Should I stay or should I go?

Delree

I'm utterly swayed by the positivity here, I'm currently filling out the application as we speak but won't be sending it yet. The closing date is a month away so I'm going to take my time and get it right.

belfastgirl23

All you're doing is applying for a job. You aren't moving, that's way way down the line. It's a zero commitment option. If you get an interview and if you get offered the job, then you will have a decision to make. You can still say no if it feels wrong. In the meantime, do some research and start to think through what it would be like to live there. Good luck!

marisco_2

There is nothing wrong with a fresh start. Especially so when the only person you are responsible for is yourself. You also have the freedom to up sticks and move where you please relatively easily as you have no property to sell or rent out. Do move for the right reasons though.

You seem to be seeing this new place as the answer to all that is not right with your life. Forgive me for saying this but fond, happy holiday memories could be letting you view it through rose tinted glasses a bit. A new environment can be stimulating and refreshing short term. After a while though it becomes familiar and daily life routines set in. If you don't resolve how you are feeling and address your outlook and approach to life, then the same feelings of restlessness and not being content with your lot will start again.

I made a huge move just over 7 years ago now, to a different area completely and started over again. It has worked out really well and I am now happier and more settled than I think I have ever been. That is not to say though that there haven't been many ups and downs and feelings of 'oh my god what have I done'. It took several years, sticking at it and working hard to build a new life for myself. I wish you a lot of luck and hope 2014 will be very happy for you.

Delree

marisco wrote: »

You seem to be seeing this new place as the answer to all that is not right with your life. Forgive me for saying this but fond, happy holiday memories could be letting you view it through rose tinted glasses a bit. A new environment can be stimulating and refreshing short term. After a while though it becomes familiar and daily life routines set in. If you don't resolve how you are feeling and address your outlook and approach to life, then the same feelings of restlessness and not being content with your lot will start again.

Exactly my fear. I want to make sure that isn't treating the symptom (and it may not even be that) and not the disease.

The town I have in mind is also a lot smaller than the one I'm used to so that'll take some getting used to if this all pans out.

Norma_Desmond

I just want to say good luck; and go for it!

We made the 'big move' more than 10 years ago now and it's the best thing we ever did.

Stephb1986_2

Life is too short, if you don't do it you will always wonder what if. Take the plunge what's the worst that could happen?

Good Luck

Steph x

trolleyrun

Do it, as others have said. I did a big move nearly two decades ago, and a few years later I moved another 600 miles to start a new job. I've met lots of interesting people, and made friends with some of them. I arrived with two holdalls, and now have purchased a flat, furnished it, improved it and am very happy

Savvy_Sue

Delree wrote: »

I'm utterly swayed by the positivity here, I'm currently filling out the application as we speak but won't be sending it yet. The closing date is a month away so I'm going to take my time and get it right.

Don't take too long, definitely don't risk missing the deadline. But bear in mind if there are a lot of applicants, sometimes the deadline is brought forward.

My only slight hesitation would be in the form of a question: have you ever been on holiday to this place out of season? I have very fond memories of holidays in Broadstairs - the sun always shone, at least I always ended up sunburnt! - but I wouldn't want to move there permanently unless I'd spent some time there in the dead of winter. (Actually I wouldn't want to move there at all, but you get my point.)

ognum

I would say do it as well, if nothing else it will make you appreciate what you have and you can move back.

Give yourself time though in the new place, understand you will be lonely at first. Find out about things to do before you go there and make sure there are things going on that you will enjoy. Mostly just have some fun.

Savvy_Sue

Thinking a bit more about what you said about not being sure if you were treating the symptoms or the cause, on one level, does that matter? Or, to look at it a different way, how do you find out which it is without moving?