Guilt about staying in...

belfastgirl23

Can you build in an official 'rest day' at least once a fortnight? This has been my savior really, actually designating days that I don't have to do anything and can snuggle up on the sofa. It makes me more likely to do stuff the other days because I know I have my rest day to look forward to and then I can rest guilt free!

When I'm really busy at work I build in a rest day every weekend!

DigForVictory

We had a quiet weekend, hunkered down doing very little as one child was off with mates. Dynamics all different - we all got some odds & sods done and got a bit more sleep.
Guilt?
Nope. This "a change is as good as a rest" (plus added rest) bit works! Go easier on yourself, one day a fortnight to start with?

tattycath

Don't know if I feel guilt... I work long hours, nights and weekends and have no social life as such, friends are available at weekend when I'm not and I'm available In the week when they're not. They don't live locally, so I have no one I can go round and have a coffee with either. Even when visiting family, it's always a mad dash and don't have time to see most of my close friends then either.
I am very happy with my family, but now I resent my job and lack of social life. It's like a viscious circle.

macaroni

OP, not sure where your guilt is targeted.......do you feel like youre letting yourself down or your friends down?

ozma83

Sorry for the delay... I feel like I'm letting myself down. But also like I am doing things because I feel I 'should'...

Mojisola

ozma83 wrote: »

I think my main reason to feel guilty is that I do want to go out and see friends etc, but most of the time after a long week I just feel too lazy to even get on a bus/train and go out! In short, on a Friday/Saturday night I feel like I should go out, but I'd rather stay home and lounge/watch TV/pamper myself etc. I guess very often I am victim of the 'weekend bully' and feel like there are some things you should do no matter what you really want to do.

I know, I should stop thinking so much and just start being in the present, but I am finding it a bit hard to hammer that into my mind.

I'd get rid of the word "should" for a while. It's your life - do you want to go out or stay in - decide and then enjoy doing doing whichever you've chosen to do.

Part of being grown-up is deciding how you want to live your life - your might have been given a list of "shoulds" when you were a child but you can make your own decisions now.

Decisions can have consequences - if you keep turning down invites, people may stop inviting you out. If you're happy with that, no problem.

If you want to keep up with your friends, then make the effort every couple of weekends but do it because you want to keep the friendship going, not because you "should"!

spiritsfree

Be kind to yourself....and enjoy lazing, as it seems that you are your own worse enemy and have a little voice inside you telling you all sorts of negative things about you.....where did that come from and when did it start ??