Relationship breakdown whats a fair split?

Soundgirlrocks

cells wrote: »

I thought the rule was if you sre cohabiting as if you were married (ie living together) for more than 3 years the split is treated as if it were a marriage.

So all assets would be roughly halved assuming no kids.

Count yourself lucky he doesn't want half the house

Thankfully no law like that exists and I don't feel particularly lucky

tea_lover

cells wrote: »

I thought the rule was if you sre cohabiting as if you were married (ie living together) for more than 3 years the split is treated as if it were a marriage.

Absolute rubbish.

Soundgirlrocks

DigForVictory wrote: »

It hurts because you still care.

Your family are (reasonably) sharpening fryingpans because you are hurt.

However, it's your flat, he's ended the relationship and he appears to have the joint asset furniture issue sorted.

Now it is time to stop worrying about being fair, close the joint account (in person - be clear the relationship is over and that you want your finances exclusively yours again) & eat that beautifully decorated cake.

The next few months (including Christmas, ouch) will be rough because all your usual shared habits will keep running into an empty space. (Watch the dog's weight. If there's half a supper in the bowl every night, you are overcooking.)

Your friends may be unsure how to behave - initially grieving & then moving on will be understood.

All the best with going forward. It may have lumps & bumps but we'll still be here if you need a place to chortle, or howl, which you don't want to share.

Thank you, I'm dreading Christmas, he will be working on one of our shows so I'll have to provide telephone support. The guys at work have been great and said they will try and deal with any calls that come in from him.

He's coming to move his stuff out a bit sooner than I thought but I guess it will be good to get it over with, at least I'll have more space in the flat.

kjp

I don't have any advice but just wanted to pop in and and tell you it will get better-I know it doesn't feel like it now but I'm 6 months out of my split with the person I thought I was going to grow old with, and I'm doing ok. I still get teary on occasion, but I'm moving forward with life. So big hugs, and keep yourself busy!

POPPYOSCAR

cells wrote: »

I thought the rule was if you sre cohabiting as if you were married (ie living together) for more than 3 years the split is treated as if it were a marriage.

So all assets would be roughly halved assuming no kids.

Count yourself lucky he doesn't want half the house

Where do you get this from?

Even if you are married it does not necessarily mean 50/ 50 split.

Soundgirlrocks

Well, he is coming tonight to start moving his stuff out. I feel physically sick and can't stop shaking it will be the first time I have seen him since the split. I had booked to get my hair cut tonight (booked before any of this happened) so that will kill a few hours before he gets here although Im worried he'll think Ive done it in some vain attempt to win him back :doh:

The bit I'm dreading most is coming home on Thursday he'll be gone and so will all his stuff I don't know if I should ask him what his plans are on Wednesday night he has asked if he can stay at the flat which I've said is ok but I don't know if he is planning on making himself scares or if he wants to talk and I don't know what I want him to do. If he's there and we talk it's going to be really hard to keep my emotions in check and if he goes out I'll be sad and angry because he's avoiding talking! I think it is all the stress and worry about what is going to happen that is making me feel so ill.

I keep hoping he will change his mind even though I know he won't and that makes me feel worse because I keep having to remind myself not to get my hopes up.

neverdespairgirl

cells wrote: »

I thought the rule was if you sre cohabiting as if you were married (ie living together) for more than 3 years the split is treated as if it were a marriage.

So all assets would be roughly halved assuming no kids.

Count yourself lucky he doesn't want half the house

You thought entirely wrongly.