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Potty/toilet training advice needed
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Have you taken her shopping to choose her special big girl pants?
I did that with all my 4 and let them choose favourites and they couldn't wait to get home and start wearing them?I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. When it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
When the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.0 -
I have 3 children, boys and a girl and have toilet trained them all the same......just take the nappy off and let them run around without anything on, yes it makes a mess but all of mine have been dry during the day within a week!
My youngest is 2 yrs 3 months and she has been dry since the day after her 2nd birthday, she is now also dry at night. When they realise they are making themselves wet they don't like it! I've never been one for training in pull ups as they just don't realise when the are "going" if they are doing a wee and its running down their leg then trust me they pick it up a lot quicker!!!! I spent the first 2 days putting my daughter on the potty literally every 15 mins and going crazy over board with the praise when she did just the tiniest drop!
I agree with perhaps a 3 yr old being too big for a potty so progressing straight to a toilet is probably best "like mummy does" , or are there any older siblings/cousins you can get them to show your child what to do. Bribery also goes a long way.0 -
Thanks so much for all the further replies. Well on Thursday I put her in knickers - I didn't use the pull ups as she doesn't seem able to tell the difference between the pull up and the nappy, and while I am sure they work for some kids but apparently not for mine!
Anyway Thursday was an absolute nightmare. She did do 2 wees on the potty but lots more wees (and number 2's) in her knickers. I did loads of encouragement, and explained each time that we shouldn't do wees on the floor or in the knickers, we should do it in the potty. By the end of the day I was completely frazzled and very tempted to just put the pull ups on again. However I woke on Friday with renewed optimism and oh my god what a difference a day makes!
I was woken up on Friday morning with "mummy I need a wee" so I shot out of bed and put her on the potty and since then apart from one accident (a number 2) she has been dry (including at night which suprised me) ever since. Each time she goes to the potty by herself then comes running up to me with a huge grin on her face to tell me what she's done. Obviously it is very early days and I am sure there will be accidents but she has done so amazingly well in a short space of time. I am so glad that I perservered. My only concern is that I took her to nursery today and explained how well she has done and they said that if she has 3 accidents then they will put her back in pull ups, which I completely understand but I am praying that they don't have to do this because I really don't want her back in the pull ups. I'm just going to cross my fingers and hope for the best.
I am a very proud mummy right now0 -
I think potty training was much easier before disposable nappies became common, as the discomfort was a spur to be clean.
35 years ago, I tried buying character pants, but there weren't any, so my son had to make do with bright yellow swimming trunks with Thomas on the front... and it worked, as Thomas didn't want to be wet.0 -
Another vote for Gina Ford Potty Training in One Week book :-).
I waited until both of mine were nearly two and a half to train, then pretty much managed it in a week each time using above book. I waited for Spring (accidents much easier when wearing less clothes and warm enough to be in the garden a lot), took a week off work and went for it. Pants straight on, no pull ups (confusing, they can't tell they are wet and they feel just like nappies) and no going back! At home all day for a couple of days, potty nearby, sitting them on it regularly, cheers and clapping, stars with success. Then short trips out with potty in back of pushchair, after that just proactive remembering to get them to try for a wee every so often. I think a packet of chocolate buttons was involved for doing so well after a few days. As well as waiting for warmer weather, would also advise foam sandals while training (rather than best Clarks leather shoes!) and a "piddle pad" which you can place in car seat/pushchair seat to soak up the odd accident. When they went back to nursery after a week being trained with me, they took star chart with them and I had a chat with staff about what our routine was/made sure little one knew what to do there potty-wise. Once they've got the hang of it, progress to the toilet as soon as you can, easier for when you're out and about.
As for dry at night, my son took a good couple of years after being potty trained, despite restricting bed time drinks, we just continued with nappies at night, then pyjama pants until he stopped having accidents. Daughter was dry in the night as soon as potty trained. They're all different :-).
Hope that helps. Guineapigsqueaks x
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It's interesting a lot of people are suggesting you shouldn't say anything negative if the little one simply goes to the toilet wherever.
While I am not suggesting you should shout or punish and agree the instruction on what to do correctly should be given but the kid needs to know what they did was wrong.
Perhaps get the little one to help clean up and show where the wee and poo should go.0 -
I think potty training was much easier before disposable nappies became common, as the discomfort was a spur to be clean.
35 years ago, I tried buying character pants, but there weren't any, so my son had to make do with bright yellow swimming trunks with Thomas on the front... and it worked, as Thomas didn't want to be wet.
I had hoped this was the case. We used washable nappies from the outset. However, either I have a child very tolerant of having a wet bottom, or he became desensitised to it, because he was in absolutely no hurry!0 -
I bribed my daughters into potty use by letting them choose some cute 'big girl knickers' that they could only wear when they were able to use the potty reliably. I remember training them before they were three because we were not allowed to sent them to playgroups in nappies so had a good target to aim for. I vaguely remember one of my girls preferring the child seat on the toilet to the potty."'Cause it's a bittersweet symphony, this life
Try to make ends meet
You're a slave to money then you die"0 -
I am a 1980's mum and they were in towelling nappies so potty training started at 8 months to stop the horrible napisan buckets. Mine were clean day and night by 15 months.0
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I think they did feel the wet and dirty nappy and that made them uncomfortable.0
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