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fake_smile
fake_smile Posts: 155 Forumite
edited 19 November 2013 at 10:53AM in Marriage, relationships & families
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  • First of all eat. No relationship is worth making yourself poorly over. I know its easy to lose your appetite when your upset but you can't think straight when your brain has no fuel!

    I don't want to offend you but this sounds very intense on both sides. I know you feel like you cannot bear to be without her but I think a few days apart would do you both some good. Have a really good think about what you both want from the relationship and have time to cool off before coming together and having a good chat about it.

    I will say this. You cannot go through life being this scared that the people you care about will leave you. There is no way to feel that paranoid about this without it affecting the relationships.

    If you are insecure maybe you need to realise why you are that way and confront this before going back to your girlfriend.

    All the best, it must be a difficult situation but you will get through it!
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  • fake_smile
    fake_smile Posts: 155 Forumite
    edited 19 November 2013 at 10:53AM
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  • pops5588
    pops5588 Posts: 638 Forumite
    ^^^^ Completely agree with Georgie.

    At 6 months in you guys should still be in the loved-up honeymoon period :) it's the best part of the relationship!! There are obviously some pretty deep, underlying issues here on both sides and it sounds to me like you are both the catalyst to each other's problems. Some distance would definitely do you good.

    Wishing you luck, but definitely eat. Starving yourself won't make you feel any better.
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  • paulineb_2
    paulineb_2 Posts: 6,489 Forumite
    Given that youve started several other threads on your relationship recently, Id have to disagree that everything has been fine. The content of your other threads would suggest that there have been a few problems along the way.

    I actually dont think the pair of you are right for one another given the first post and some of your other thread. You arent eating, shes having panic attacks. Its not really positive.

    And its not a good idea to build your life around one person to the point where being without one another ends up with you both suffering.
  • Wickedkitten
    Wickedkitten Posts: 1,868 Forumite
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  • paulineb wrote: »
    Given that youve started several other threads on your relationship recently, Id have to disagree that everything has been fine. The content of your other threads would suggest that there have been a few problems along the way.

    I actually dont think the pair of you are right for one another given the first post and some of your other thread. You arent eating, shes having panic attacks. Its not really positive.

    And its not a good idea to build your life around one person to the point where being without one another ends up with you both suffering.

    I guess you're right, however we love each other so much, so what can I do? I can't turn that off
  • So are you female?
  • paulineb_2
    paulineb_2 Posts: 6,489 Forumite
    fake_smile wrote: »
    I guess you're right, however we love each other so much, so what can I do? I can't turn that off

    No you cant turn it off, but Id question how much you actually do love one another given that you are being pretty destructive towards one another and its been 6 months now with more than a few blips along the way.

    Lots of people can be insecure, but as youve found out, shove someone away often enough and they might decide to walk. You both have control over your actions.

    Either, you continue and you both get some support or try your best to be a bit more positive to one another. Change things. Stay as you are and realise that you'll just have more of the same in front of you.

    Or decide no matter how much you love one another you just arent right for one another.
  • fake_smile
    fake_smile Posts: 155 Forumite
    edited 19 November 2013 at 10:53AM
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