Family member at disciplinary

p00hsticks

mickey54 wrote: »

Forgive me if you think this is over the top...but do you have Legal Cover on your home insurance? If you do .. then you also have access to an employment lawyer...speak to them..let them come into your meeting.

I'm not sure how standard or not it is, but the Legal cover on our home insurance (with Nationwide) specifically excludes employers disciplinary hearings

paulineb_2

monty-doggy wrote: »

Nor will I be if I get fired

Not the case. You'll get it and then your case will go to a decision maker. Its 13 weeks for a first sanction I believe, not 26.

paulineb_2

I think you should take your partner in with you, its very important you have a witness in the hearing and even if he does nothing else, he'll be witnessing the events.

Elvisia

I would strongly recommend in this meeting that you sit and listen to what they have to say, and think before responding. Don't try to guess what they're going to say, or start resigning if you think they might be firing you. Even if they do let you go then you can perhaps negotiate on the terms of leaving so it's being 'fired' which looks bad for your next employee. I have learnt to keep my mouth shut and only speak when it's essential and you need to put your case across. However hard it is don't get emotional and find yourself rabbiting on and digging yourself into a bigger hole. I had someone do this the other day, they were obviously upset with how they thought they were perceived and you could see them burst into tears before a huge rant came out, they immediately regretted it afterwards and they even nearly managed to make their boss cry.

It will get better, it really will, you just have to keep going on and moving forward. I've had jobs like this where I've fretted and fretted and now when I look back I can't even remember what the problem was, just that I hated myself and my situation for months on end.

xx

Missme

There is no right in law to have a family member (per se) at a disciplinary hearing.

Nor is there a right to have a lawyer there unless not being allowed to do so would breach Article 6 on the European Convention of Human Rights. In the OP's case, I can't see that it does.

Where one is being offered 'rights' in excess of statute it would be beyond foolish to dismiss them.

Take someone with you. Take someone with you. Take someone with you, if only as a second set of ears. Martyrdom should be a last resort.

scoopboy

monty-doggy wrote: »

I'm the store manager, so I don't want one of my team there, it's not right plus they are problematic enough without having me to gossip about.

I don't know anyone else outside my store well enough for them to support me.
My oh will just be quiet, he wouldn't judge me he just wants me to be strong and not cry. I think that will be easier if he is there because I'll be strong for him.

I think it would be a good idea to have your OH with you.

In these situations often you might not concentrate as well as normal and it will be good to have another pair of ears being able to do that for you. This will be particularly useful if you end up going to appeal as you might not remember everything.

They can also ask for a break if they see that things are getting difficult for you - you can ask for this and then step outside for 10 mins take a breath and regroup. Also ask him to keep a note of things just in case the notes that you do get don't match up.

I would definately prepare though. Set out what you believe has happened and then why you have done certain things- eg did you ask somone and have been given inlorrect / unclear advice, was there anyone to ask, were you under pressure to make the decision etc. You can also make a statement of mitigation and ask your employer to take this into consideration, it could include things like long unblemished service, or you could have some personal circumstances to bring to the table etc. Make sure your OH also has a copy and he could help you by prompting you to make sure that you don't miss anything out. They may also allow him to read a statement for you (might help you to keep your dignity if you are worried about being upset). Finally it is worth having someone you know there for when you come out of a hearing like that and make sure that you get home ok.
Good luck

makeyourdaddyproud

Who's the employer. I think it's a good time to apply...