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Parents - what do you miss most about being childless?

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  • Gillyx
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    My son would stand at the door shouting 'mummy, mummy, mummy' and probably get upset if I didn't take him in. We don't use stair gates, so where do I put him while I go? Or do I just hold it in all day?

    People breastfeed until natural weaning, is that then weird because your child is on your bare breast?

    I've grown up quite comfortable with the human body though and nudity doesn't bother me, even now at almost 2 years of age, if my son is poorly or upset, a bit of skin to skin from me, calms him right down, it's amazing :)
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  • claire16c
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    seven-day-weekend wrote: »
    Well then I would have to take him in with me, but I tried to avoid it. At home I never did, neither of us did, we think there are some things that should be private. Your son will be twenty-five one day!

    I know I went in the loo with mum and the bath but I honestly can barely remember it!
  • seven-day-weekend
    seven-day-weekend Posts: 36,755 Forumite
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    notanewuser wrote: »
    What do they see though?! I'm not legs akimbo in the shower!!

    People have mentioned on this thread that they talk about boobs and willies and ask which particular bodily function you are performing. I did not want that so avoided it by not having him in the bathroom with me. I wanted privacy and imho there is nothing wrong with that.
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  • mcja
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    each to their own eh.x
    “Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.”
  • Person_one
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    seven-day-weekend wrote: »
    Agreed, but the Doctor is a professional medic, he is not my son :)

    And as for my husband seeing it all before, yes so he has, but I don't want him to see me performing bodily function necessities, any more than I want him to watch me puke. Sex is supposed to be romantic, seeing your partner have a cR£p is too much information, imho.

    This is a genuine question, how do you think you would cope if you had to care for each other if one of you become disabled, and that meant dealing with bodily functions?
  • seven-day-weekend
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    Gillyx wrote: »
    My son would stand at the door shouting 'mummy, mummy, mummy' and probably get upset if I didn't take him in. We don't use stair gates, so where do I put him while I go? Or do I just hold it in all day?

    People breastfeed until natural weaning, is that then weird because your child is on your bare breast?

    I've grown up quite comfortable with the human body though and nudity doesn't bother me, even now at almost 2 years of age, if my son is poorly or upset, a bit of skin to skin from me, calms him right down, it's amazing :)

    Breastfeeding is different, that is feeding your child. My son did not need to see my in the loo so I exercised my choice to be private.
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  • mcja
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    Person_one wrote: »
    This is a genuine question, how do you think you would cope if you had to care for each other if one of you become disabled, and that meant dealing with bodily functions?


    Would just crack on with it. Signed up for sickness and in health, not to wee or !!!!!! together!
    “Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff.”
  • claire16c
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    brunettifan wrote: »
    I have never understood those parents who say they can't go to the loo or shower/bathe in peace.

    I never needed to take mine into the loo with me, some things are private, who wants to see someone else on the toilet?

    And by school age most children need a 7pm bedtime so showers/baths can be taken then or before they get up.

    But as I said to seven day weekend surely there must have been occasions where you were out in public, and you can't leave a toddler wandering around a public toilet!
    seven-day-weekend wrote: »
    Agreed, but the Doctor is a professional medic, he is not my son :)

    And as for my husband seeing it all before, yes so he has, but I don't want him to see me performing bodily function necessities, any more than I want him to watch me puke. Sex is supposed to be romantic, seeing your partner have a cR£p is too much information, imho.

    I don't care about my husband seeing me be sick, I've had bad morning sickness and he was there with the sick bucket and tissues each time. I fact i asked him to be there as sometimes I'd need my hair pulling back etc! I don't care if he sees me wee but I shut the door for anything else :)
  • Person_one
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    mcja wrote: »
    Would just crack on with it. Signed up for sickness and in health, not to wee or !!!!!! together!

    But...they can amount to the same thing and often do. What if you need to empty a commode, change a catheter or stoma bag, dress your partner including incontinence pads?
  • seven-day-weekend
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    Person_one wrote: »
    This is a genuine question, how do you think you would cope if you had to care for each other if one of you become disabled, and that meant dealing with bodily functions?

    Well then I would do it. That is totally different to chosing to not disport yourself in the nude or pee in front of people when you don't want to.
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