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The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

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  • gien
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    At last, an AFD after the weekend. So now it's 4/15 please shaggy
    Trying to keep in budget.

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  • smiley_77
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    7/31 please Shaggy
    Do I really need it? Probably not.:A
  • Wanna_Bee_Free
    Wanna_Bee_Free Posts: 2,356 Forumite
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    2/14 please Shaggy
    Tonight will be AF as well although OH bought 4 bottles of wine yesterday - eek! Will close my ears to the calling from the wine rack and make sure I don't put one in the fridge. If he does and drinks it that's up to him. I don't have to join in.
    Have a good day everyone.
  • Honey_Bear
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    stupotstu wrote: »
    What I do know is that I've somewhere crossed a line, let my alcohol discipline slide and I'm so far down I can never recover. Its the alcohol that needs to go, not the fitness.
    Today though is day 7 AF and for that I am delighted.

    Well done on the 7 AF Days, StuPotStu. You made a comment in an earlier post that I clocked at the time that I decided not to mention, but it did give me pause for thought. The comment was, '... there was several dangerously tempting crisp, zesty white wines in the fridge dying for me to sample them this afternoon.'

    I can remember knowing we had a massive stack of red wine (my tipple of slosh-it-back choice) in the house when I stopped but I don't remember finding it 'dangerously tempting' because I'd totally understood that the idea of booze being attractive was part of my problem. I had to do a lot of reading around the subject of stopping drinking by people I could identify with (ie, in my case, women of a certain age) before I could see that I'd be scre*ed if I didn't change the way I thought about booze - so I did. We are capable of changing our thinking much more easily than changing the way we feel. Just a thought.
    piggles1 wrote: »
    Hi all :)

    One more for me last night. It's a bit like pulling teeth! I'm getting somewhere I think, busy week ahead and carpet measuring so I can finally throw out the old one that was unfortunately the same 'orrible colour I grew up with. Mysterious subliminal decision, that :o

    And I think I've got fleas :eek: Not me exactly but I'm covered in bites head to toe and there was cat hair in the bathroom. Flea treatment has changed since I had my cat in a previous place so I'll ask in the pet section.

    When I do drink my alcohol consumption is now massive :( I'm giving myself a break about it till I'm properly settled and not tripping over stuff I can't put away till the carpets are done.

    Understandably it's still a bit stressful but I really want to get to the point where things are where they should be and I can concentrate on me and sobriety. There was a time last autumn when I hadn't had a single AFD for years, so at least when I lapse I still have AFDs now :)

    You're doing brilliantly, Piggles, in the circumstances and while you're living in a slightly chaotic new place the stress is there all the time. Well done on the 2 days AF.

    As for the fleas, *ouch* - and I speak from bitter experience. The only places that I've found that sell effective de-flea treatment are vets. And I'm afraid - a lot of vacuumming for the foreseeable future. If there are fleas, there will be eggs and larvae and while most products kill the adults, its the eggs and larvae that keep them coming back. You need to get the little critters when they hatch before they breed. *yuk*

    8/31 please, Shaggy.
    Better is good enough.
  • cathybird
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    5/15 for me please Shaggy :)
  • maggiesoup1
    maggiesoup1 Posts: 186 Forumite
    Have to admit I'm struggling to resist the 7 o'clock calling. It's been hideously cold here in Scotland and I've given myself that as a ridiculous excuse for treating myself but honestly I can see myself slipping back into old habits. Strangely I didn't feel FABULOUS when I wasn't drinking and maybe if I did then it would be the trigger to knocking daily drinking on the head but I did have fewer headaches and mentally felt sharper. I'm almost clean out of alcohol in the house again and have resisted buying any when shopping yesterday, maybe that'll do the trick. So annoyed with myself, January had started so well :(
  • piggles1
    piggles1 Posts: 161 Forumite
    Honey_Bear wrote: »
    You're doing brilliantly, Piggles, in the circumstances and while you're living in a slightly chaotic new place the stress is there all the time. Well done on the 2 days AF.

    As for the fleas, *ouch* - and I speak from bitter experience. The only places that I've found that sell effective de-flea treatment are vets. And I'm afraid - a lot of vacuumming for the foreseeable future. If there are fleas, there will be eggs and larvae and while most products kill the adults, its the eggs and larvae that keep them coming back. You need to get the little critters when they hatch before they breed. *yuk*

    8/31 please, Shaggy.

    Thanks Honey Bear :) Back when I started having AFDs it was one on/one off, and that's where I am now. Then I started having more AFDs in a row so I'm expecting to go the same way again when things calm down.

    It's the exhaustion and stress that makes me want to drink and have a holiday from my brain. Your comment to stupotstu is also useful, thinking differently about alcohol. It's not the great cure-all we sometimes think it is, but it warps the brain into thinking it is.

    I need to get some flea stuff and spray, and then spray again when I've put stuff where it should go. It would help if I could see a floor to hoover! I'd rather fleas than bedbugs though :eek: whichever it actually is.

    Strangely I didn't feel FABULOUS when I wasn't drinking and maybe if I did then it would be the trigger to knocking daily drinking on the head but I did have fewer headaches and mentally felt sharper. I'm almost clean out of alcohol in the house again and have resisted buying any when shopping yesterday, maybe that'll do the trick. So annoyed with myself, January had started so well :(

    I was disappointed in that one as well maggiesoup, not feeling so fabulous not drinking that it's the obvious decision. It's only now that I feel much better and happier when I don't drink.

    I don't know what makes the difference. It could be other things in life that take time to get sorted out with having AFDs, so they become part of a happier life, rather than the same life but with no alcohol. Or maybe it takes time for the esteem to go up that comes with repeat AFDs. I'm not sure, but now after 6 months there's definitely a bigger difference when I don't drink and I really enjoy it. Difficult to tell that to my night time self though at the moment.

    3/10 AFD
    please shaggy :)
  • Ellsbel
    Ellsbel Posts: 469 Forumite
    8/31 for today please, Shaggy :)
  • debjay
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    6/22 for tonight please.
  • Dizzy_Imp
    Dizzy_Imp Posts: 2,782 Forumite
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    Afternoon everyone :wave:

    Getting back in the swing of not drinking this month but have yet to notice the improved sleep I experienced in January. I'm finding it easier this time than in January - not sure why, but whatever the reason, I'm glad. My thoughts on drinking seem to have turned on their head. Previously I saw it as a reward or treat or as a way of "coping", now it's more likely a disturbed night and icky feeling the next day. Have I turned a corner?

    8/31 please Shaggy x
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