Need a kick up the bum!!!

graspandsave

I have nothing new to say that hasn't been said already.
Just wanted to wish all the best, and give you a MSE hug.

Yes it'll be expensive- go for the hair , professional make-up, killer outfit, the works.

On the night, try your best to forget all the "stuff" that's gone before, and be civil but brief, frankly the "other" half isn't of relevance to your day to day life, yes she exists so what? She's NOT worth it, your time nor your energy.
Enjoy your DD and her special moments in the show.

Feel good about yourself, ALWAYS, you've come a long way from the person you were back then, be proud and hold your head up high
Have a great night, enjoy the performance. come back on here and there'll be plenty of support afterwards and some may join you for that stiff drink

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

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Where to start, I separated from my husband just over 2 years ago, it really wasn't a pleasant separation. He had had an affair (they're still together now). This I think I've gotten over!!

So the problem is - I know I'm being stupid but my dd has a concert coming up and obviously she wants both mummy and daddy there. Which is fine as we are very amicable where the children are concerned. But he wants to bring his partner as well, which I really don't feel comfortable with. (There is a lot of personal stuff involved.)

So how do I deal with this?

I know that I no longer have feelings for him, (There is a lot of personal stuff involved, around the break up). But I really don't know how to deal with it.

Smile sweetly, say hello - then sit the opposite side of the hall.

You'll wonder why you were so bothered by it afterwards.


I ended up going to parents evenings and shows and sitting with the ex and his future wife. I survived. And DD was far happier as a result.


Just think of how you'll be on the higher moral ground than the psycho exwives who go ballistic at the thought of someone who has been a part of their kids' lives for years daring to take an interest in said children.


It'll be fine, I promise - yes, it'll feel weird. But it'll be fine.

Blackpool_Saver

New partner should go of course as I have no doubt when the child goes to visit Dad she does the work required to facilitate that visit, therefore she should be afforded the respect of a ticket to the performance.

ALL adults should be pleasant for the child's sake.

Try to enjoy the performance your daughter is in and not the performance of you ex and his partner.

Edited to ad: your ex should approach the school for his parent's tickets, that is his/their job, not yours

FBaby

How does your dd feels about it? I think this is what matters. Does she wants her to be there? If not or if she is not bothered, why is she coming?

There_Goes_Trouble

graspandsave wrote: »

Yes it'll be expensive- go for the hair , professional make-up, killer outfit, the works.

I wouldn't bother with all this. Is it really worth the expense? All that will happen is that you'll look like you're trying to impress and that could be interpreted as wanting him back....

I'd make the same kind of effort you would for any other school event and leave it at that. This is going to happen again and again over the years, are you going to get professional make up done every time you meet? Just be normal, be yourself. That will be much easier to sustain for the next 20+ years and gives a much stronger message to your children.

bagpussbear

I would take a friend with you if you can, will help having someone next to you to chat and make the evening more bearable. Remember you don't have to sit anywhere near them.

But like others have said, dress yourself up and put on a fake smile and look like you are so not bothered by them in the slightest.