We're all moneysavers - but have you left a partner for being too frugal?

shiningfaery

In my house I am the saver and hubby is the spender. I am not tight by any means, we have everything we need and more.

We have separate bank accounts for credit reasons only, all the bills come out of 1 dedicated account and we both contribute to that then the rest is for the household. If we need or want anything we say and decided when is best time to buy.
We have always had a joint income set up and its important for me to keep that as having a set up where I am responsible for the kids and myself then contributing to the house as well would only work for me as a single parent. We had the children together so we are both equally responsible for them financially.

But despite all of this my husbands need to spend has caused more than its fair share of upsets....

Toucan_Pecan

Shandygirl wrote: »

Yes shes mean(my sister),her husbands not as bad as her.
It was our parents who stayed at her house for 4 days over christmas.They brought all the food because they know what shes like.
They came my home christmas eve and boxing day we fed them. It doesnt bother me.
But they let her get away with it because she doesnt like spending money.

You see my problem with someone behaving like that is that in order to have a nice, comfortable time together the person who isn't stingy has to continually extend him/herself. This might breed resentment and things can erupt if the stingy person says, "well I never asked for any of this stuff"... which is true, but if you don't care to make guests feel even slightly comfortable, then surely this can only be construed as not genuinely caring for them....? Unless you're dirt broke of course.... with no hope of ever earning any money again.

rebeccatom

I have to admit to being a bit of a money hoarder. Luckily my lovely OH keeps me in check and reminds me that it is ok to spend a bit of it every so often on doing things we enjoy or things we want or need.

I think it comes from growing up with in a very poor household, I never want to be like that again in my life.

Toucan_Pecan

fin7 wrote: »

Years and years ago my dad fell out with his brother, turns out that his brother was lending money to the sisters but kept their family allowance books until he thought the debt and interest were paid!

The crunch finally came when he bought a second hand bike, did it up, sold it to his own wife for his own daughters Christmas present!

Fin

Just read over this a bit too late! But that is truly a horrible way of behaving.