Would you leav your young family and go abroad to work?

New_and_Improved_Me

Another question if i may

(I'm full of em today)

A friend of mine has been just offered an option to go work abroad for a period of 6-9 moths, he is very tempted.

However, he has a young family and would mean leaving them behind.

My question is two part:-

A (Man Part) - Would consider leaving your family to go work abroad, if you could make double what you make in the UK?

B (Woman Part) - Could you cope, if your man was away for 6-9 months with being a single parent of 3 kids?

warehouse

Man reply:

No I wouldn't. You work to live not the other way around.

Money_maker

Surely he should be talking to his wife, not his mate:eek:

What happens to the job/his work after this timeframe? Is it a stepping stone to better things or just a temporary bit of extra in the pocket?

arbroath_lass

A No, there is more to life than money.


B Yes, I could but as above. I would have to reconsider my relationship with a man who put money above family.


For the same reason I would not have dated a man in the forces or working offshore. Other people are different.

New_and_Improved_Me

Money_maker wrote: »

Surely he should be talking to his wife, not his mate:eek:

What happens to the job/his work after this timeframe? Is it a stepping stone to better things or just a temporary bit of extra in the pocket?

Temp.

A bit of extra in his pocket, but he was made redundent a few months back.

He see's this a option to make a little extra cash.

New_and_Improved_Me

arbroath_lass wrote: »

A No, there is more to life than money.


B Yes, I could but as above. I would have to reconsider my relationship with a man who put money above family.


For the same reason I would not have dated a man in the forces or working offshore. Other people are different.

That is understandable, but he's not putting money first.

Quite the oppsite, the way he sees it, is that he is planning for their future and in his opinion 6-9 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

arbroath_lass

New_and_Improved_Me wrote: »

That is understandable, but he's not putting money first.

Quite the oppsite, the way he sees it, is that he is planning for their future and in his opinion 6-9 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

That's the way he sees it but you asked for opinions and mine is the opposite. As I said other people are different.


Time is what is important to me and 6-9 months is a helluva long time with or without young family.


If his wife and family are in agreement that's fine. If not he could well find himself with a completely different future.

duchy

Depends .... Is he currently working ? What kind of impact positive or negative would a stint working abroad have on his work prospects when he returns.

Is the pay so good it would have a huge benefit to the family....or does he just fancy doing something different

What is his partner's take on this ...is she supportive and see the benefits and feels the disadvantages outweigh the benefits or not ?

(Questions based on real life experience of families who have done this -for one it gave them a fantastic boost and they've never looked back....... for another the wife realized she could cope very nicely without her husband and told him not to bother coming back)

Dunroamin

arbroath_lass wrote: »

A No, there is more to life than money.


B Yes, I could but as above. I would have to reconsider my relationship with a man who put money above family.


For the same reason I would not have dated a man in the forces or working offshore. Other people are different.

I'd respect someone who considered that supporting his family was important rather than letting strangers do it. The most important thing a parent can do is to put a roof over their children's heads and food in their bellies.

DKLS

Very difficult to tell without knowing the dynamics in the family, but I can understand the temptations, If I did a 2 year stint in the Middle East I could clear my mortgage but at what cost to family friends and relationships?


Its not the best feeling in the world when 'something' happens at home and your hundreds of miles away and cant help or offer a hug.

Takeaway_Addict

I probably would if it was for a short time, plenty of people work abroad for that period of time (ie army)

If they have been redundant for a while then it shows willing on the CV as well.