Sharing winnings?

booter

Hi all. I'm having a bit of a dilemma and wondered if anyone can contribute their opinion. Myself and a friend went out last night with our OHs. Whilst out, there was a raffle, and my friend and I bought tickets. I said to her "if we win, we split, right?" (Like we would for Bingo "rules"!) She said "of course". Well, we won :j £500, which although for some isn't much, for me is a lot of cash. So of course, we split it - £250 each. No problem. Until I get home with OH, who then asks if I'm splitting my winnings with him.:cool: Now he and my friend's OH didn't buy a ticket and didn't want to stay for the draw (but we made them ) But he says that as we went out as a foursome, it should be split 4 ways.

Household income/expenses are usually split, so the ticket was bought from the household "pot", and as it's not vast fortunes, my part of the winnings will go back in to the pot - groceries etc - but OH would spend "his" on him (he wants a couple of bits of fishing tackle which we wouldn't be able to afford normally). So I'm reluctant - but on the other hand, if he'd bought a lottery ticket and won, I'd expect him to split the winnings with me.

So what would you do?

tealady

Split the winnings with him and treat yourself with your half. After all you didn't have this cash in your budget yesterday and I feel that winnings such as this are for treats NOT everyday things.

itsanne

I can't imagine not splitting it.
-Especially as the ticket was bought with money from the "pot".

Tropez

booter wrote: »

So I'm reluctant - but on the other hand, if he'd bought a lottery ticket and won, I'd expect him to split the winnings with me.

There's your answer.

Replace what was taken out of the household pot. Split the remainder with him and buy yourself something.

dreamywings1

Personally iif your not in debt i'd put some back into the pot then split the difference that way every ones a winner.

Plus it keeps the other half happy. I wouldnt want a grouchie other half all weekend lol

couponqueen123

with out a doubt i would share ,

but we share everything so it would be the norm here,

give him the money for fishing things poor man lol (aslong as no debt to pay imo more important to pay)


also how would you feel it it was other way round last nite ?bet you would have spent "your" share before it was given (not meant to sound like a dig/nasty) i did read that you would put it back in the house but we all "spend money in our heads " even if we do something eles with it lol

i spend the lotto every week but never win lol

Alikay

OH is rather ambiguous. If you're married (or as good as) then surely everything owned is shared anyway? The bit about you putting your share into the household pot while he spends his on fishing tackle kind of explains his thinking though.....he wants some cash for himself, and you can go "treat yourself" to bog rolls and and a TV licence: The selfish git!

LEJC

personally I would use the £250 as "treat" money....split it with whomever you want and buy whatever you want with it but dont use it on houshold bills etc.

However you use it is your choice its quite right that its a windfall that you didnt have last week but have now....just dont end up promising it away to others and treating them without a little something for yourself!

hgotsparkle

Yes I would be inclined to split it, though I know full well that OH would suggest we use it for something for the both of us, or put it aside for a holiday.

Errata

Split it, life's too short to mark everything "that's mine and that's yours".

Kynthia

Why is some of the money going back in the pot? Are you short and is it needed? I assume you live together, so put an amount back in the pot if it's needed and split the rest between you for fun/treat. He shouldn't have more 'treat' money than you but you should also learn to enjoy a bonus like this.