Sharing winnings?

NAR

Ask him how much his fishing bits costs, maybe £50 or £75. Say you will spend the same amount on yourself and put the balance back in the pot. That way everyone wins!

booter

Thank you all for your input! I know it's the right thing to do to share, and as some of you have so rightly said, if the situation were reversed I'd be hopping mad if he didn't share! I suppose my only niggle is that I have to really badger him to get him to put his contribution to the household "pot"! And then he can never quite believe how much is spent on household expenses! We've don't have a joint account (he has a problem with them due to an ex who cleaned out their joint account) so every month I have to steel myself to prise money out of him. I sometimes feel like I'm having to justify/account for every little bit spent. I thought putting the winnings back into the pot may give me a little respite

We don't have debt (luckily) (other than mortgage) and whilst we don't have a lot left over at the end of the month, as I'm very careful with spending, we just about manage.

So, I'm going to do as some have suggested, and treat it as the windfall it is and not put my half back into the pot. I know this sounds daft, but I'm really going to struggle to "treat" myself :oI'm so used to being frugal! OH will have no problems buying his fishing tackle though

booter

Person_one wrote: »

If you don't have debt and aren't struggling to make ends meet, then what's the point of a nice win f it's not going to bring a bit if pleasure?

Yes, you're absolutely right!

nom_de_plume wrote: »

Spend it all on yourself and tell him 'too late son, it's all gone'. :-)

Ha - can't see that one working :rotfl:

dreamywings1 wrote: »

Personally iif your not in debt i'd put some back into the pot then split the difference that way every ones a winner.

Plus it keeps the other half happy. I wouldnt want a grouchie other half all weekend lol

:rotfl:Ah, you know my OH then :rotfl:

paulineb_2

booter wrote: »

Thank you all for your input! I know it's the right thing to do to share, and as some of you have so rightly said, if the situation were reversed I'd be hopping mad if he didn't share! I suppose my only niggle is that I have to really badger him to get him to put his contribution to the household "pot"! And then he can never quite believe how much is spent on household expenses! We've don't have a joint account (he has a problem with them due to an ex who cleaned out their joint account) so every month I have to steel myself to prise money out of him. I sometimes feel like I'm having to justify/account for every little bit spent. I thought putting the winnings back into the pot may give me a little respite

We don't have debt (luckily) (other than mortgage) and whilst we don't have a lot left over at the end of the month, as I'm very careful with spending, we just about manage.

So, I'm going to do as some have suggested, and treat it as the windfall it is and not put my half back into the pot. I know this sounds daft, but I'm really going to struggle to "treat" myself :oI'm so used to being frugal! OH will have no problems buying his fishing tackle though

I think you need to sort out the issues with money as well as this issue.

Im assuming that the ticket that you bought didnt cost very much

If hes making your life difficult due to the way hes been treated before then you need to deal with this, you shouldnt have to prise money out of him for household expenses

It sounds like reading between the lines you have less money to spend at the end of the month than he does because he has issues putting what needs to be put into the household budget

Limey

If you have to chase your OH for expenses every month have you considered getting him to set up a standing order/DD for it?

You could set up a joint account just for that kind of thing so he retains some control and you don't have to badger him all the time.

rach_k

You said you'd expect your OH to share his winnings if he won... but would he actually do it? It sounds like he has some issues sharing his money with you/the household but no issues with you sharing with him!

I would probably split it three ways - some for you, some for him and a bit for the joint account for something nice for the house, a meal out or something. I would also sort out you both putting money into a joint account each month. When I was working, OH and I used to put the same percentage of our earnings into the pot. He earned a lot more than me so he paid in a lot more but it seemed fair enough and worked well.

Kynthia

Sounds like the splitting of bills and household expenses needs addressing. Maybe sit him down, discuss the issue and then ask for suggestions as to how you can both solve the problem. Hopefully if he helps come up with the solution, rather than be told it by you, he will actually do it. Suggestions could include a monthly standing order, a joint account just for household costs that you each transfer an amount into each month, putting certain bills in his name to be paid from his account, etc.

tinkerbell28

I don't see why you should spilt it, just for him to treat himself and you pay yours towards the household bills.

Just because you feel it is worth it to get the "respite" from him. Having to justify every little thing and prising money out of him to get bill money?

Sounds a catch.

bagpussbear

If it's come from the household 'pot' then I think it should be shared, but instead of maybe splitting the actual cash, why not go out for a lovely meal and drinkie and spend the rest on something for the house, like some furniture or something for your home that you both can enjoy?

pinkladyof66

i would defo share I had a £100 one off pay rise last month and split that with hubbie so we had £50 each to spend... he earns a little less than me and we dont do shared account we just split expenditure.