Too late to fix things?

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paulineb wrote: »

No you cant turn it off, but Id question how much you actually do love one another given that you are being pretty destructive towards one another and its been 6 months now with more than a few blips along the way.

Lots of people can be insecure, but as youve found out, shove someone away often enough and they might decide to walk. You both have control over your actions.

Either, you continue and you both get some support or try your best to be a bit more positive to one another. Change things. Stay as you are and realise that you'll just have more of the same in front of you.

Or decide no matter how much you love one another you just arent right for one another.

Well we are meeting tonight so will see what that brings. I know what you're saying, I really am willing to change in order for this relationship to have a future.

C_Mababejive

No one owns another..you are both free to enjoy life as much as possible. Lord knows it is short and troublesome enough. So lighten up a little and above all,keep your problems and insecurities to yourself in future.

GeorgiePeorgie

We can all fall in love with people who we aren't really compatible with. I know it isn't really what you want to hear but maybe you do need to think about separating. Think about what you would ideally like from a partner. Are you in love with that particular person, or are you in love with being in a relationship. I know I learnt the hard way the differences between to two.

My ex partner was my absolute world at the time, but our relationship was not right and subsequently I thank my lucky stars every day I got out when I did. Me and my fiance have been together six years and we compliment each other. We are both very different people. But we really balance each other out. Love is never going to be easy be neither should it be an uphill battle.

If you are very insecure maybe you need someone who is a little more patient and reassuring.

All the best.

pops5588

C_Mababejive wrote: »

keep your problems and insecurities to yourself in future.

I don't think that this is wise advice in a general context.

OP, these issues should be discussed and processed by you, but in a controlled, neutral environment and probably with a therapist of some kind. But no, they should not be brought up when you are drunk and distressed with your partner. It certainly won't help things.

heartbreak_star

Nobody should have to intrinsically change who they are for somebody else. Eventually it becomes impossible to keep up the act - I wish I could say I wasn't talking from experience.

This sounds like an intense and overdramatic relationship. At 6 months you should still both be blissed-out, as mentioned above!

I'm sorry but I really don't think you two are right for each other no matter how many feelings are involved. I hope you manage to get sorted out though.

HBS x

Bazey

You say she is being "off" with you? In what way? Or is this you being insecure again? Have you thought about CBT? It could help you move on from issues that have affected you in the past.

I'm quite certain there are some church based groups too if you ever felt like turning straight...Just saying. Not being homophobic or owt, some of my favourite actresses are lesbian.

heartbreak_star

I agree with Bazey's first paragraph here ^^^!

HBS x

Jenny484

Seriously, why bother and put yourself through this? I have read your other threads as well. If I was you, I'd walk away from this and try to work on myself and my insecurities before entering another relationship.

This is not only down to you, if the relationship is constantly making you anxious, the other person is probably not right for you either.

tea_lover

Going on this and your other posts there don't seem to be any positives to this relationship, for either of you.

Bazey

You never know, the g/f might be really hot stuff!