should we send boy to sports day or not

Oldernotwiser

No wonder the schools have such disciplinary problems when parents come up with unsupportive attitudes like this. Parents should support their schools or children will feel that they can also be stroppy with them!

Spendless

There's a lot of judgemental posts on here without having any info from the OP. For all we know she lives miles away from the school, has to drag other kids out with her to take her son to sports day all in what might be heavy downfall, all for something that is taking place out of school hours.

hope you did what is best for you and your family OP last night, as I can understand if you decide not to come back to this thread. :rolleyes:

caris

Thank You To Everyone Who Commented On This Thread, Our Child Did Go, And Ended Up With A Sprained Ankle For His Efforts After Slipping On The Sodden Grass!!

I Was Very Disheartend With Some Of The Comments Raised In This Post

I Am Not A Bad Mother Who Encourages Their Child To Do Has They Please Regarless Of The Consequences, I Encourage Him In Everything He Does, And The School Has Our Support.

However The School Should Maintain Some Of There Decisions, Especially When They Cancelled The Previous Sports Evening And The Weather Was Not As Torrential As Yesterday.

Also Some Of You Commented That Children Should Go Out And Do Pe In The Rain, As It Does Them No Harm, Well He Does Do Pe In The Rain, And They Have Swimming In The Oudoor Pool In The Rain,

aurora_borealis_2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

No wonder the schools have such disciplinary problems when parents come up with unsupportive attitudes like this. Parents should support their schools or children will feel that they can also be stroppy with them!

Not in my experience.

I prefer to engender a free thinking attitude in my children. They are not institutional drones.
Just because a school decides on a policy does not make it right.

If my children have a good reason not to partake in an activity that is non teaching/ exam related, I will support them.

My youngest has excellent reason not to want to attend sports days and so she has never been made to.

My eldest two, however, despite not being particularly athletic chose to attend to support their teams.

They are all individuals.

dfwz

Wow, a lot of people jumping on the OP about parenting skills, even though the OP did one of the best things a parent could do - asked for advice when they needed it. Well done in my opinion.

I wouldn't make my kids go though, they make their own decisions generally and discuss them with me and ask for my advice. I'd advise them to go though and whether they did or didn not I'd help them deal with the outcome.

That's good parenting in my book, independent decision based on advice from those you trust. Seems the OP is making their decisions in the same way.

Spendless

caris wrote: »

Thank You To Everyone Who Commented On This Thread, Our Child Did Go, And Ended Up With A Sprained Ankle For His Efforts After Slipping On The Sodden Grass!!

I Was Very Disheartend With Some Of The Comments Raised In This Post

I Am Not A Bad Mother Who Encourages Their Child To Do Has They Please Regarless Of The Consequences, I Encourage Him In Everything He Does, And The School Has Our Support.

However The School Should Maintain Some Of There Decisions, Especially When They Cancelled The Previous Sports Evening And The Weather Was Not As Torrential As Yesterday.

Also Some Of You Commented That Children Should Go Out And Do Pe In The Rain, As It Does Them No Harm, Well He Does Do Pe In The Rain, And They Have Swimming In The Oudoor Pool In The Rain,

Hope your sons ankle is better soon. You could do a thread about it and have people judging you on being a bad mum who lets their child get injured if you send them to sports day when the ground is wet.;)

I am sending you a PM btw.

dianadors

My DD inherited all of my sporting prowess (or should I say extreme lack of!) Every year throughout Infant and Juniors Sports day, she used to kick off a trainer midst event which gave her the perfect excuse for coming last. She thought of that one all by herself!! It made me giggle every year and I'm sure no one else noticed. When I was at school - my best mate and I (she had the same sporting ability as me!!) used to take it in turns to come last. I dont have a competative bone in my body!

Oldernotwiser

aurora_borealis wrote: »

Not in my experience.

I prefer to engender a free thinking attitude in my children. They are not institutional drones.
Just because a school decides on a policy does not make it right.

If my children have a good reason not to partake in an activity that is non teaching/ exam related, I will support them.

My youngest has excellent reason not to want to attend sports days and so she has never been made to.

My eldest two, however, despite not being particularly athletic chose to attend to support their teams.

They are all individuals.

Free thinking is a wonderful thing within a family setting where there's only a small number of children. Imagine being in charge of a class of 30 who all wanted to do things their own way; there'd be anarchy!

Unfortunately, many people who subscribe to this point of view see nothing wrong in violence, bad behaviour and foul language. I'm sure that this doesn't apply to anybody here but it's the logical extension of your post. If it's ok for your kids to do as they please then that has to apply to everybody and you won't always like the results!

Of course I'm broadening the discussion away from sports days; or going off topic, if you prefer!

Mark7799

Still wondering why the OP was asking yesterday if she should send her son to Sports Day or not.

Was it because of the school's attitude or because of the weather? Hope her son gets over his injury soon but this sounds like it was an accident - could have been twisted on hard dry ground equally as well as slipping on wet ground.

I can't make any comment on her parenting skills, just wondering why she asked the original question.

Toto

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Free thinking is a wonderful thing within a family setting where there's only a small number of children. Imagine being in charge of a class of 30 who all wanted to do things their own way; there'd be anarchy!

Unfortunately, many people who subscribe to this point of view see nothing wrong in violence, bad behaviour and foul language. I'm sure that this doesn't apply to anybody here but it's the logical extension of your post. If it's ok for your kids to do as they please then that has to apply to everybody and you won't always like the results!

Of course I'm broadening the discussion away from sports days; or going off topic, if you prefer!

Nonsense, I believe in giving my children an opportunity to make choices. I do not believe in violence, bad behaviour and foul language. During their hours at school they are expected to take an active part in everything and to abide by the school's rules. During their home hours they are expected to do the same, however I do give them choices over what activities we do. I do not want my children to grow up never making a decision and never feeling the reward or suffering the consequences of their choice. That to me is balanced responsible parenting. I don't want my children to be adults who are constantly looking to other people to lead them and make their decisions for them.

If this were my child, during school hours no question that they would take part whatever the weather, out of school hours they could explain to me the reasons why they do or don't want to do it and I’ll give them a balanced argument we will reach a decision from there, together.