Christmas gifts for other half

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paulineb_2

You know her a bit after 6 months surely. How about asking her.

Personally I would discuss it and set a limit on what you buy one another to save one person spending loads and the other not so much.

Mojisola

Try talking to her!

LEJC

As unromantic as it sounds you need to talk to her about her expectations for christmas....

When we were first together we set a budget...in fact we still do,but it seems the budget gets smaller and smaller and the presents sillier!

Baically we used to give 10 presents within a budget...and occaisionally if we had extra money a seperate bigger present.

if you both agree what to do then neither of you will end up feeling that one had bought more than the other.

Mojisola

fake_smile wrote: »

Anyway, I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months and we are spending most of xmas day together (she will wake up at mine, have breakfast etc then drive home to see family and exchange gifts then come back to mine to exchange gifts and dinner etc).

Now...I haven't a clue what to get her, I barely know her.

I'm starting to feel old - been together 6 months, assume from the other comment that you're sleeping with her but you hardly know her?

As LEJC says - plan what you're going to do together. Different families have different Christmas traditions so use that as a conversation starter about how you two, as a couple, are going to arrange your Christmas - upper spending limit, number of gifts, one big thing, lots of little things, etc.

ciderwithrosie_2

Hmmm, maybe you don't understand the female mind very well. You wouldn't want her to feel bad by spending a lot of money on her?? I certainly wouldn't feel bad about it, if I only spent £50 on you and you spent £500 on me, I'd like to feel spoilt.

You must know some stuff about her surely? Favourite colours, films, music? Is she girly or more practical? Does she like
knick-knack/ornamental things or more minimalist? What hobbies/interests does she have? If not, you best start listening quick!

I would be gutted if my boyfriend said he barely knew me after 6 months together!

paulineb_2

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Hmmm, maybe you don't understand the female mind very well. You wouldn't want her to feel bad by spending a lot of money on her?? I certainly wouldn't feel bad about it, if I only spent £50 on you and you spent £500 on me, I'd like to feel spoilt.

You must know some stuff about her surely? Favourite colours, films, music? Is she girly or more practical? Does she like
knick-knack/ornamental things or more minimalist? What hobbies/interests does she have? If not, you best start listening quick!

I would be gutted if my boyfriend said he barely knew me after 6 months together!

Its a same sex relationship.

Mojisola

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Hmmm, maybe you don't understand the female mind very well. You wouldn't want her to feel bad by spending a lot of money on her?? I certainly wouldn't feel bad about it, if I only spent £50 on you and you spent £500 on me, I'd like to feel spoilt.

We're not all the same. I would be upset it this happened.

CH27

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Hmmm, maybe you don't understand the female mind very well. You wouldn't want her to feel bad by spending a lot of money on her?? I certainly wouldn't feel bad about it, if I only spent £50 on you and you spent £500 on me, I'd like to feel spoilt.

You must know some stuff about her surely? Favourite colours, films, music? Is she girly or more practical? Does she like
knick-knack/ornamental things or more minimalist? What hobbies/interests does she have? If not, you best start listening quick!

I would be gutted if my boyfriend said he barely knew me after 6 months together!

I would be mortified.

Toto

Mojisola wrote: »

We're not all the same. I would be upset it this happened.

Me too, I'd hate it, but I'd not be at all bothered if it were the other way round.

I agree with the others OP you should have a chat with her to sort out budgets and the sort of things she likes. How about discussing things that have made her happy at Christmas time, the things she likes, any traditions etc. You could ask if she prefers one big present or more smaller things, what were the best and worst presents she's ever had. That way it makes it a little more romantic than just saying 'how much are you going to spend on me?'

Mojisola

And some families open some of their presents on Christmas Eve, others open the little things in the morning and main presents after the Christmas dinner, and other permutations so there's lots to discuss - the amount you're both spending can just crop up as part of the discussion.