crematorium and cars

tea_lover

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

BTW, I heard on Radio 4 a while ago an interview with a lady who'd driven a caravan around the UK with the body of her dead mother in the back, wrapped up in a sheet. Honestly, I'm not making this up, although google isn't helping me find this story.

I remember this too. I think I saw her on a documentary, maybe within the last 18 months or so.

RAS

My friends put dad in a cardboard box, which they then decorated. It went to the burial ground in the back of a rellies estate car and was carried to the grave by rellies. And lowered with the help of one of the on-site staff who knew how to do it safely.

In Ireland it is normal for the dead to go home and be set up in the parlour for all to see and visit to say good bye. Little kids play under the coffin and tuck their own parting gifts in with their relative's body.

Much healthier than the hide it attitude over here, I think.

madbadrob

I have just contacted my local crematorium and they have stated that for a cremation the body must be enclosed in a formal coffin however there are no restrictions on what the coffin is made of however if they are to be buried there is no requirement for the body to be in anything.

Rob

paddedjohn

2 8x4 sheets of ply will be enough to make a decent coffin, throw in some screws and a few lengths of 2x2 for strength and it comes to less than £50.

Molly41

Or go on a course to weave your own coffin made out of willow x

Goldiegirl

I don't think it'd be practical to take the coffin to the crematorium in my own vehicle. It'd never fit in the back of my Yaris.

The death of a loved one is a traumatic and devastating event - I can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to get an undertaker to make the arrangements. The undertakers that arranged my mum and dad's funeral took all the worry and pressure of sorting it out off my shoulders.

All I had to do was grieve - and that was quite enough to be doing, believe me.

McKneff

Hells, bells, I remember it used to be the norm to have the body in the front room, but Ive been married 45 years and I wouldn't want my OH in my front room for a day never mind 10. I wouldn't be able to watch the big screen telly without being distracted. lol.

peachyprice

Goldiegirl wrote: »

The death of a loved one is a traumatic and devastating event - I can't understand why anyone wouldn't want to get an undertaker to make the arrangements. The undertakers that arranged my mum and dad's funeral took all the worry and pressure of sorting it out off my shoulders.

Some people do not want their loved ones funeral to be another churned out corporate affair, they'd rather make the day about the person and their family in their own way.

Goldiegirl

They need to get the right undertakers - a good one will help you get exactly what you feel is required, and not just churn something out on a production line

madbadrob

We will use an undertaker just as a body storage point when my mum should pass away and maybe to take the coffin to the crem but that will be it. no cars no nothing else. The service will be done by myself and my brother. If I can get a certain council to agree there will be no crem either. She will be taken to a certain place and we will use her body for an archaeological experiment. That said mum and I have spoken about this many times and the fact we are both archaeologists (amateur now but I was for a while a professional) has led to this decision.

We will grieve but knowing that mum's body would have been used for the greater good of knowledge will give my brother and I a greater peace of mind that paying thousands to an undertaker for what can at best be described as a run of the mill cremation.

Goldie your views are your own and we have to accept them but just because you don't understand why doesnt mean it is wrong or abhorable

Rob