OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

BookWorm

Ooops we cross posted. Thanks Byatt x

calicocat

Byatt wrote: »

((((((((BW)))))))))

I think the dodgy part of the "dodgy hug" is to do with the graphic. :eek:

Lol....never really looked that hard at it until now.

grousescot

Can I join the club of folk who can't stand their work at the moment?

I'm at a frustrating point where I just know I'm going to have lots on my plate soon but can't do anything about it yet because of matters which are out of my hands. I've been using the time to do some preparatory reading but it makes the day stupefyingly boring and I just know that some time soon I'll wish I had this time back.

I try not to think of the 30-odd years of employment there are still to get through. I kind of fell into this line of work and I don't know what else I'd do. As has been said upthread it pays the bills and not having it would create a whole new set of much worse problems.

Meh.

I've a terrible habit of coming home of an evening and just kind of vegging on the sofa for most of the time until it's time to turn in. No one else here to say get up and do something. I did make an attempt to change this a bit today by laundering and then - gasp - actually ironing a whole load of my work shirts. When I've got a jumper or top on I don't bother with this but it's too warm for that now so needs must. (Please tell me I'm not the only one who has managed to lose their iron and not notice its absence for some weeks.) 10 shirts took me an hour and a half and it feels good to have that done. I'm not in a customer facing role but I like to appear at work reasonable smart and not like I've just picked up my clothes from the bedroom floor.

Right, new resolution to get to bed at least the same day I got up and hopefully have a more positive outlook tomorrow.

if_at_first...

Hi Grousecot - I don't even have an iron. If it needs ironing I do not under any circumstances buy it. Jersey stretch is my best friend!


I took a job abroad which I am not too keen on. Am sticking with it until my UK mortgage is paid off and I have a good savings pot so I can go back home and feel very safe and secure. My flat now is four times bigger than my one at home - yet I prefer my teeny tiny flat.


If you really don't see this career path going anywhere maybe it is time to look at other options. Could you retrain for something else, or is it the place you work you don't like so much?

RosiePuddingPaws

I'm so sorry to hear so many of you hate your job. It is no good thinking you have another X number of years to work, you only have a certain number of years to live and you need to live your life now.

Try and find time to think what else you might like to do and try and do it. For a job cuddling cats and puppies, how about a re-homing centre or something like that (if there is one near you)? Although, I guess the pay would be low.

I have to say, apart from having nothing to stretch my brain with, I like where I am now working. It is the happiest workplace I have ever been - complete with cats wandering through the office although one does have a tendency to walk on the keyboards! Yesterday I was working at a different workstation for a short while, went to go back to my desk and one of the cats was asleep on my chair (and wasn't too keen on being removed so he sat on my desk with his back to me!)

I'm not sure how long I will stay but there are jobs out there - even for mature oldies.

Sending hugs to BookWorm and anyone else who needs one.

RPP

calicocat

Grousecot and If at first......!!


Yay.....more folk who don't (or don't want to) iron.

I moved here nearly a year ago and am not sure where my iron is. The iron is probably 20 years old and been used possibly 3 times in the last 3 years....(usually for the table cloth at xmas).

I hang all my clothes up to dry so they don't need ironing, the only thing that will need an iron are linen trousers and haven't worn those for nearly 2 years I think, and I don't iron bed linen. My mother is the opposite, and will iron everything the doesn't move.



RPP....i used to love my job, but don't like how the service is changing now with all the cuts etc, it's not about the people anymore, just targets for paperwork etc and containment.

I think the next year or so will have me having to focus on what to do next. Right now i'm saving away to be Mortgage free and hopefully have a pot and some work done with the house whilst I have the funds to do that.

calicocat

A day of doing nothing much here, mainly lardarzing in bed for work tonight.

Asbo-cat is in a coma in the conservatory..lying about in 80 degrees of heat.

Had a chat with chunky-monkey yesterday evening, he has a black friend, she looks like a girl, but isn't confident so stayed away just watching me and chunky. Also met chunky mum, I can't remember what she said his real name is, but she did say he was a real tart for affection..explains all the flopping in front of you all the time.

Washing on for clothes for weekend, do feel really unorganised for it though, and hate being at work then going straight there, it will all seem a rush, and am bound to forget something.

Going to get up, spend an hour outside for some vitamin D, get ready, wizz to shops for other stuff needed for weekend, then off to work.

Hope all having a good day...or not awful if at work.

MummyBobble

Oh my goodness, looks like I have a lot of posts to catch up on. That will have to be later when DD and DS have been fed and soggy towels are washed.

Got a text from DD yesterday to say that the floor in the downstairs toilet was full of water :eek: (like I need that!). Anyway, plumber has just been and gone, apparently I had a cracked ball valve (not a clue what that's about), but he's replaced the cheap, nasty plasticky bits with nice, shiny new metal ones and I don't appear to be leaking anymore :j.

Luckily I have plumbing and drainage insurance and although it costs £150 a year there were no extra costs for today's visit/parts and the plumber was here within four hours of me ringing. Now just to sort the wet floor out...

Catch up properly later

JustKeepSwimming_2

calicocat wrote: »

JKS.....

Funnily enough he has ended up being a keeper of sorts. We are friends now, but that didn't happen straight away. Initially there was the 'can I still get sex there' going on, but nearly 20 years down the line and he no longer has that in his head as much, and to be fair is I think a genuine friend and me to him now, if I had a major problem he would be straight round to help if he could.

Funny how life pans out isn't it, and to the point where we have phoned each other about relationship problems with other people over the years.


He used to run me down, and it took a while for me to see it was his problem not mine. You will get there, you will wake up one day and it just won't matter anymore. It will feel like it has happened suddenly...thats even if you notice it, but it hasn't happened suddenly, it's been a gradual learning process and then it all comes together somehow.

A bit like when you are learning to drive....it's all confusing at first, the all of a sudden you know how to do it...without even thinking about it.

Certainly is funny how life goes . I'm not sure I can ever imagine being good, genuine friends with my ex. But we have managed to have a few conversations that have been quite amicable, even when discussing finances, so that is good. I'll be quite glad when our 2 have grown up fully & they can take on the "responsibility" of maintaining their relationship with him.

BookWorm wrote: »

Evening.

Feeling very here tonight. Yesterdays positivity following my good deed lasted about 10 minutes this morning once I arrived at work. Spent the day feeling pretty stressed and generally unappreciated and despondent with life. Is this really the best I have to look forward to for the next 30 odd years that I will most likely have to work for?
Sorry to be so glum. The whole situation just reminds me that I have no-one to share the days tales with either :(

BW

Aw BW - I can now do smilies again, so have another dodgy :grouphug:& a:coffee:in lieu of a glass of wine. Hope you are feeling a little better today. I find that I can go from yay to uuh very quickly on getting home (on the days I don't have DD & DS) & I feel that it possibly wouldn't happen if there was just another adult to say "Hi, how was today", or someone to just know I needed a cup of strong tea from the look on my face. Oh well, I don't think its going to happen so I'll need to crack on with training the kids....

MummyBobble wrote: »

Oh my goodness, looks like I have a lot of posts to catch up on. That will have to be later when DD and DS have been fed and soggy towels are washed.

Got a text from DD yesterday to say that the floor in the downstairs toilet was full of water :eek: (like I need that!). Anyway, plumber has just been and gone, apparently I had a cracked ball valve (not a clue what that's about), but he's replaced the cheap, nasty plasticky bits with nice, shiny new metal ones and I don't appear to be leaking anymore :j.

Luckily I have plumbing and drainage insurance and although it costs £150 a year there were no extra costs for today's visit/parts and the plumber was here within four hours of me ringing. Now just to sort the wet floor out...

Catch up properly later

That sounds horrible - always one of my worries that I'll come home to a flooded bathroom/house. Luckily I do have a plumber who lives a few doors down so hopefully he'd be helpful in a crisis. Sounds like the insurance was a good idea - I must check up on what I'm covered for.

To all of those who are hating their jobs - you have my sympathies (for what they're worth :rotfl:). I'm very lucky in that I enjoy mine a lot now I've downgraded from a profession to a job. I'm also very lucky to only work for 39 weeks each year as I'm in a school. Of course the money is carp & I now earn the same hourly rate as I did 24 years ago :eek:. But I never take work home with me (unless I want to), & my stress levels have dropped hugely.

I was forced into this career change by a decline/change in my health, but I had mulled over a career change for the last few years of my profession, never being quite brave enough to make the leap myself as I thought I'd be unable to manage financially. And that is where this site was fantastically helpful. I'm so glad I found this site, with so many helpful people. If I'd known that I really could manage financially back when I was stressed & unhappy at work, I'd have jumped ship years ago.

Of course, the money side is helped by being a singlie with no social life .

DS & I rescued a bumblebee that had somehow got stuck in my hairbrush :question: - I remembered Calicocat's sugary water trick, so I gave it some after coaxing it from the brush, & if flew off a few minutes later. Amazing how loud they sound when they're really close.

BookWorm

Evening all

Thanks for the hugs RPP and JKS - much appreciated. Shame we are all so far away - it would be cool to have a singlie meet ups as the support in here rocks

Feeling less blue today and have just had head down and got on with things. On a positive note I only have 2 more days to get through and then I get a very much needed week off

Re: the job thing. I genuinely have no idea what else I could do or even would like to.... I do know that I can't take a salary drop (or only a tiny one) whilst I still have a mortgage - which is likely to be for many years yet. More mulling to do I think

Grousescot - I'm like you that I don't like ironing but it's a necessary evil for work clothes.

MummyBobble - sorry to hear about your plumbing issues but glad to hear all sorted now

BW x