Good looking women with average looking men - how?

Tiddlywinks

I'm gobsmacked by the judgmental responses on this thread... 'good looking' women can only love 'average looking' men if they have money? Codswallop!

Looks are only skin deep and we all age, things will eventually sag, wrinkle etc... does that then make us less worthy?

Stop using your own warped values to judge everyone else... we're not all shallow and some of us can pay our own way without needing to prostitute ourselves in order to get where we want to be in life.

Phew, I feel better now.

FBaby

Because what a woman finds attractive is not as stereotypical than what many men find attractive. What turns me on is Brad Pitt/Beckam look alike, but smilie eyes, and body posture for instance. A man is attractive when his personality shines through his physic.

peachyprice

Callie22 wrote: »

In my experience, if you have an unattractive bloke with a stunning women then it generally only means one thing - that the bloke has got money.

Complete and utter BS, my husband doesn't have money beyond our joint income and for years I earned more than him.

January20

fluffnutter wrote: »

!!!!!!? You fail to see beyond what people look like and then say you're not shallow??

ETA. Reading some of the responses... seems like you're not the only one. Nice thread.

I'm sorry but I think you need to lighten up and perhaps also be a little bit more realistic.

LiveOnce wrote: »

When you walk around any good crowded area you always see such beautiful/good looking women with average looking guys.

It baffles me not in a shallow way but in some other ways, women make such an effort to look good so I would have thought they picked better in men.

You see women in media portrayed as vying for men like Clooney, Pitt, Cruise, or whoever the flavour of the year is in movies/TV.

I guess it comes down to maybe women look for other things in men than looks. Is this the case?

Or is it the case that the men who have the balls to ask out women tend to get it, over men who are good looking but are not bold?

Are there any good looking guys out there? Well, certainly not in the North-East, I can tell you! Haven't seen one in 15 years at least! :rotfl:

Seriously though, I have noticed it as well and my conclusion has always been that women "settle" for the "not so good looking" guy for many reasons, such as being afraid to be left on the shelf and our society putting so much pressure on individuals not to remain single.

**professor~yaffle**

There's good-looking and there's attractive.. As someone said earlier there are plenty of good-looking men and women but you wouldn't necessarily feel attracted to them. A boyfriend or girlfriend should be physically attractive (to you), whether others think they're good-looking or not.

One of the girls in my group of friends happens to be very stunning, but her boyf's a bit of a munter :rotfl: They've been together for years and no he's not rich, so presumably they're happy. Who knows what attracts a person to another, really.

Person_one

Let's not forget that everybody's idea of attractiveness varies, its completely subjective! I've got a bit of a thing for ginger hair, I love beards and glasses and don't mind at all if a man is shorter than me.

Somebody who would be gorgeous to me would be hideous to somebody else, while I've never understood the appeal of 'tough' types like Jason Statham and Wentworth Miller that some women find irresistible.

paulineb_2

Savemesomemoneyplease wrote: »

This is truly ridiculous :rotfl:

No its not.

I imagine that its tough for some people to believe that all women arent materialistic gold diggers, but hey ho.

The last person I dated seriously earned half of what I did. Ive been out with people whose family were very wealthy, but tight as a ducks backside, he certainly wasnt rich, they were and I dated him because I liked him, when I met him I had no idea his family had money and that wouldnt have been a factor in whether I settled down with him or not. Ive also been out with a guy who was absolutely minted and very good looking, but guess what, when I saw him, we used to drink asda smartprice wine that he bought, because he wasnt flash, he had a large house, hes got a lot of disposable income but I never saw any of it and I never expected to and when I met him, we had known one another at school but met up years after, I had no idea how much he earned, it had no relevance to me whatsoever, I pay my own way when I date someone.

Oh and even though he was really good looking, someone else might have thought, no he isnt, he was attractive to me, but other people might have thought not so much.

People are either attractive to me or they arent, money does not come into it. Ive dated skint people not so skint people, but the bottom line is, I dont expect the not so skint people to pay for me and if I wasnt attracted to someone, I wouldnt date them full stop.

Even if they had millions, that might not be the popular opinion, but its mine. And given that apart from a few short relationships Ive been single the best part of 8 years now, I can certainly look after myself, I dont need anyone to prop me up financially, therefore money isnt a factor when I do look for someone to date, why would it be, I have a life of my own that I dont need someone with money to change.

Waffle_On

This is what I think, in the majority of cases (of course there are exceptions):


Men who are physically very attractive tend to know it, and it shows in the way they treat you.


The less physically attractive guys seem to treat women much better, whether it's through compliments, gifts, generally making more effort, not to mention being faithful!


Of course, most of us dream of the perfect guy, physically attractive, funny, generous, financially secure, good in bed, does the DIY and helps with the childcare and housework. The reality is they are few and far between, and then you have to decide which things you can/can't live with. Once you've had your fingers burnt by the dishy bloke, it's easy to understand why a woman may change her priorities.

kitrat

kitrat wrote: »

I'm quite offended by the suggestion I'd just be with an average-looking guy for his money, I'd be interested to know if those comments were made by men? I'm sure some women are like that but I don't think you can emphasise enough how attractive humour is in a man.

Just want to clarify I don't regard myself as super-hot or whatever was said in the original post, just offended as a woman!

makjazz

Not all women, but most of the women in present days are looking for the men who have smart outlook, money and power. They also looking for social security as well, i guess.