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Soubrette wrote: »

And just in case you didn't know - there is whole self help thread for anyone who suffers from depression.

Depression Thread II

You aren't alone

Sou

I am a member of the DepressionII thread and you will be most welcome with open arms,Just post as little or alot as you want,Everyone is so supportive on there and you will get some great advice,I have had some great advice from that thread Hope to see anyone there really soon.Hope you begin to feel more yourself again soon Shelly Dont feel alone we have all been there through one thing or another.

Another tip from me is try and contact the Smaritans,they are confidential and you can e-mail them 24/7 jo@smaritans.org or phone them again this is 24/7 on 08457 90 90 90 I have done this in the past and found them to be very supportive too

HTH,Good Luck!

*hugs*

Katie

ChasingButterflies

Hi Shelly,

I just had to post if only to let you know that you are not alone...

I am 27 - my depression started when I was 13.

For about the first 3 years I let it wash over me and it consumed everything - and the only way to stop that is to stand up and fight it. Saying that is eaiser than doing it obviously!!

I also found a couselling service specifically related to dealing with the cause of my depression (and to the ladies at the ayrshire rape crisis centre I will be eternally grateful...) They knew what I had been through and understood how to help me live with what had happend to me which in turn helped me to turn into a survivor of both the abuse and the subsiquent depression.

I wish I could say that the depression was dealt with and never comes back however that hasn't been the case for me. The most important thing is that I can deal with it (most of the time ) because I am well practiced with my coping strategies!!!

I would echo the other comments that say go and see your doctor - they will be able to help you more.

I would also make yourself look into what it is EXACTLY that caused your depression... it sounds to me like you are letting in manifest in things that you can blame yourself for i.e. bad diet/smoking etc all things that you should be able to control... this will only make you feel more depressed - so please stop and look at what happened around 3 years ago - or whenever the depression started - not when it was diagnosed...

Another really important thing you need to do is to look at the people around you - look for those who are supportive to your situation and ensure that you have lots of contact with them. Those who aren't helping you at this difficult time - you really don't need them around.

Even now I find it hard to make "friends" I "know" lots of people - but friends - they are thin on the ground... In saying that - my best friend is my husband - who I met when I was 19. He is so supportive both when I am having good days and when I am having bad days :eek: the bad days are few and far between now though. We have 3 children together and I fight the bad days for them (although I am not suggesting you get pregnant!) more that you find something good to focus on.

Could your bf's behaviour come down to the simple fact that he doesn't know how to help you? and so his coping strategy is to distance himself from you? You really need to talk to him and explain how you feel and see how he deals with that I think.

Please, please, please everything that I have written is my own personal experience - it is no substitute for getting the advice of a GP and so I urge you to get on the phone tomorrow and ask for an emergency appointment.

For today - set yourself a small acheivable task - like doing the ironing (not a small task in this house!) You will see results quickly and will have acheived something!!!

I am rambling now - sorry - I wish I had a magic wand to help you but it takes and awful lot of effort on your part to deal with this - I can't help with that I am afraid.

The good thing about hitting rock bottom is that there is only one way to go - UP!

p.s. sorry for any spelling mistakes :rotfl:

belfastgirl23

I've never been diagnosed with depression but I definitely go through periods like you've described above, where I feel really negative about things, gain weight etc. I've noticed a definite patterh where eating badly and not exercising leads to feeling negative which leads to eating badly and not exercising...so things just go downhill.

My first starting point to pull myself up from this is usually to try to eat healthy stuff alongside the bad stuff - so instead of trying to do it all at once I just try to make sure I'm getting enough fruit and veg. This perks me up enough to start getting some exercise (just a bit of walking, nothing heavy) which gives me another boost to help me tackle the 'not eating bad stuff' part of the plan.

I started going to the gym a couple of years ago too (for the first time at the age of 35, this was HARD and SCARY) and whilst I do drop off for a week or so every now and again I've not felt seriously down since I've been going.

Now when I feel myself starting to get low I remind myself of the difference exercise and eating well makes to how I feel about the world. It's worth watching out for changes to how you feel, it's how you hold onto things...

Good luck, it's one step at a time. And the first step is usually thinking 'how did I get myself into this mess'.

nats3006

ahhhh what a shame, if you ever need to talk i am always here, we are your friends on here so dont ever think you have no friends!!!

alot of people come on here because they dont have many friends i believe, and yes im one of them , cos people are so nice on here!!!