The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more ALD for yesterday.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

piggles1 wrote: »

ok, thanks shaggydoo i'll start with that and see if i can do a bit better than my target.

Yesterday i only had 3 units. It was nearly 2.5 but i hummed and haaad whether i'd sleep or not or cut down too fast and so i had an extra glass. My little glass is half wine half water so it only contains 1/2 a unit (i measure it on the bottle). In fact what they should do with wine bottles is have a marker in the glass every unit, save me doing the finger and thumb method.

i'm not sure how to write it on here, will it be x/16 ald?

1/8 ald :-)

shaggydoo

CuppaTea wrote: »

Shaggy, I intend to drop by more frequently can I please join the challenge. I have had AF days this month but can't remember how many. This week I have had 4 so far. Maybe I should say 8/21. Love the low AF day idea. Stops you from feeling having a unit or two is a complete right off. Its learning control and limits too.

8/21 it is.

shaggydoo

AlexLK wrote: »

I do try my best with my son but don't want him thinking I set a good example. The last thing I want is for him to end up like me. Mrs K thinks it's OK for me not to be earning much as her mother stayed at home when she was young but I've come to realise the world views me as some kind of freeloader.

Totally disagree with this statement. There is nothing more important than raising children and anyone that stays at home and looks after kids is a hero. When children first go to school, they're not actually there for many hours - it's lovely to have a parent to drop you off and pick you up from school. In the intervening hours between picking up and dropping off kids there's plenty you can do in the house to pay your way - housework, decorating, gardening, etc - all of which will take pressure off your wife. If she comes home to a clean, organized home she will love you forever.

Forget about what other people think. It's what works for you and your family that matters.

shaggydoo

AlexLK wrote: »

No need to apologise at all.

I always put my son first, have looked after him since birth and am honoured to have been there to see all his milestones thus far. I know I've been there so much more than most fathers, yet others judge me because I want to be there and as a result of looking after my son I don't earn much money. Nobody would look down on my wife had she been in my position, though. I suppose it's also my fault I had a mental breakdown before he was born and couldn't work for a couple of years. My wife loves her job and whilst she's getting a lot better with our son, never enjoyed being a mother until very recently, suppose that's my fault in the eyes of others too. The only people that seem to understand are my wife and my parents.

To be honest, I'd love to think myself worthy enough to be my son's hero. However, I do not think myself worthy of such an accolade because I'm just his Dad.

I'm not sure about that. People do look down on housewives these days. The key is not to give a !!!!!! what other people think. If it works for your family, it's the right thing to do.

You have to be brave to be a househusband (or even a housewife) - so be brave - and pay no heed to what others think.

shaggydoo

October:

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF


= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days
Alex 12/TF
Barny1979 17/25
Chardonnay 8/21
Charmed 16/31
Cuppatea 8/21

DebJay 6/13

Desperado 4/21

Gien 6/10

Lincs1205 /31
Honey Bear 18/31

Maman 4/10

Milky 3/15

Pricey 6/20
Satchmo 11/14
SandyPan 10/21
SmallHoldingSister 9/21

WBF 5/21


Alcohol Low Days
DizzyImp 17/22

Piggles 1/8
Shaggy 11/25




Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

AlexLK

shaggydoo wrote: »

Totally disagree with this statement. There is nothing more important than raising children and anyone that stays at home and looks after kids is a hero. When children first go to school, they're not actually there for many hours - it's lovely to have a parent to drop you off and pick you up from school. In the intervening hours between picking up and dropping off kids there's plenty you can do in the house to pay your way - housework, decorating, gardening, etc - all of which will take pressure off your wife. If she comes home to a clean, organized home she will love you forever.

Forget about what other people think. It's what works for you and your family that matters.

shaggydoo wrote: »

I'm not sure about that. People do look down on housewives these days. The key is not to give a !!!!!! what other people think. If it works for your family, it's the right thing to do.

You have to be brave to be a househusband (or even a housewife) - so be brave - and pay no heed to what others think.

Thanks Shaggy.

I do work but not full time and don't earn much compared to my wife. You are right about it being what works for us, I do feel extremely honoured to have seen all my son's milestones thus far. From a personal point of view, it's something I wouldn't miss for any amount of money.

maman

satchmo1 wrote: »

11/14 AFDs for me today.


I'm off holiday early tomorrow morning, to Carcassonne, so won't be online until next week.

Have a great time satchmo. You deserve a break and Carcassone is lovely. Enjoy!!

maman

At last I'm getting back on the wagon even if it is just for today.


5 AFDs please Shaggy.

Honey_Bear

Have a lovely holiday, Satchmo. OH and I drove from Toulouse to Beziers some years ago, and Carcasonne was one of those places that took our breath away as we were passing it. I've always longed to go there. Have one for me! :beer:

piggles1 wrote: »

Forgot to mention, yeh I've found this, that I can't not have a sip of something and end up doing random things to take my mind of it, but then I'm not getting enough liquids. So tomorrow I'm going to buy some cranberry juice and horlicks with the weekly shop. Cranberry juice is good because it's dry.

My solution is AF beer, but some people find it too tempting. I don't, and it makes life a lot easier because I actually like it! I haven't found an AF wine I can stomach and I'm not going down the road of AF spirits. If all else fails, a tomato juice with a hefty dash of Worcester sauce if we're out and the pub or restaurant doesn't have any AFs. Too much sugar, whether in soft drinks or not, makes me feel very, very ill. But I agree whole-heartedly, I need always need something to sip and water just doesn't cut it for me, sadly.

AlexLK wrote: »

Seems a lot of us are poor sleepers on here, a correlation maybe? This likely sounds really quite bad but I know I used to drink in the hope I'd drift off to sleep that night. Often it worked but a couple of hours later I'd be awake, didn't attribute it to drink though, of course. Now it may take a long time for me to get to sleep but I'm not constantly waking up throughout the night. Still don't get enough sleep, though.

'Fraid so, and the 'maybe' bit is extraneous, I'm afriad. The good news is that although stopping drinking made my sleep problems slightly worse for about two weeks, after that I slept like a baby and still do. I had insomnia from the time I was a teenager and never expected to sleep well again because it went on for decades, but this last year has been amazing. My new trick is to switch the light out before 11.30 pm and that's cracked my sleep problems once and for all. I can't tell you want a relief it is.

I also wanted to say that I echo absolutely everything Shaggy Do said about stay at home parents - of either sex. It's a seriously under-valued vocation and I can't understand why. I'm glad you recognise the value of it yourself but a lot of stay at home parents' confidence takes a heck of a hammering which isn't helped by ignorameses spouting carp about things they know nothing about and being stupidly judgemental. As Shaggy says, who gives a $h!t what they think?

Barny1979 wrote: »

17/25 AFDs today, had a few drinks last night, the first time since April 11th and felt it today, so as a punishment I went to the gym and also played tennis.

Well, Barny, you earned them. I hope you enjoyed them and you're feeling superfit after all the sporty stuff.

19/31 please, Shaggy.