The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

Barny1979

17/20 AFDs today

smiley_77

Great work Elusive Lucy !
Who knows what next month holds! More than half the days AF maybe? Keep it up!

Poor_Single_lady

22/25

Please can I have a target of 20 for August please Shaggy.
Got a bit more going on but going to try to be sensible on each drinking occaission.

CuppaTea

16/17 for me please. Thinking I shouldn't have raised my target as I go on holiday Saturday and I would hv hit 17 tomorrow. Unless I hv an AF Sunday or Monday. Hmmmm.....

maggiem

Congratulations HB 3 years is a huge achievement especially coupled with the great advice and help you give.

I haven't achieved another AF day yet. Some very worrying news about a loved one hasn't helped. Onwards and upwards in August I hope and aiming to get one more AFD at least on Monday. Hope everyone else is doing well

Honey_Bear

Thanks MaggieM. Everything I say is stuff that I've gathered on the road to where I am, and I'm now hard-pressed to know where most of it came from because I've read so many books and blogs about going AF and staying AF.

I love it, to be honest, really love living life free of hangovers, without the guilt that used to kick in even if I hadn't said anything hurtful or stupid, for just wasting another day or three on a hangover.

It's just a co-incidence but my AF journey started with a wedding on the very first AF day and we had another one on Saturday last week. I can remember very vividly how I felt at the first one, still hungover from the night out that caused all the problems, embarrassed about my behaviour, sorrier than anyone can ever know about the way I treated OH, dented where I'd fallen over, and ashamed of who I'd become.

Last weekend, I didn't dread going to the wedding celebration, enjoyed the company of exactly the same circle of friends who were at the same catastrophic event where I drank too much, realised yet again how boring most people are towards the end of the evening when they're repeating themselves because they're !!!!!!, and spent Sunday achieving stuff rather than lying around in a hungover heap, too bleary to do anything.

I can clearly remember knowing that the only way I'd ever want another drink again enough to have one would be if I'd had one to begin with to lower my resistence in the early days of doing this. Fortunately keeping that at the back of my mind has kept me from having that first drink every day.

I wouldn't give this life up for all the tea in china.

I'm 61. Taking OH out to lunch on my 3 year anniversary was the best thing I could possibly have done because it made me feel fantastic, exactly as I used to feel as a child on my birthday. I realise it was probably a sugar high but that doesn't matter, it felt amazing. I haven't really enjoyed my birthday for years but this feels like a fabulous day. I've been looking for a date to say is my birth date for on line registrations (why give companies all this free data if you can avoid it?) so I think I've found my alternative date. Yay! Another bonus of going AF.

28/31 please, Shaggy. Ooooh, another smiley. Good-oh.

maman

Lovely happy post HB. Now you're like royalty with an official birthday!:D Do you get to reset the year as well as the day?;)


I went out to lunch yesterday and stuck to slimline tonic although DH had wine. It was a bit of a struggle as I'd have enjoyed a glass but determined to find some willpower which has been missing recently.


Sorry to hear you've had bad news maggiem. I'll be joining you AF on Monday.:)


14 AFDs please Shaggy.

cathybird

Afternoon all, 25/21 for me today thanks.

cathybird

Hey maggiem, hope all well with the loved one x

ManPants

Congratulations HoneyBear. Fantastic achievement.
I, too, have history with weddings and getting drunk. The friends whose wedding we went to where I spanked the Mother of the Bride etc etc have been down to visit us 3 times since we got the pub but my conduct was mentioned. Horrifically shameful even 16 months on.........

So I managed 3 AF, revisited a light bulb moment of productivity versus drinking then promptly got sidelined by a cellar bar, some pink gin and a friend doing an impromptu visit whilst I had 3 hours off one afternoon.
Again, drinking has been minimal due to the short period between closing and going to bed but did manage 3 large gins and a glass of wine in 90 minutes last night so no further progress made.

I don't have the free time I used to have to go to the gym every day so my weight has increased by 5kg. Eating off a pub menu every day, drinks at midnight and no exercise versus the daily gym i used to do is doing terrible things to my body which means I want to drink more regardless.

Aiming for AF tonight!

M.P X