Finding A Relationship

Brighton_belle

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

if I'd sat at home and left it to chance I would never have met him and would never be as happy as I am now, so sometimes I think it's ok to go looking

I think it is very ok to go looking after time on your own. I have 3 friends who met the right man for them through dating sites after years of singledom. They are now married with young children.
I don't subscribe to the 'stop looking and it will suddenly happen' because for many of us it doesn't. Yes, stop projecting desperation, but it is entirely natural to want to pair up (and equally natural not to if that is not what you want).
I also know oodles of people who met their life partner when young - I don't believe they were any more 'sorted, happy to be single blah blah blah' that those of us single into late 30's and beyond. They were just lucky.

DonGotti

The_Hurricane wrote: »

Hi All,

Does anyone else struggle with this? I just don't seem to be able to find anyone that interests me and I wonder if it's meant to happen or not?

I've done the whole single life thing and maybe for too long but I want to move on from this and I feel I'm unable.

Hi Hurricane

I personally believe that whilst another person may enhance your happiness, I don't think they alone can make you happy. I don't think it's healthy either to have our happiness dependant on another as they may not (for whatever reason) always be around. I sincerely believe that true happiness is something that lies within ourselves and it is not something that can be achieved externally.

I too have been single for a while but in all fairness I don't really try hard enough - I have no problems making friends with women but it never seems to develop to the next stage.

I am happy in my own company - I don't need many people to keep me happy and do like my own time. However sometimes I do worry that I may not always feel like this and it may be "too late".

But I'd rather stay single than settle for being with someone out of a fear of loneliness that may never materialise. Also it's very possible to be with someone yet still feel lonely.

I think sometimes society (some cultures certainly do) place too much emphasis and pressure on people to be in a relationship. It isn't for everyone and it is possible to lead a happy life as a single person.

Morglin

I found my DH when I wasn't even looking!

Love comes when you least expect it, so just live a full life, and go with the flow.

Lin