Should I stay or should I go?

Delree

Wow those housing rules stink, you'd think after 5 years you would have qualified.

brunettifan

Go for it. This is the time of your life to take risks, you have no ties and no responsibilities to others, if you don't do it now you never will.

Delree

brunettifan wrote: »

Go for it. This is the time of your life to take risks, you have no ties and no responsibilities to others, if you don't do it now you never will.

Good point, this area doesn't have loads of good jobs it could be years before another opportunity comes around. This is, of course that I get the job.

DUTR

Delree wrote: »

It's the fear of what could go wrong that has stopped me from doing loads of things.

What might go wrong is that I end up in the same rut as I am here but this time with no friends or family. Is moving treating the symptom and not the disease?

But you're right, it's not like I'll die or anything and whilst things might go tits up they could just as easily go well and the thought of making such a big change excites me.

Don't regret what you did do, but what you didn't do.

Delree

DUTR wrote: »

Don't regret what you did do, but what you didn't do.

I've always loved that phrase.

egoode

Well I moved from Australia to London nealrly 9 years ago knowing no one and with no job and it's been the best thing I ever did and your move is much smaller in comparison.

Living in a flat share initially is generally a good idea as it can help you get to know people as a lot of my current friends are people I met via my flatmates. Also if it doesn't work out it's generally a bit easier to move out of a flatshare situation than if you bought or had your own rental. However I'd also be looking more long term and trying to save money so you can eventually get your own place as you won't want to be sharing still in 5 years time.

If you do get the job give it at least a year to settle in a new place and find friends it can take awhile.

Delree

egoode wrote: »

Well I moved from Australia to London nealrly 9 years ago knowing no one and with no job and it's been the best thing I ever did and your move is much smaller in comparison.

Living in a flat share initially is generally a good idea as it can help you get to know people as a lot of my current friends are people I met via my flatmates. Also if it doesn't work out it's generally a bit easier to move out of a flatshare situation than if you bought or had your own rental. However I'd also be looking more long term and trying to save money so you can eventually get your own place as you won't want to be sharing still in 5 years time.

If you do get the job give it at least a year to settle in a new place and find friends it can take awhile.

That's great advice thank you.

I've actually got plenty of savings so could lay down a deposit and get my own flat but I'd be less well off and I figure a house share is a good way to make friends early on.

The part about giving it a year is the bit that resounds with me, it's a long time but not really that long when you think about it.

Saturnalia

Do it. You've nothing to lose, nothing and no-one holding you back. Apply already!

CupOfChai

Go for it! What's stopping you?

I did it. Jobs where I'm from were thin on the ground, so I applied elsewhere and finally got one. Hundreds of miles away, in a place I'd never even heard of let alone knowing anyone there, and it meant living in house-shares or as a lodger which I'd never wanted to do. No one ever thought I'd take off to live far away on my own, not even me, I thought I must have gone mad.

That was four years ago now. Yes, I do really miss my family, friends and home town. But I've done things and been to places I'd not have otherwise, I have new friends (though not all local), am still in contact with the old ones, and it wasn't long after moving that I met my current OH...

And if it really all doesn't work out, you can always go back or move on.

tayforth

It's not 'for keeps'. You can always move back, or move on somewhere else. You have no ties, you're utterly free. The world is your oyster. Do it!!!!!!!!!!

FWIW, I left my unhappy marriage 8 months ago. I was terrified of the unknown, but I did it. And I'm so so glad that I did. We only get one life. You sound like you have a great attitude, I'm sure that you'll make friends and carve out a social life.

PLEASE keep us posted, I'm subscribing to this thread.