Too late to fix things?

marisco_2

I honestly don't understand what the attraction is to this woman!

You confided in her that you didn't feel 100% secure in your relationship yet. Rather than listen, take your feelings on board and go out of her way to reassure you, her response was to take your comment out of context, go mad at you, refuse to meet you and instead argue with you for days by text. This has left you feeling unable to eat, with your head spinning and feeling even more anxious and upset. Those are not the actions of someone who cares for you OP.

Your self esteem and any sense of self worth must be at rock bottom, for you to even consider wanting to be in a relationship with a person who treats you like this. After knowing someone for just 6 months you should be enjoying a fun, light hearted time together. Not for things to be so intense and feeling torn apart emotionally.

Lunar_Eclipse

I believe it's never too late, however it sounds like a very intense relationship and I wouldn't tolerate the games that are seemingly being played.

I would either walk away or sit down and talk about what's really going on, as adults. Your girlfriend doesn't appear to be treating you with the respect you deserve, nor as I would want to be treated by someone who loved me, especially only 6 months in.

fake_smile

tea_lover wrote: »

Going on this and your other posts there don't seem to be any positives to this relationship, for either of you.

No, it's just that I don't post about the positives. There are lots

heartbreak_star

You argue all the time, you play games with each other, you're stressed and not eating.

What positives could balance that?

I'm sorry OP, this is destructive.

HBS x

pops5588

fake_smile wrote: »

No, it's just that I don't post about the positives. There are lots

I'm sure there are, and I am pleased there are. But this doesn't detract from the fact that the relationships negatives are so extreme. Panic attacks, starving yourself etc.

ETA: Sorry, cross-posted with HBS

Orlando_Virgin

Anyone who has seen me post on here knows that I have been through a similar relationship quite recently, and I'm glad to say I have moved on and I'm much happier now.

One poster said it brilliantly earlier I feel, you can't choose who you fall in love with, and unfortunately you can reach a stage where everything is wrong EXCEPT the love. It's crazy to think you can get to that stage, but I class myself as quite level headed and rational, yet still found myself there.

From what you have said in this post, it seems your relationship is quite passionate yet volatile, and you really shouldn't be having problems with stability at this point, this generally is the BEST part of a relationship. Have you considered this?

gazebo

This needs to be taken completely tongue in cheek please, but my initial reaction and response is *tsk, Lesbians* - what is it with all the drama and the messing with each others minds?

Back to being serious though, and pointing out that I say that as a gay woman, who has been in several similar relationships and has lived to tell the tale.

Whilst all relationships involve effort from all involved parties, no relationship should require this much hard work. If you are both constantly struggling to keep the relationship alive, is it really all that healthy for either of you?

At the end of the day the most important person in your life is actually you. If you are happy, healthy and in a good mental state when you enter into a relationship, then the person you are with is able to see the real you. If you have a lot of baggage, or are unable to treat a new partner fairly, as in, you judge them on the basis of how previous partners have treated you, then you aren't giving yourself a fighting chance of things working out...

That's all very longwinded.

I think what I meant was, it doesn't sound like you are in the right frame of mind to be in any relationship right now - you need to have take time out and reconnect with who you actually are. Once you've done that, you'll be in a much better place to share your life with someone.

The fact you love the other person does make things more challenging, but it is possible to love someone but not be able to continue in a relationship with them.

I hope some of this makes sense and I wish you luck