presents for grandchildren after their Nanny has died

olivetrees

Hi All

I lost my mum to cancer at the end of August. My children aged 7 & 8 (boy and girl) miss her terribly and I was thinking about getting them a little keepsake gift for them from her as a keepsake but I can't think what to get - or even if its a good idea.

I though of maybe a necklace or a personalised plaque saying that she loves them etc.

Would be grateful if anyone had any ideas they could share.

Many thanks

xxxxxxx

Alikay

Is there a something they could each have from Nanny's home? maybe a little ornament, or her special cup? A piece of jewellery or a soft toy she had on her bed? I think this would probably have more meaning to them than a gift you'd bought them in her memory.

Person_one

I'm very sorry for the loss of your mum, but I wouldn't get anything 'from her'. They know she's died, I'm sure they know that she loved them, the idea of a message from 'beyond' is a bit strange to be perfectly honest and I'd worry it might upset them more or start them thinking some funny thoughts.

I think getting them a little something from you in memory of her and as a token to remember her would be nice though. Was there an activity or an interest that she always shared with them? Something that they associate with Nanny's house?

Tiddlywinks

I understand why you want to give them something but don't think this is the way.

As has been said, your children know that Nanny is gone and won't really be able to understand how she can still give them a present.

Is there anything of your mothers that you could pass onto your children so they have something personal?

Ornaments, jewellery or something like that? How about her recipes?

sazzybum

Person_one wrote: »

I'm very sorry for the loss of your mum, but I wouldn't get anything 'from her'. They know she's died, I'm sure they know that she loved them, the idea of a message from 'beyond' is a bit strange to be perfectly honest and I'd worry it might upset them more or start them thinking some funny thoughts.

I think getting them a little something from you in memory of her and as a token to remember her would be nice though. Was there an activity or an interest that she always shared with them? Something that they associate with Nanny's house?

Totally agree with this. When my Beloved Gran died, my Aunties bought me a silver angel pin, and said this was to represent my Gran watching over me.

I don't believe in angels etc, BUT I did appreciate the sentiment (if that makes sense). It was lovely, and when I look at it, I think of my darling Gran.

Counting_Pennies_2

I too don't think it is a good idea to give from her. I also worry that giving them something from her at Christmas might make a nice occasion sombre.

It is likely to feel very odd to you, but to the children Christmas is fun. So instead I would recommend giving them something to remind them of her on her birthday whenever that is.

Have a quiet moment for yourself on Christmas day to sit and remember her, and perhaps a toast to absent friends and especially to granny just before eating the big roast, but apart from that I think you should not do anything further

Caroline_a

How about a photo of her, maybe with them, in a nice frame that they could have in their rooms?

busiscoming2

I am sorry you lost your Mum. but it doesn't seem right buying something 'from' granny. I would let them have something from her home/life that has a meaning for them. Failing that how about a small photo in a frame of her or her and them together?

Soleil_lune

Can only echo what the others have said: just maybe see if you can get a memento of hers, or maybe a framed pic of them with her...

So sorry for your loss BTW I wish you well. It must still be very raw. xxx

MatyMoo

Alikay wrote: »

Is there a something they could each have from Nanny's home? maybe a little ornament, or her special cup? A piece of jewellery or a soft toy she had on her bed? I think this would probably have more meaning to them than a gift you'd bought them in her memory.

So sorry to hear about your Mum Tough times.

The post quoted is what came in to my head straightaway.

When my Mum died we let my three nieces choose something from her home. One has her Good Housekeeping Cook Book, another a favourite picture and the last one a Kaftan that Granny always wore when it was hot.

My cousin wanted a little perpetual calendar that he played with when he came to stay.

Personal things mean so much more and evoke wonderful memories

burnoutbabe

i got something when I was 21 "from" my nan, who died when I was 18. Mum said she'd always said she'd get us girls some pearl earrings, so mum got them on her behalf when I was 21, saying nan had left some money to buy these.

So is there something similar she would have bought for a set age that you could get at that stage?