Is this website dodgy?

confusedinsuburbia

The site is called *oneclickchicksforum*, it is a voyeuristic site, where (mainly men ) post photos of naked women.

Now I know that men *look* and it is natural, but this site seems very seedy, and I lack a sense of appropriateness, as all but two of my dad’s friends used to grope me as a teen, so I grew up thinking all men were pervs, and not to be trusted.

So my husband is on this site (I checked by putting his password in the lost password form).

I know he filmed naked women, in secret, when on holiday with his ex, and that they were swingers, discovering this has made me more insecure.

Our sex life is currently non-existent, as he has trouble finishing, and I felt so rejected and useless, I just gave up.

I have no evidence of any wrong doing, but I did find two bottles of poppers in his cupboard, which he swore he bought but never intended to take.

I just want some reassurance that I am a paranoid, insecure idiot.

19lottie82

confusedinsuburbia wrote: »

I know he filmed naked women, in secret, when on holiday.

eh....... that's creepy and wrong, not to mention illegal.

you have no evidence of any wrong doing NOW, but it doesn't sound the best tbh, sorry!

paulineb_2

confusedinsuburbia wrote: »

The site is called *oneclickchicksforum*, it is a voyeuristic site, where (mainly men ) post photos of naked women.

Now I know that men *look* and it is natural, but this site seems very seedy, and I lack a sense of appropriateness, as all but two of my dad’s friends used to grope me as a teen, so I grew up thinking all men were pervs, and not to be trusted.

So my husband is on this site (I checked by putting his password in the lost password form).

I know he filmed naked women, in secret, when on holiday with his ex, and that they were swingers, discovering this has made me more insecure.

Our sex life is currently non-existent, as he has trouble finishing, and I felt so rejected and useless, I just gave up.

I have no evidence of any wrong doing, but I did find two bottles of poppers in his cupboard, which he swore he bought but never intended to take.

I just want some reassurance that I am a paranoid, insecure idiot.

No you dont sound like a paranoid insecure idiot, he sounds like the idiot.

Cotta

Poppers???

paulineb_2

Cotta wrote: »

Poppers???

http://www.talktofrank.com/drug/poppers

Poppers.

barbarawright

OK, this may not be something you want to think about, but has he ever taken photos of you that he may now be posting online?

Cotta

barbarawright wrote: »

OK, this may not be something you want to think about, but has he ever taken photos of you that he may now be posting online?

I'm worried about this now too.

Jim_Jupiter

19lottie82 wrote: »

eh....... that's creepy and wrong, not to mention illegal.

There's nothing illegal about filming in a public place.*

Morally wrong? Yes. Illegal? No.

*Assuming this was a public place and where the holiday was has similar laws to Britain.

Bazey

Yes, and what is his username?

LEJC

ive no idea whether the website is dodgy or not...and ive no interest in looking at it either.
For a relationship to flourish there needs to be mutual trust and appreciation of eachother....I dont think you have this with your OH if you are questioning his behaviour in this way.
If it were me I dont think any relationship that was this "alternative" would be able to survive...I guess its up to you to decide if you are happy with the lifestyle choices your partner makes...if you can accomodate them thats your decision.

Possibly your husband has issues himself which prevent him from maintaining a more conventional relationship...which is why he sees the potential need for poppers etc...whould it be worth him talking to a therepist or getting some proper professional help?

barbarawright

Jim_Jupiter wrote: »

There's nothing illegal about filming in a public place.*

Morally wrong? Yes. Illegal? No.

*Assuming this was a public place and where the holiday was has similar laws to Britain.

I find it hard to believe that any public nudist beach doesn't have rules about no photography. Most swimming pools in this country do. If it was legal, why was he doing it secretly?