Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

grey_lady

But wouldn't that mean that they are no longer homeless and therefore not a priority for council housing? i suspect it would whereas if they stay put until evicted by the landlord (via court order) the council would have to consider them homeless and put them into temp housing until a suitable perm place came up.

Oh and i think £1 a name tag.

thorsoak

Mooloo's son has left home countless times - he is now 21, so an adult - and about to become a father. He and his g/f are NOT Mooloo's responsibility - they should accept what ever temporary accommodation is offered to them prior to them being offered more suitable accommodation once the baby arrives.

I understood from Mooloo's post that she was offering them the use of her workshop in the actual shop ...did I understand wrongly?

candlelight_2013

I thought she meant her workroom at home, I am not sure now

Candlelightx

Toomuchdebt

Honestly I hope this doesn't come across as nasty but I'm not surprised none of your children can cope alone because you keep doing everything for them!I realise the twins have learning issues but your son doesn't and neither does his gf so why are you stepping in yet again? If you house them the council will NOT find them anywhere. You're not doing them any favours by rescuing them again-they will never really try and get anywhere for themselves because they have you to fall back on. Stop being a dormat!(In the nicest possible way)

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candlelight_2013 wrote: »

I thought she meant her workroom at home, I am not sure now

Candlelightx

I'm sure she was referring to her third bedroom which was her sons which she turned into a 'workroom' when he left permanently to set up house earlier this year with his GF.
There are no cooking or bathing facilities at her shop.

Savvy_sewing

I meant the room here at home. But only for a few days. I said they will have to "sofa surf" if the council don't get them a place in time.
I will write a letter to the council to say they can't stay here due to DGD etc.
But I had said they could use the room as a last resort rather then actually sleeping on many friends sofa's.
Yes it's difficult to see them become homeless. No I couldn't cope with her and a baby.
I am hoping the council do something in the last few days for them.

On the work front, there is no way I could let them use the shop apart from the tenancy agreement, there is only a loo and hand basin. Also I use it working so not practical.
Today was a busy day, with people collecting and with me trying to do the last few jobs.
I am on track to be finished by 4pm tomorrow. So Monday I will be just sorting the shop floor layout. That sort of thing, and cleaning ready to come back in the new year all fresh.
DGD has gone to her Mum tonight. How she can hide her tummy from DGD I do not know. She already looks huge! But then she always did have a tummy and bad posture since DGD was born.
Tonight a hot bath, a bit of relaxation and out for a drink with a friend for a change. Grown up time! Yeah

Savvy_sewing

Well the jobs I had in were all done, and some new jobs too, but then a few suits are in to be altered by the week between Christmas and new year.
So Monday will still see me sewing. I will need to go in early to get a pair of trousers finished that are needed for Monday on a quick turn around.
the nursery are not opening the holiday club doors on the two days between Christmas and new year now, so I will have to either take DGD with me, or get Molly's daughter to babysit instead of help in the shop. She doesn't mind which she does.
Molly is really not very well at the moment, and is definitely in my prayers for an improvement in her health.
My sister and partner arrive from France today.
They are stopping with my parents for the holiday. My sister has been knitting for me. So I will have scarves and things to sell from the wool we have in.
Got to get DGD ready to go out now. She's off to See Santa.

Savvy_sewing

While DGD got to go and see Santa, I spent the morning blitzing the front room. A job that has been needing tackling for a very long time. Paperwork piles reduced. Recycling bin nearly full, toy piles tamed and rehoused.
The side tables cleared, the units surfaces found again. The room looks half as big again now.
I have cooked a rolled lamb joint for tea. Looking forward to a less rushed meal, and an evening doing some hand sewing jobs in front of the TV. Then perhaps some Christmas present wrapping once DGD is asleep.
I am going to visit one of my oldest friends after work tomorrow. I haven't seen her for the best part of the year this year. Time has run away with me so much!
twin1 told DGD about the baby. She has been a bit emotional ever since.
Coming home yesterday she went from happy to have a new brother or sister, to why is Mummy going to have another one, to what will happen if she can't keep the baby. To telling me that if Mummy can't keep the baby I would have to have it. I explained that I couldn't have it, and that this time Mummy has her BF to help her, and she had better learn from her mistakes and look after this baby herself.
If not then the baby would have to be adopted by another family.
It's still difficult to get her to understand. I won't bring it up again, but if she asks questions etc I will do my best to answer as sympathetically as I can.
Twin1 had said that she wasn't going to tell her. But deep down I knew that she would.

January20

You know Mooloo, I read your thread everyday, even if I rarely post and today I really feel for you. You do your utmost best for your family, and how do they thank you? By just ignoring your wishes, keeping you in the dark about what they're going to do when what they do is going to affect you or DGD and generally they create hassle for you. And you just cope! I admire you Mooloo! I would have ran away by now!

Savvy_sewing

January20 wrote: »

You know Mooloo, I read your thread everyday, even if I rarely post and today I really feel for you. You do your utmost best for your family, and how do they thank you? By just ignoring your wishes, keeping you in the dark about what they're going to do when what they do is going to affect you or DGD and generally they create hassle for you. And you just cope! I admire you Mooloo! I would have ran away by now!

Often very tempted to run away!
One day I may just emigrate!

I suppose there is no option but to deal with it all. But it would be amazing if I actually had a year that went smoothly. We can always hope that 2015 could be that year, but with three grandchildren arriving within 6 months of each other I very much doubt it!
But I am going to do my best to stay focused, positive, and keep on keeping on.

I've sat watching TV, and hand sewing another doilies runner for a customer.
Washing up is done after tea, ( usually leave it till breakfast) but as spent the day tidying up, wanted the kitchen to look less of a bomb site
I want to dig out the presents that I have bought so far, and start wrapping except I just realised that I left the Sellotape at work.
When DGD is asleep I will at least gather what I have and then see what's missing. Tuesday will be my only other chance to get things done.