moving and regretting it - practicalities of moving again so soon

aliby21

Hi everyone.

I moved here three months ago, it was meant to be my home for next 15-20 years, but I'm really not sure I've done the right thing. I knew the compromise I was making and convinced myself it would be ok, but now I am here I don't think I can live with it. I am seriously considering moving on again.

So what are the things I need to think about, practically? I know I will lose money, with all the moving costs. I've now also got all my money tied up in this house - when I bought I was a cash buyer. So should I look to move to rented? Should I do any work at all on the house (had great plans for things I wanted to do, esp as last owners specialised in cheap and tacky). What can I do to mitigate the inevitable bad impression on potential purchaser of me moving on again so soon? What else do I need to think about?

Basically, is there any strategy to help minimise the negatives of a bad situation?

any helpful advice welcome .....

Kynthia

3 months isn't long, it could be post move blues. Any big change like a new job or relocation requires an adjustment and takes time. Yôu may have had high expectations and real life isn't matching up. Give it a few more months and see how you feel before doing anything irreversible. In the meantime try to make the place feel like home. What can you do that isn't expensive but will have an impact to you, like painting the rooms nice colours? Also what can be done that you would reap the benefit but also should you decide to sell next year will also add value to the property?

Try to enjoy the place, have friends over, have a fireworks night party in the garden, ask their opinions. Good luck

bagpussbear

I'm in a similar situation like you - moved here last November but don't like it mainly because of very trying neighbours.

What's the reason why you don't like where you are OP?

moneyistooshorttomention

I'll echo that 3 months is a very short timespan in which to make a definitive decision as to whether you have done the right thing.

I'm mentally giving myself a year to feel totally "at home" where I have just moved to (mind you it's a new area as well in my case) and I knew that "This would be it from here on in..." when I moved here...

What is the problem/compromise you are finding it difficult to live with? Is it the house itself/the neighbours/the area?

Ivana_Tinkle

I've been living in my forever dream home for over a year now and I still don't feel 100% settled in. It does take a while.

Stuff like getting rid of bits of decor that you really hate, even if it's not the most logical way of sorting things out and you'll have to redo things when you decorate properly, might help. As will banning yourself from Rightmove. But it's difficult to really advise without knowing what it is about your current place that you can't live with.

xylophone

And if you move and discover after three months that you don't care for that place either?

Better buckle down, remove the cheap and tacky and remodel the house to your liking?

Soleil_lune

I agree Aliby. 3 months is too soon to think about bailing.

That said though; when we moved into a house in the mid 90s, I was not happy from the onset really... One thing after another went wrong that we funnily enough did not notice when we viewed the property, and on the third day, (after we moved in,) we had a spat with a neighbour over something that was built 5 years BEFORE we moved in. He was asking us to remove the 10 X 10 shed that was at the side of our garden as it 'blocked the sun out' for him. He never said anything to the previous owners!

Many other things made me not quite happy there too, and my OH felt the same.
I never was happy there really and didn't ever settle. When we eventually did move, I wondered why I had stayed so long. So if the feeling is bad after 3 months, the chances are that it's possible you will not feel any different in 6 months/12 months/18 months...

Re; Xy's comments... Sometimes it is not about your decor etc: you can just not feel happy there. Period. And nothing you do makes any difference.
I wish you well.

Perelandra

It's very common to feel like this when you've bought a house. As has been said above, I'd give it more time.

Did you have a house-warming party when you moved in? There's a good reason for these- they help make you feel like your new house is "home".

hildosaver

Give it a year at least, takes time to settle in a new home and there is no guarantee if you did move again soon that the same thing wouldn't happen.

aliby21

Thanks people, good to know others have doubts after moving too. My problem is the road. I knew it was busy, but thought I could get used to it, and I've tried I really have. But then last weekend my cat got run over. I know, please don't say anything about my stupidity, I am beating myself up enough already. I can't believe that I thought my animal's safety was something I could compromise on, I should've put that top of my house search priorities. My neighbour cheerfully tells me she's had three run over in ten years. I can't face that, and I don't want to live without them - yes I am a mad cat woman - so moving again looks like it is on the cards

Soleil_lune

Doesn't sound good Aliby We have cats, and a home in a cul de sac or on a road that was very quiet was essential. Sorry about your cat.