Would you call the police on neighbors if you hear domestic issues/violence ?

paulineb_2

yalena10 wrote: »

Good point. I haven't though about that.

The landlord owes both properties and in ground floor, there is no card meter. I assumed they wouldn't have it upstairs .

It could be .

I felt fear for her. The guy is big and she's petite and chubby. I wonder if the lady was bigger(taller), whether i would have felt fear for her. I know size can be deceiving.

Why dont you speak to the landlord about the gas meter. Although I see youve started another thread about that issue.

If you really did feel fear for her, why didnt you do anything about it?

thorsoak

I'm another who would call the police - I would hate to wake up one morning and find out that there had been a serious incident which, had I called the police, could have been avoided.

As for the "leave the door unlocked for access to the gas meter" - I would call the letting agency/landlord to check whether or not access was required 24/7 for the meter! Surely such a thing would be shown on your tenancy agreement.

Voyager2002

Meter or no meter, I would not want people I scarcely know to have access to my flat. I would send a polite note in reply, giving my email address and saying that I would be pleased to accompany them or the meter reader at a mutually convenient time, so long as it was arranged in advance.

On the violence: yes, I would have called the police, but perhaps not given my name. A crime was being committed and the police could have taken action, if only to let the people involved know how serious the matter was.

(I continue to regret NOT calling the police when I heard very strange noised from the house next door to mine. My wife was sure that the owners were in: it turned out that they were not, and a professional burglary was taking place. At least three other houses in the road received similar treatment later, including mine.)

good_advice

no need to write x2 posts in different area's of the boards saying the same thing.

hazyjo

Unless I had reason to think she was being hit or attacked, I definitely wouldn't call the police. If it's screaming and shouting and slamming doors, it just sounds like a major row.

Jx

yalena10

paulineb wrote: »

Why dont you speak to the landlord about the gas meter. Although I see youve started another thread about that issue.

If you really did feel fear for her, why didnt you do anything about it?

Because I don't know her. I've only had 1 superficial conversation with her. Also i don't know their relationship.
Also , This is a first experience for me.
Remember they did stop, so by the time the police gets here, there is nothing.

I don't whether there is another thread where you general stuff. My mistakes . I should have done it separately . Sorry

skylight

Yes I have called the police and also intervened (which surprised the police as they told me no-one ever knocks on doors, they just call the police).

aileth

I would have called the Police without a shadow of a doubt, because I'd like to think if it was happening to me, someone would also do the same.

I would probably go round with OH if we actually witnessed anything when we knew he was out to offer support or help her get out.

duchy

I wouldn't call the police for a fifteen minute row
However I (and most of my neighbours) used to routinely call the police as my previous neighbours used to have really violent drink and drug fuelled rows that usually escalated into violence (on both sides). At the worst point one or other of them spent a night in the cells every week to seperate them. The day they moved - four different neighbours stopped me in the street to comment how glad I must be they had gone and how it was bad enough just living in the same street let alone next door.

I used to knock on their door fairly often as I worked from home on the phones and if it got too loud I had concerns it could be heard by customers...... and tell them to please keep it down as I was working (tell not ask)..... they'd usually shut up and would apologise sometimes it'd stop -othertimes it'd kick off again within 10 minutes but because I "knew" them on a "saying hello to neighbours" basis it seemed to help keep them quiet for a bit.

One row lasting 10 or 15 minutes -since August doesn't sound like domestic abuse or habitual ....it just sounds like a row. Living in a flat - you hear rows sometimes -it's a fact of flat living. If this is a one off I'd do nothing.

My fiance is a shouter when he loses his temper....he rants and raves and it does sound scary -but it doesn't last long and he'd never be violent. I could imagine a neighbour like you thinking all sorts especially if they can't see me rolling my eyes at him and ignoring the tantrum . He'd be mortified if someone called the police thinking he was abusing me.

Don't worry too much just yet -see how things pan out-it may have been a one off and never happens again. Just because the guy is big doesn't mean he's violent .... often the total opposite.

quickq

Ye sounds like a row, if both parties are giving it especially.

Peopledont usually get involved, because both parties will turn on the good samaritan as a common target, usually this is about getting a load off, either physically, emotionally or both. stress is serious, and needs to be dealt with in a productive manner.