The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

piggles1

AlexLK wrote: »

As I'm not very well and tired, I'm going to give the 11.30pm thing a go tonight. :eek: Mrs K is a light out at 10pm and asleep in 10 minutes sort of person, despite teasing her for still having a child's bedtime routine, I'll admit I'm actually a little bit envious.

I don't really have any confidence / self esteem but haven't had since a few years before my son was born. Nothing new for me, really.

One hour until bedtime :eek:, the night is usually young at this time for me! :rotfl:

I think you're doing brill, seeing your number go up each day

I'm a 1am to bed person and really struggle with going to sleep when, as you say, the night is still young. I love the mornings though so I tell myself I'll see more of it if I go to bed early.

I remember once going out at dawn in the late summer and took a picture of some gulls in the morning mist over a little bay with some yaughts moored in the background. I really like the picture but I was happier then, living near the beach, and possibly that was before I got back to drinking again

I've moved now but I'm near a lake. I wonder what that looks like first thing. I'll put finding out on my to do list

Honey_Bear wrote: »

No matter how many times I read what giving up the booze would do for me I simply didn't see how I could get from where I was to where I wanted to be until I decided that I just had to knock it on the head. Miraculously - everything I'd been told was true and being sober was the solution.

I'm starting to believe this might be true. I don't feel massively better, just different. And a few weeks ago the thought of going to the lake would have made me thing urgh, no chance, I drink too much. But now I think well maybe I'm turning into someone who doesn't, and could do other things instead.

I'm still a bit stuck with the evenings though. The time that was spent doing nothing but drinking has to be filled with something, so I recorded a radio programme to listen to tonight while I tidy. At least tidying's part of the plan :rotfl:

Wanna_Bee_Free

Have a lovely holiday Satchmo, enjoy your well earned break.

I have been rebelling against actually accepting the fact that Alcohol interferes with my getting a good night's sleep. I manage getting to sleep ok, aka passing out but then I wake at 3 or 4 and struggle to get back to sleep because my head is running like a hamster wheel.

Once I get over the first few nights and get used to it I sleep much better when I'm sober or drinking a small amount.

I seem to be doing the metaphorical equivalent of sticking my fingers in my ears and shouting I'm not listening!

Alex I wanted to say sonething profound and positive to help but words fail me today. I hope you have a positive day today. x

Shaggy, please would you put me down for another one last night so 6/21 for me.

piggles1

3/8 ALD please shaggy

Just under 2 units yesterday weehee.

by the way you've put me under AFD but I've not had one..yet..

I might be meeting my friend next week. I've forewarned him I'm cutting down and not drinking much but he seems to be turning it into a who's drunk the most, when he hasn't got a problem and never did have.

Another friend talks about having too much as if it's what makes us the same, but I've been telling her for years I'm trying to cut down. She used to bring loads round and leave it at my house when I told her not to because I didn't want temptation.

I think maybe they find it unnerving that I've said it's a problem for me so they make comparison/denials, and me cutting down makes them either question it or 'inadvertently' sabotage it.

I'm sticking to my guns though. It's only me who needs to do this and I know my history so it's necessary.

debjay

I'm back from my hols - 10 days away all inclusive but managed 2 AFDs plus mainly ALDs.
Including tonight think that totals 9/13

Wanna_Bee_Free

Debjay, that's excellent on an all-inclusive holiday - your halo must be glowing!
Shaggy I'd like to declare early for 7/21 please.

AlexLK

Thanks all.

Really cannot give anyone a proper reply tonight as the going to bed thing really didn't work well. I went to bed but couldn't sleep. When I finally did get to sleep hours later, I kept waking up. Today has been a struggle to get through and to be honest I'm feeling less than articulate this evening.

On the plus side 14.

PriceySOS

10 please, Shaggy, thanks

Dizzy_Imp

19/22 please Shaggy. Been a tough day, but snuggled up next to the fire with a cuppa, so feeling less stressed.

Barny1979

19/25 AFDs today :-)

Honey_Bear

Sorry you're still feeling grotty, Alex, and that your sleeping hasn't improved. The way I dealt with the legacy of poor sleep patterns was the bring the time I went to bed forward by half an hour at a time, and then to bring the time I switched the light out forward by half an hour at a time. It wasn't instantly successful, but the actual sleep I got after stopping drinking improved because I slept through, and gradually the length of time I slept lengthened. Good luck with it.

21/31 please, Shaggy.