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michaela888203

Also to add to that, I am very happy for him winning the money, and hope that he would put something aside for her when she is older.

However, what I dont like is his wife, who is the cause of them no longer seeing each other, rubbing it in my daughters facing so to speak. All the holidays and money in the world they are welcome too, my daughter's happiness, our relationship and me being completely involved in her life in priceless.

seven-day-weekend

Sorry if people have appeared harsh. I think we get a little hardened by people coming on this forum trying all sorts of money-grabbing (not money-saving).

Please don't leave and not come back, we are quite nice really!

liam8282

Some harsh comments, seems a perfectly reasonable question to ask.

I don't have any experience of CSA, but I would imagine it was based on income and savings, which is all the OP was really asking. Would the £18k be assessed when calculating the CSA.

This has been answered, not sure why some people have got carried away with the negativity.

supersaver2

I remember my Dad winning a small sum on the Pools many years ago when I had just turned 16 and was at College. My Mum and Dad went on a cruise and I didn't get a penny, not really any different in my opinion!

If you are struggling for money though OP you should use the maintenance that your ex pays you to pay towards your child's keep, that's what it's for surely? Not to save up if you are struggling now.

Csa_Survivor

michaela888203 wrote: »

Apologise for annoying anyone, that wasnt my intention in anyway. I in fact only asked the question on the back of what someone else had said.

Yes he does pay CSA money, to which every month I put in a bank account for my daughter when she gets older, and believe me if I could of afforded it, I wouldnt of taken him to the csa in the first place, as I dont want anything from him

No need to apologise michaela888203, not as far as I am concerned anyway, I cant speak for anyone else though! If you have got something to say then it can only be good for you to have that release and ask people for advice, the only trouble is though you probably alienated at least 50% of your audience with that particular question! Surely you must be aware that most of the NRP'S that contribute on here do so because they are in dire situations themselves, not only financially but also emotionally due to access issues, and as such, how much sympathy do you really think they will have for someone now wanting to effectively pick the pocket of the ex by trying to claim a chunk of their good fortune?
You are funny, I don't know whether to laugh or cry, you have said you don't mean to upset anyone but then go on to say you are putting the money in a bank account for your daughter when she is older, thereby winding people up even more, this time probably a few PWC's in the process too!
Forgive me if I am wrong, but I personally was under the impression that the many thousands of pounds I have contributed to my childs upkeep over the last many many years was given with the understanding its purpose was for day to day living expenses for my child, not so the ex could put it in a giant piggy bank!
The PWC'S that contribute on here get a hard time from a lot of people on here, being called scroungers or lazy workshy etc.., then you come along and suggest you can afford to put that money away in a separate bank account. Ha ha ha, I bet that went down as well as a rattlesnake in a lucky dip with all the PWC'S desperately trying to get money from the NRP with the reason that they cant manage, because according to yourself you must be doing well out of it to be able to afford to do that!
Seriously though, as I touched on earlier I realise you have had a rough time, so I wish you well and look forward to the
"National Foot In Mouth Awards" for 2013!, I believe it will be a close run thing between yourself and Gigglepig ( ha ha, hello Gigglepig) from what I have been reading the last day or two.

clearingout

supersaver2 wrote: »

I remember my Dad winning a small sum on the Pools many years ago when I had just turned 16 and was at College. My Mum and Dad went on a cruise and I didn't get a penny, not really any different in my opinion!

If you are struggling for money though OP you should use the maintenance that your ex pays you to pay towards your child's keep, that's what it's for surely? Not to save up if you are struggling now.

I'm not sure this is the same thing. The politics of separated parenting are complex. No parent would like to feel that their child is being pushed out or getting less or being treated differently to any other child in either their household or the household of their other parent. It isn't necessarily about money - time, food, clothing, toys....are all areas of discontent amongst separated parents for many, many reasons. If the father in this case is splashing the cash and making sure that the children in his household benefit from that (be it holidays, extra treats, money saved for their futures) it is reasonable to ask if this is being extended fairly across all his biological children. It is also reasonable to be angry or upset if it's felt that things aren't fair and using the CSA to even up the score a bit is really the only thing a PWC who feels things aren't fair has.

There was nothing at all wrong with the original question and is a question I suspect many PWC would ask in the same situation. Indeed, I suspect many NRPs would ask the same of an inheritence or win in the PWC's household but refuse to admit that here for fear of being labelled 'money grabbing'. It's nothing at all to do with wanting money - it's about things being fair.

supersaver2

clearingout wrote: »

I'm not sure this is the same thing. The politics of separated parenting are complex. No parent would like to feel that their child is being pushed out or getting less or being treated differently to any other child in either their household or the household of their other parent. It isn't necessarily about money - time, food, clothing, toys....are all areas of discontent amongst separated parents for many, many reasons. If the father in this case is splashing the cash and making sure that the children in his household benefit from that (be it holidays, extra treats, money saved for their futures) it is reasonable to ask if this is being extended fairly across all his biological children. It is also reasonable to be angry or upset if it's felt that things aren't fair and using the CSA to even up the score a bit is really the only thing a PWC who feels things aren't fair has.

There was nothing at all wrong with the original question and is a question I suspect many PWC would ask in the same situation. Indeed, I suspect many NRPs would ask the same of an inheritence or win in the PWC's household but refuse to admit that here for fear of being labelled 'money grabbing'. It's nothing at all to do with wanting money - it's about things being fair.

The OP doesn't mention any new children though? Just the wife and himself on holiday so no children being treated unfairly or differently. He pays his CSA and he has no obligation to spend that money on anybody that he doesn't want to. Seems very similar to my situation, my parents still provided food, shelter etc as I was 16 but I didn't benefit from my Dad's win and I actually didn't expect to even at 16 years old.

rozmister

Csa_Survivor wrote: »

No need to apologise michaela888203, not as far as I am concerned anyway, I cant speak for anyone else though! If you have got something to say then it can only be good for you to have that release and ask people for advice, the only trouble is though you probably alienated at least 50% of your audience with that particular question! Surely you must be aware that most of the NRP'S that contribute on here do so because they are in dire situations themselves, not only financially but also emotionally due to access issues, and as such, how much sympathy do you really think they will have for someone now wanting to effectively pick the pocket of the ex by trying to claim a chunk of their good fortune?
You are funny, I don't know whether to laugh or cry, you have said you don't mean to upset anyone but then go on to say you are putting the money in a bank account for your daughter when she is older, thereby winding people up even more, this time probably a few PWC's in the process too!
Forgive me if I am wrong, but I personally was under the impression that the many thousands of pounds I have contributed to my childs upkeep over the last many many years was given with the understanding its purpose was for day to day living expenses for my child, not so the ex could put it in a giant piggy bank!
The PWC'S that contribute on here get a hard time from a lot of people on here, being called scroungers or lazy workshy etc.., then you come along and suggest you can afford to put that money away in a separate bank account. Ha ha ha, I bet that went down as well as a rattlesnake in a lucky dip with all the PWC'S desperately trying to get money from the NRP with the reason that they cant manage, because according to yourself you must be doing well out of it to be able to afford to do that!
Seriously though, as I touched on earlier I realise you have had a rough time, so I wish you well and look forward to the
"National Foot In Mouth Awards" for 2013!, I believe it will be a close run thing between yourself and Gigglepig ( ha ha, hello Gigglepig) from what I have been reading the last day or two.

If the OP spent the money from dad on the living costs for her daughter and then put the money from her own bank account she saves into a savings account for the daughter would that be acceptable? I don't know why it's a problem whether the money directly or indirectly goes on the child - without the maintenance the Mum would pay for all the living costs herself and put aside no money for the child, with maintenance she has surplus which she wisely saves for her daughter's future. Where the pounds contributed by the NRP end up is irrelevant as long as the mother doesn't see her child go without whilst claiming maintenance.

FBaby

Your post is confusing. On one hand you say that you think you should be getting some of his winning for your daughter because she is costing more money as a teenager, at the same time, you say that you are putting all the money towards her future. So why is it so important that he should too put money aside for her future?

I don't think you should be entitled to any of his winning, but equally, I find it so sad that he felt he had to keep this away from his daughter and wouldn't want to use some of it to take her on holiday or treat her in other ways.

Another case of bitter parents, an pwc trying to get as much as she gets and an nrp trying to give as little as possible and yet another child in between who misses out.

CSAworkerx

Im astounded at these responses, Some people in this thread need to bloody get off there high horse im disgusted with some of the replys.

This person asked a question and just got abused, To answer it, No your not entitled as its only 18k, but variations have happend in the past when a sudden mass of money has occured.

I apologise needlessly for some of these responses, And i wish you luck in the future.