Nice People Thread Number 10 -the official residence of Nice People

tomterm8

It's windy today.

But not quite the Stormageddon that the daily express led me to believe would happen.

Edit: I don't 'design' a garden so much as hack at it with as sharp a machete as possible.

Further Edit: Generali, take care of yourself. I know it's probably nothing, but still scary and you have to give yourself permission to feel what you feel.

CKhalvashi

vivatifosi wrote: »

Having got stuck in various places yesterday, and DH the same, someone showed me the Twitter feeds for highways which are quite handy in showing what is and isn't open. Herts Highways has quite a good one for example. Yesterday it took me an hour and a half to get to work, a journey that, in light traffic, I can do in quite a quarter of an hour.

I feel your pain and hope that the journey home will be a better one. I'm def staying home today. Yesterday I met someone who had to be rescued from their car, they'd driven into a deep patch of water and it came up to the seats inside. That's not far from here either.

Thanks Viva!

Knowing what was open made the trip back just over an hour, and now the sun came out!

I appear to have gained a clean car on the very bottom at front, with the rest of it covered in mud. I like it clean, but bearing in mind I'm doing 800mi/week, there seems little point. Front/back reg is clean (well, the bit with the letters/numbers anyway) and so are lights and screens, so that's all I really care about.

Can I also apologise for my little outburst yesterday?! It probably wasn't needed as bluntly as it was, but I stand by every word I said!

SingleSue

Sending positive thoughts Gen....xx

CKhalvashi

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

That's what people flogging all those things would have you believe, anyway.

Valentine's day stinks, as far as I'm concerned. It implies it's fine to be a grump pain in the neck, or screwing your secretary, or other such charming habits, while forking out unnecessary amounts of cash yearly for over-priced, unseasonal flowers, pointless future recycling, and so forth.

OH and I haven't ever celebrated it, nor did either of our families.

In all honesty, I'm of the same opinion here.

One red rose (£1) left on OH's car when she's at work, and that's it. She knows it's me, but still.

Saw 10 roses for £6 on Thursday in the town I live (if any NP want to know where, PM me), so that will probably do the job this year.

Just a quick one to end, PM'd MissK this morning as I'm little worried about her. If anyone knows, can they please put my mind at rest?! Don't need details if not appropriate, just need to know she's ok.

CK

Generali

lostinrates wrote: »

Food more expensive and less good, because churned out theme food.

I like cooking churned out theme food, why pay someone else:rotfl:

I have a hankering to make a chiffon cake this year. But not sure what else.

I'm going to learn some more patisserie this year. I want to get croissants sorted and make pate a choux something that I can just knock out. Last year pate Sablee was my aim to just learn how to work with and I've got pretty good with it even if I do say so myself! I make a pretty amazing French fruit tarte with pate sablee, frangipane and fruit in it.

Thank you to FIR too.

lostinrates wrote: »

We do, but not In a big way. A suggestion from Mse was to swap the same cards back and forward adding a massage each year. Its actually lovely thing to do, you see old messages. DH is a sentimental hoarder and keeps all old love letters so cuts down on that kind of accumulation too, win win. Mid week its a bit of a nothing for us, but weekends we celebrate. Any excuse here:D


Any one who bought me a teddy, or something lurid plastic would be shown the door, so I consider it a service to cut to the heart of how well a lover with ambitions of real love actually knows me.


Hating this dylan farrow / woody allen thing going on.

It's hardly the first accusation against Woody Allen. I like a lot of his films: Manhattan is a classic, just amazing, and All I Ever Wanted to Know About Sex but was Afraid to Ask is very funny, particularly the black sperm amongst the Jewish ones. He is a bit of an odd-ball and he's kinda struck me as a wrong 'un before.

I have a good sense for that sort of thing: I can often spot the husbands of Mrs Generali's friends who are cheating or a bit handy with their fists. The divorces rarely come as a surprise.

I'm not a big supporter of Valentines Day: I love Mrs Generali 365 days a year, not 1. She gets flowers and, even better to her mind, free corporate branded freebies. There's little that Mrs Generali likes more than a JP Morgan water bottle or a Goldman Sachs golf umbrella.

vivatifosi wrote: »

Wishing you the very best Gen. The word tumour is horrible isn't it? Thank goodness so many are benign. Good luck with the biopsy, my thoughts are with you for a good result and hope that the process doesn't take too long.

If you want to sound off during the process, there are many of us here who have been on similar journeys so just say. I need to empty my pm box, but pm if it helps.

All the best.

The word tumour isn't very nice. I'd not thought of it before but then I've not really had to. They've belonged to other people so I've felt sympathy rather than fear.

Thank you for the offer to PM you. I may well take you up on it. LIR and NDG have also been very supportive during my recent travails.

Generali

The start of Manhattan for those that haven't seen the film:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dihjrm1Qk_0

Bom bom bom bom, CRASH tah dah dah dah dah dah dah dah de dahdah deh dah de dah dah......

Brilliant.

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

Seriously not nice.

As a kid I heard this more than once a long with much nicer (and Cattier) confusions that sibling was my parent.

I can tell you it hurts the kid, a lot.

Edit: personally I think delaying parenthood is not most prudent and a worrying social trend for health reasons. But its my personal opinion, others have the right, the absolute right to feel and do different.



As to other points.....I don't really feel lots of you are strangers tbh. Helped by the fact I have met some, but tbh, lots I met didn't feel like 'strangers'. I think I just feel able to relate here differently because most peoe don't give a monkeys if someone's third cousins dog is snoopy or whatever.



We're just people, who might or might not be somehow connected, but the obvious 'nickname' removal even those of us who 'know who each other is' in real life, seems some how more ...to the heart of the matter at times. Does that make sense?

This couple have only been together for few years and these are honeymoon babies. First time marriage for him. So not delaying parenthood -just opportunity and finding "the one"

NP are also usually non judgemental and diverse - so there is no expectation that anyone will 'conform' to a group consensus although we have established our own culture. I think we might be what my daughter would describe as an imagined community.

Spirit_2

Generali wrote: »

She thinks it's a Warthins Tumour, a benign tumour. She told me to Wiki it. It'll need cutting out.

The alternatives are very bad. Unlikely though.

Gen - so sorry you have had this. Even if benign - still tedious to have psyched yourself up for today, then get knocked back and face more uncertainty. Will be thinking of you and come on here and remember to come here and tell us your worries - you are not wuss - few people look forward to clinical procedures. I droned on for ages about my fear of moving to injectable drugs and was treated very tolerantly by NP.

vivatifosi

Generali wrote: »

It's hardly the first accusation against Woody Allen. I like a lot of his films: Manhattan is a classic, just amazing, and All I Ever Wanted to Know About Sex but was Afraid to Ask is very funny, particularly the black sperm amongst the Jewish ones. He is a bit of an odd-ball and he's kinda struck me as a wrong 'un before.

I feel the same about him. I love some of his films. Including All I Ever Wanted to Know about Sex, which I saw in a film in Soho when I was about 20 and there was a man sitting behind me wearing rubber. Everytime he moved during the film (which was plenty of times, I did not look round to see what he was up to) his outfit squeaked. I sense he thought it was a different type of film.

I also enjoyed Sleeper, Annie Hall and Bananas. I loved Manhattan, but didn't watch much of his after that as I found that it wasn't as good.

Generali wrote: »

The word tumour isn't very nice. I'd not thought of it before but then I've not really had to. They've belonged to other people so I've felt sympathy rather than fear.

Thank you for the offer to PM you. I may well take you up on it. LIR and NDG have also been very supportive during my recent travails.

The thing with tumours is that they are just growths. But the word so readily gets associated with cancer. Yes, some tumours are also cancers, but there are so many that are benign that I think they get a bit of a bad rap. I'm always having bits cut out, so learning to love mine and trying to face new ones with less fear is a good strategy (says the woman who lost the plot a bit before Christmas, but it was a different one and came from left field). It's also worth saying, that even when people get a C word diagnosis, it's still eminently survivable in most cases. Especially when caught early. So if you know you are prone to something, being able to spot changes in you is such an important strategy.

I have tinkered around and spring cleaned the back of the MSE virtual broom cupboard and my box is now free for pm'ing should you feel the urge.

Generali

vivatifosi wrote: »

I feel the same about him. I love some of his films. Including All I Ever Wanted to Know about Sex, which I saw in a film in Soho when I was about 20 and there was a man sitting behind me wearing rubber. Everytime he moved during the film (which was plenty of times, I did not look round to see what he was up to) his outfit squeaked. I sense he thought it was a different type of film.

I also enjoyed Sleeper, Annie Hall and Bananas. I loved Manhattan, but didn't watch much of his after that as I found that it wasn't as good.



The thing with tumours is that they are just growths. But the word so readily gets associated with cancer. Yes, some tumours are also cancers, but there are so many that are benign that I think they get a bit of a bad rap. I'm always having bits cut out, so learning to love mine and trying to face new ones with less fear is a good strategy (says the woman who lost the plot a bit before Christmas, but it was a different one and came from left field). It's also worth saying, that even when people get a C word diagnosis, it's still eminently survivable in most cases. Especially when caught early. So if you know you are prone to something, being able to spot changes in you is such an important strategy.

I have tinkered around and spring cleaned the back of the MSE virtual broom cupboard and my box is now free for pm'ing should you feel the urge.

Sleeper has one of my favourite film quotes: "They can't touch my brain, it's my second favourite organ!"

Annie Hall is great but is also one of the films that makes me think, hmm we've a wrong 'un here. Bananas is great too.

That's a brilliant story about AYEWTKASBWATA. I'd dine out on that one.

I'm trying, and succeeding for the most part to be quite relaxed about The Lump. I should give it a name really. Leon perhaps (as in Trotsky) unless someone can think of a better name for something that would do us all a favour by being dead!