Would you call the police on neighbors if you hear domestic issues/violence ?

spender

Yes if I thought violence was involved I would call the police. They will respect your privacy. Where domestic violence is concerned the victim may not call police themselves but if a third party calls police then the perpetrator cannot blame them iyswim. And yes a lot of people do not press charges and will live with the situation especially if they have children as they are the ones normally forced to leave the home, leaving the kids toys behind, the schools behind etc. Maybe one day the law will reflect the fact that the victim has to do all the moving etc. I rather call the police than to listen to somebody having 10 barrels of **** kicked out of them.

mentaljessie

Although not the same thing, I called the police in a similar incident, when I heard the next door neighbour smashing the kitchen up. He had previously been round to all us neighbours asking to borrow money. The neighbour was a single parent Dad whom was a known drug addict. Essex Police smashed down his door within 15 minutes and had retreived the child to a place of safety.

On the other hand Dorset police phoned me in Essex, asking me to retreive my Sister and her 3 kids after they had removed them from the family home after her Husband had beaten her with a variety of saucepans and smashed 2 picture frames over her head.

Needless to say it was a tight squeeze at the Mother-in-Laws for the next week whilst we could place her in a shelter, as I lived in a 1 bedroomed flat. It's the best thing I ever did, I knew I couldn't break the cycle of abuse. My Sister needed to feel safe in a community of likeminded individuals. This is something I couldn't ever provide.

Making that call from listening to my Sisters friends is sometimes all that is needed.

kizkiz

I get called to possible domestics from neighbours on a regular basis. It's very common these days, and not an issue

As for the privacy thing. Just don't give your name or address. We can't see info that isn't there and !!!! up by knocking on your door.

Rev

Earlier in the year there was a couple who lived over the road. They fought constantly according to the woman who lives next door. And she never called the police.

I can understand why, she's elderly and lives alone. No doubt didn't want them to know she reported them.

Sadly a few months back the husband beat the wife to death. After hearing about that I have to say I'd call the police.

FBaby

I would hope I could tell the difference between a huge row and violence. In the first instance, there would be a lot of shouting and screaming on both sides, in the second, the shouting/screaming being one sided, with shouts of distress/fear, asking to stop etc...

My hubby and I rarely have rows, but when we do, it is very heated, shouting, door banging etc... That's the way we are. I would be very annoyed if someone called the police because it doesn't sound like violence, just a noisy row.

emweaver

yalena10 wrote: »

Their gas meter is on the ground floor which is in my area. Their is only one way to access, which is to go through my entrance .

Who checks their meter at night?They will need a torch to see anything as their is no light

I was annoyed to see the note this morning .

Is it a prepayment meter? If so they may have ran out and needed to top up.

I wouldn't ring the police, although its anonymous they would probably guess it was you. They are only arguing unless she starts appearing with bruises etc. I dont think arguing is against the law and everybody argues.

emweaver

Rev wrote: »

Earlier in the year there was a couple who lived over the road. They fought constantly according to the woman who lives next door. And she never called the police.

I can understand why, she's elderly and lives alone. No doubt didn't want them to know she reported them.

Sadly a few months back the husband beat the wife to death. After hearing about that I have to say I'd call the police.

That is very unfortunate incident but does not mean every couple who argue will go onto kill the other.

Surely it is a waste of police time calling them out over a silly argument.

balletshoes

hazyjo wrote: »

Unless I had reason to think she was being hit or attacked, I definitely wouldn't call the police. If it's screaming and shouting and slamming doors, it just sounds like a major row.

Jx

both of them screaming shouting and throwing their stuff around? nope, i wouldnt have called the police for that.

i would contact your landlord about this strange arrangement regarding their gas meter though - of course you're not going to keep your door unlocked!

Fluff15

Regarding the gas meter issue, I would pop up there and talk to them. Explain you didn't realise that was how they got access, but you feel safer with the door locked, so if possible offer them your mobile number so they can text/call you if they need to access it at night. I've topped up my electric meter at odd times of the night because I don't realise it's running low, and it runs out during cooking dinner or something and I'm plunged into darkness.

Going up and speaking to them, you might start to build a relationship with them and be able to gauge the situation better. If they're non-responsive and rude, only then I'd speak to the landlord about getting it moved.

The couple above me are the sort of couple that argue over everything. When I first moved in, I was worried too, but I believe now arguing loudly, swearing and slamming doors is just what they do; but if I ever felt it got too bad I would call the police anonymously. Only you heard the argument so if it feels wrong, ring the police next time. If it's nothing, they might wind down their arguments as they didn't realise how loud they're being.

FatVonD

A few years ago I called the Police once when my upstairs neighbours were fighting. I rang them first and warned them I would if it didn't stop and it didn't so I did. On another occasion I knocked and invited her out to the pub just to get her out of the flat (she answered the door covered in urine, I still don't know whose.) Thankfully they have split up now but neither was blameless and together they were just toxic.