think "Good on ya':T".

moneyistooshorttomention

Cottage_Economy wrote: »

My parents have been grumbling they are too old to do things for years now. My mother is 70 and my father 68. It winds me up. They're in good health apart from elevated cholesterol caused by sitting in front of the tv and eating crap all day. They sit there bemoaning their age as there are things they've always wanted to do but can't now.

We're not talking anything really major either. They want to go to Italy for a holiday but the last time they went away was two years ago to bournemouth and they cut it short and came back after three days because my father didn't like strange toilets in the Premier Inn and it was affecting his bowel habits. My suggestion of eating all-bran and prunes was met with horror - change their breakfast routine a little? Nooooo. Rather screw up a holiday and come home early to use the toilet. You'd think they went somewhere that made them use holes in the ground or something.

It's like they're desperate to be old people. They both refer to themselves as old.

They once asked me if it would be ok if they gave up the car and i drive them everywhere as they didn't want to be bothered any more at their time of life. Besides the fact i was working long hours at the time and didn't get much time off, i don't have a licence and there is nothing wrong with them to justify stopping driving and imposing themselves on others like that. I offered to help them with their shopping as hubby and I pass their place most weeks, but was grumpily rebuffed. They wanted 'the full package' not help here and there.

Fancy regarding yourself as "past it" at that age and wanting to give things up:eek:.

They've probably got about 20 years to go...so far too soon for that outlook. Give them a few more years and they'll be "bored little heaps" and expecting you to provide them with A Life. I rather think that demand for lifts boiled down to them trying to start lining you up to provide them with A Life...rather than making one for themselves.

Do be careful..as they have shown themselves to be selfish in still having made that lift request to you despite your long hours worked. It sounds as if they will put their wishes ahead of yours automatically and not quite count you as a "person in your own right".