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I need opinions again please?
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we have had a lovely Christmas day - we did realise later, there wasn't a present from No1 son but had a lovely gift each from their son (the grandson I mind) but were handed a card from No1 son and his wife.
We only opened it this evening, but inside was £40. It may not sound a lot to some people, but we know how they struggle. they are both working but for low wages. We feel this is way too much.
Son would be insulted if we just gave it back to them - but, I know that this is way more than they can afford.
any ideas on how we can get most or all of it back to them without them feeling slighted?
I'm sure they would feel insulted, life is hard for lot's of people, they gave you what they could afford to and wish for you to treat yourself to something nice , one day you may not be around for them to offer you a card or a present.0 -
You know what Meri ...If you are a "giver" often one of the hardest things to learn is how to accept a gift gracefully.
Think back you when you were young parents....and you showed appreciation to someone who had helped you .....and they gave you the gift back !!!
Take the money this time but make a "children only" rule for next year for gifts (and then shamelessly break it by giving gifts to YOUR children too if you feel the need
) I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
MSE Florida wedding .....no problem0 -
If they'd have turned up with a gift for you and your husband which cost £20 each you probably wouldn't have thought about it so much. I doubt you'd have thought of returning the gift. Because it's cash it seems to be more somehow doesn't it.
I'm sure you do so much for them through the year that they just wanted to give you something which shows how much they appreciate you. So, I would buy something just for myself and my husband, something which is very much a treat and tell them how much it meant to you. Then through the year I would make sure they got the money back, either by bits of food shopping or clothes for their son, things they would need to buy anyway. That way they get to treat you and get the pleasure from that which was intended but in the long run they get the money returned.:A
:A"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein0 -
If you mind your grandchild, couldn't you find some way to spend it on him?0
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