OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

dibuzz

I certainly don't miss having to buy uniform for 4 kids, luckily my mum used to help me out by buying some of it.

3forholidays

mum2one wrote: »

Hope everyone ok, and not getting too wet on the outside!! wine, g+t all allowed!

We just made it back in house as thundered like heck and the heavens opened, been to DDs school fete, feels weird as last one there before secondary school, talking about secondary school we had a list for uniform... got to buy football boots, gum shield, all the logo items... the basics (2 x jumpers, pe kit, (shorts, tshirt, jogging bottoms, jacket,) comes to over £140....... thats without the rest! If you haven't got the logo jumper you have to send a letter explaining why x

That's a bit steep! :mad:

Runs away to find out if money grows on trees ...

cornishchick

3forholidays wrote: »

That's a bit steep! :mad:

Runs away to find out if money grows on trees ...

If you find on 3forH , can I have a cutting please:p

Well theatre trip was amazing, singing in the rain was spectacular . And involved a real down pour on stage, we were in the front row so got a little damp:D :rotfl: but I would go again.
Then back to the friends who i went with for Chinese and 1 or 2 voddies .:cool: And talking till 4 am. Lol amazing night.


Weekend plans... After lunch with BIL and kids, home to recover, maybe a kip lol.
Then I plan to finish sorting through late DH ' s paperwork hoard. He loved paper work, and there are files full of it.
Maybe take myself out for Sunday lunch tomorrow. I fancy a full of roast and for someone else to have to cook and clean up after..:p
Have a good weekend folks, be good to your selves. X CC

moneyistooshorttomention

3forholidays wrote: »

That's a bit steep! :mad:

Runs away to find out if money grows on trees ...

...and if you do find that mythical thing called a Money Tree, then I want a cutting from it please:)

Does that mean I am now number 327 on the list of people who would also like one?:rotfl:. I've basically run out of money now for further spending, but still need a 5-figure amount of money before I'm through and everything is done and dusted. Wah!!! Has got mind running round tracks that go "By my age I should have it all" cue for crash into barrier, followed by more "By my age I should have it all" and another crash into barrier. I know...I know...sighs heavily again...Picks battered mind up and tries to stay calm/stay focused.

The problem I have personally is I know I've always had a full-time job/always been (fairly) reasonable at money management and yet shortage of money is still there in my life and I know "Its nowt to do with me (well...not much anyway)" so its very hard to accept/deal with because its not my fault. I could understand if I hadn't been busily earning away OR I had been busily spending away regardless...but I haven't..

It is frustrating to be in a "Where is that Money Tree then?" situation, even though realistically all that can be done is make out the list of "whats left that money is needed for" and put it to one side and just wait as patiently as possible until the money is available to throw the list away as "finished and done".

EDIT: Great minds think alike...just noticed Cornish Chick put in her request first for a cutting...

BookWorm

Afternoon all

I'd love a cutting from the money tree too... especially as I've had to buy a new vacuum cleaner this morning. Mine blew up :mad: massive sparks and all :eek:

MITSM - I can totally sympathise with the money not going as far as you want/need etc. Although it won't change anything...what about looking at it from the other angle...about how much you have achieved with what you have had?

Cornishchick - your evening sounds lovely. Glad you had a nice time

BW

moneyistooshorttomention

Bookworm

I haven't succeeded in convincing myself yet on that one:rotfl:. I have managed to convince myself "Those friendsa mine talk sense they do" when it comes to their, frequently repeated, comments these days to effect of "I do admire you for taking on moving so far away all on your own, to an area where you know no-one and a house that needs a lot of work and doing so".

Comments like that are thoroughly appreciated and am thinking "Must be something in those comments", as I have heard it from a variety of English people (back there and over here) by now and it really helps hugely when you're sometimes up against a "respect expected just for number of years on the calendar, regardless of anything else" outlook I've noticed a bit of recently and it puzzles me every time....

Will sit down and remind myself "Yep...I've achieved a lot compared to what many would have in my circumstances. Yep...I'm pretty darn independent and independently-minded" and pat myself on the back for that.

thanks for the reminder.:)

BookWorm

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

thanks for the reminder.:)

Anytime

3forholidays

... Sorry to disappoint but there is no evidence of money growing on trees (certainly not in Scotland anyway! :rotfl:)

LavenderBees

I found one here in Northumberland, but it was stripped bare and left for dead before I got there

I'm just back from cleaning the hen house and I have purry sweet-baby-cat on my knee while I have a cuppa.

I haven't posted recently as have been struggling and don't want to inflict on you all. But also, I've been thoroughly unsettled by talk of upping sticks and travelling the world, and at the same time, one of my lovely neighbours has sold her house and moved into temp accomodation until she decides what she wants to do...

It's really made me wonder if I'm too settled, too content to be in my wee rut. Should I push myself to be more adventurous? Am knackered just thinking of the effort needed let alone doing anything :rotfl:

Really, it's made me anxious I'm missing out, and surely one of the benefits of being a singlie is the luxury of freedom? Freedom of choice (within the confines of disposable income, of course), freedom of movement, freedom...

And yet here I am, mortgage-free, yet tied to building a rainy day fund, tied down to a job I dislike, tied by a house that needs work doing before I could even think of selling it, tied by a house that needs work doing if I am to stay here, tied by my lovely pets...

And I can't even have a glass of wine as still have 2 weeks of my charity challenge to go....

I think I'd better get the hoovering and ironing done or I will take to the drink :rotfl:

LB xx

Byatt

Well, I don't know how this will sound but I will say it any way...for all those who have their "own" homes, albeit with a mortgage, then you have a level of security, not only financially, but emotionally and psychologically. I rent, it broke my heart to lose my house, more than losing my ex if I am honest, everything I had planned and worked for and sacrificed, was to ensure we had a home and eventually a good retirement, maybe move abroad even or just travel. As I hear of house prices rising now, I feel like I want to lay down and sob...if my ex had been able to see more than instant gratification of getting some equity (used for his holidays and "toys", big screen tvs etc), we would be nearing if not already there, of being mortgage free and could have walked away with a huge sum, which would mean my future would be assured as would his, I could buy or go abroad, anything I chose. I didn't plan in any other way for my retirement, but did pay into ex's pension funds, which of course I see no benefit from now.

as it is, I rent, a huge amount financially, my income is less than £10,000 a year. I can't have more pets because it's too small, I'm renting (landlord would restrict) and I can't afford it.

No-one knows what life will hold, there's a cliche about living in the momemt and you know it's true...all the wondering and thinking what am I missing out on, stops you from living now, and more importantly enjoying what you have now.

I have had to adjust my dreams and wants, I thought I would buy again, I didn't realise the crash would come and I would no longer be able to get a mortgage...no job worth anything, despite trying to improve my prospects...staying in an area where jobs are scarce because of my DD, and having to rent and keep DD (who is very expensive!) so any sum from the house was used up all too quickly.

Anyway, life can be a real pig, but if you can enjoy it, then do...one person's rut is another person's dream, believe me...