Two nights away without DS?

DigForVictory

What a wonderful idea!
Parent time is a rare and cherished thing & 48 hours of it, even less travelling, is an opportunity to be seized (carefully - you don't want to damage the donors!), planned for and then enjoyed to the hilt.

In London, not only can you catch a show, admire the free stuff, you can also get in a bit of totally sneaky Christmas present shopping as well as bringing a "Thank You!" present back for your parents.

Keep your mobiles charged but whatever you do, do not phone home "to check" - call at an agreed time and leave them to have fun. Let them call you if they need or want to!

Of course you'll miss the little coot. Just drizzle over each other and then wash your faces & go & do the next fun thing.

(Make a list of things you wish you could share & plan to do them another time - even if it is only riding in a mirrored elevator...)

As for anyone who does the "Oh I could never", smile til your teeth ache at the jealousy masquerading as devoted motherhood. Noone wins any prizes for self immolation, and the children do not usually thank their parents for such 24/7 care.
(Actually, children don't say thank you to their parents very often at all, but some children leave the nest & others flee it.)

CH27

Go for it.
You will feel a bit odd the first time you do it but make the most of it.

Northern78

duchy wrote: »

You'll always get other Mums having an opinion (I'm thinking about your circle of Mums with babies the same age). Some will be envious others may say "Oh *I* could NEVER leave *my* baby" <eyeroll> but ultimately so long as the baby is in a safe and loving enviroment they will be fine...... You are another matter entirely however and may drive everyone nuts ringing up every five minutes

It's not too soon for the baby....but only you will know if it is too soon for you !

Go if you want ....but if you don't...don't feel pressured to go.

(In your shoes I'd go-he's nearly two and so long as he's not going through a clingy stage will be fine .....but everyone is different )

First time we planned a weekend away we had a "dry run" a couple of weeks before and he stayed one night with my parents.....all went well so two nights wasn't such a leap (both for him and me ) If he's never stayed with them before (overnight) a trial run might be useful ?

I guess that's in the back of my mind, if I mention it to someone and I get the whole "you left your son for 2 nights just to go away??".

He has stayed over for 1 night a couple of times and on both these occasions he was fine. When we picked him up the following day he ran over to us, gave us both a kiss and a love and then went back playing with Grandad.

I think i'm one of those people who over thinks things, I have to go through every possible scenario in my head, one of life's born worriers!

Moggins_2

I've left my 17 month old overnight a few times with his grandparents/aunts. He has a fantastic time with them and is spoilt with days out and treats he wouldn't normally have. In two weeks he is staying home with hubby while I go to Spain for 3 nights with my mum. I'm terrified of being in another country without him but I don't feel guilty as he will be fine with his dad, feel mire guilty leaving hubby to cope alone haha

duchy

One of the things about parenting is that everyone has different ideas and you have to learn to say "This is right for us" it may not be right for another family but that isn't your problem

Bedtimes, punishment, diet , types of toys etc etc there's always someone who thinks it's their way or no way ......best to smile at them and nod.....and totally ignore what they say and do what you feel is right !

gingin_2

My Husband stays in London, too. My children have been staying at my parents since they were babies and I love nothing more than staying in London with him and my children love alternating between staying with my parents and coming to London as well.

It's healthy for us and healthy for children to form bonds with Grandparents and to know that Mum and Dad are allowed to take time out for themselves sometimes as well. You are like me and lucky that we have parents who are willing and sprightly enough to look after the children. I hope I can do exactly the same for my children when my time comes!

double_mummy

let them build a good link with grandparents and other relatives my DD has been going to the north for up to a week at a time to stay with my relatives since she was about 28 months she is up there at the moment

strong family bonds is a positive thing for your LO and strong bonds in your relationship are amazing as well

go for 2 days in a couple of months try 3 months and you maybe able to get a long weekend holiday by next summer

peachyprice

Oh, one word of warning;

Our daughter was made on one such trip to Paris:D

bylromarha

Moggins wrote: »

I've left my 17 month old overnight a few times with his grandparents/aunts. He has a fantastic time with them and is spoilt with days out and treats he wouldn't normally have. In two weeks he is staying home with hubby while I go to Spain for 3 nights with my mum. I'm terrified of being in another country without him but I don't feel guilty as he will be fine with his dad, feel mire guilty leaving hubby to cope alone haha

I went to Cambodia for 2 weeks when DS was 3 and DD was 18 months old. That feeling of being a plane ride away is a little scary. OH did a daily blog for me, so I didn't feel I was missing out.

The kids health typically chose my time away to take a knock, but they were fine, OH was the perfect dad and coped well with the carpet cleaning and sheet washing that was necessary...

tea_lover

My parents left my sister with our grandparents for a week when she was 9 months old when they went on holiday. I never spent the night at my grandparents' house and that's the thing that I remember (30+ years later). I was jealous of the fun time she'd had at nan's, and she certainly wasn't feeling abandoned.

Go for it, have a great time.... your son certainly will