Crazy Moodswings, Irrational Behaviour Of Addisonian Partner, Any Help, Advice?

lostinrates

paulineb wrote: »

Lots of people disagree on here and posts can easily be misinterpreted.

Yep.

I wouldn't worry too much loulou. . People generally are well meaning, or at least mean no harm, even if they don 't say what we want to hear or phrase things well.

Hope things feel brighter soon. What I would say is that I know as a patient its easy to blame too much on it. And that's not acceptable.

LouLou

paulineb wrote: »

You actually did have the same emoticon on the above post before you very quickly changed it.

Lots of people disagree on here and posts can easily be misinterpreted.

Yes, I changed it because I felt I was taking the bait from someone who, for some reason, seemed to enjoy poking me with a pointy stick. I can admit my faults and my mistakes but that wouldn't have been a good idea, rising to it.

I'm not someone who would try to dent someone's ego when they are upset: sadly, Forums are full of those sort of people. If it is a misunderstanding then I am sorry about that, too.

You may not see the replies as being cheeky, but I didn't sense them as being, friendly, shall we say.

I have done a bit of thinking, and yes, bad behaviour in relationships, and me being quite wonky with stress myself (this has shook me as well): it's not good for me. And he has to take a long, hard look at his moods.

paulineb_2

No, but some people have different posting styles. Also, its very possible that some peoples first language might not be English, there are a few people on the forums that as I got to know their posts I worked out that they were posting in what is their second language and whereas I might have thought some posts were direct, the language issue can certainly make a difference.

Some people are very direct and straight to the point. It is a forum where people will give a lot of support but wont necessarily agree with one another or the person starting the thread.

Its also very difficult to know always how someone feels when they are making a post, upset, sad, what else they have going on in their lives as well. There are times on certain forums where I dont post at all or Ive had a long break because of stuff that was going on in my life and I was feeling more sensitive.

Bazey

I've never met an addisonian. What language do they speak?

LouLou

Just as well I have a sense of humour

thorsoak

thorsoak wrote: »

You have children? How old are they? Do they live with you? Is he the father?

LouLou wrote: »

Erm, no, we don't have children. We live separately, not together. Are you on the right thread ?

When I asked thia specific question which was unclear from your our initial post, your response was quite rude (well, I consider the tongue sticking out emoticon to be rude) - as can be seen from this response (you forgot to delete this one!)

This is what you said in your first post which prompted my question:
"The kids running around riled him. He disappeared and got a pint of beer and some chips (french fries) to calm him down, he said. He came back for a while, then decided he was leaving for good. It was quite embarrassing for me as people around us just saw a stroppy guy being hostile (he was rude to the restaurant owner who tried to placate him)."

LouLou wrote: »

You have "Thanked" Errata's rather rude post. S/he has suggested twice that I probably wouldn't get help on here. It's not exactly encouraging me to hang around on this Forum thread! So that's what I meant by "hint".

Your last post was quite empathic, but previously you were borderline-dismissive. Of course, that is only through viewing words on a screen, where things can get misconstrued.

I realise that any emotionally-wrought situations on Forums are difficult and sometimes elicit thoughtless responses from others. I have had a very bad few days myself, but I won't go into that.

I'm in no mood to participate any more in this thread. As I said before, I appreciate those who were able to give me some of their time and experiences.

I really fail to understand why people post, asking for help/advice on a non-specialist board, and when it is suggested by people who try to help the OP that they might get better answers on a subject-specific board, that they go into a huff/throw the dummy out of the pram, accuse posters of being rude, and then delete their posts!

It really is very rude, to ask a question, then delete that and all your responses - which shows how little you appreciate the fact that people have taken the time and trouble to answer as carefully as they can and to give support.

LouLou

If you read back, I got a post on here last night (and PM), asking me to remove anything that could identify him, I won't specify which as I'd be revealing details about him again. I agreed as his safety and well-being is paramount. He has not been a well man.

If my editing posts offends people who want a soap opera of a thread I'm sure they can read many others, but I assume most people could understand my reasons. As I said also, I felt the thread had reached some sort of conclusion anyway.

I thought I had explained this earlier on??

I always thought a tongue-sticking-out emoticon was quite playful, actually. I didn't take offence to what you said on the 1st page. paulineb was referring to something completely different. A few posts on from yours, I said, in reply to paulineb, (and you, in a roundabout way), I said, "sorry, no, we don't have children. I misunderstood".

I have taken time, on a few occasions, to thank everyone on here, and personally responded to every PM. What more would you like me to do?

Forums, don't ya just love them.

paulineb_2

I actually dont think you said anything very much that could have identified him, thats the thing, some people post things on here that are quite personal, but unless you posted his name, address, town, date of birth, Im not exactly sure what the problem was.

I know some people are cautious and thats not a bad thing, but in the times where some people have facebook pages that are public, I think there are many more people online who could be identified by certain social media or forums than anything you posted on this thread.

LouLou

paulineb wrote: »

I actually dont think you said anything very much that could have identified him, thats the thing, some people post things on here that are quite personal, but unless you posted his name, address, town, date of birth, Im not exactly sure what the problem was.

I know some people are cautious and thats not a bad thing, but in the times where some people have facebook pages that are public, I think there are many more people online who could be identified by certain social media or forums than anything you posted on this thread.

I don't feel I said anything too personal, either, which I said last night too...but I don't want to risk upsetting anyone any more than necessary.

itsanne

Loulou, I didn't mean you needed to delete everything!